Many friends say I am stupid and say I shouldn’t give up that relationship so easily. But, what can I do? I will ask them to explain? Ask for their understanding?
confession: Manyue
(pseudonym)
Age: 26 years old
Occupation: Staff
(I)
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I am Xingtai people, I have been to Shijiazhuang for a few years. I used to do sales in the same unit . I am very strong and demanding on myself no matter what I do, so my job is excellent.
Last November, my aunt introduced him to me. At first I had a bad impression of him and felt that it was not the type I like. My aunt said: "It is impossible for two people to feel so good at first glance. You can date for a while first, and it's okay if you don't become friends."
When he started to make an appointment with me, I always said I was very busy. His family is in supermarket business, he has good skills and is very likable to speak.
He has asked me for a lot of times, and I feel embarrassed to refuse, so I go out with him occasionally. He was very straightforward. He said on his first date: "I liked you very much at first sight and made up my mind to catch you."
On the ninth day of November last year, he sent me a message: Today is On my birthday, I want to invite you out for fun. No matter how late you get off work, I will wait for you downstairs of your unit.
I didn't see his message at that time, so I went home directly after get off work. After dinner, it was already past eight o'clock in the evening. He called and asked, "Didn't you see my message? Today is my birthday, and I want to take you out to play."
I quickly looked at my phone and said to him apologetically: "Oh, I'm so sorry, I didn't see it, please give you a late blessing! "
He said, it's okay, I'm leaving. I looked at the time he sent me a message again and found it was around 5 p.m. It was winter at that time, and there was still snow outside. He actually waited outside for more than 3 hours. I was very moved. Isn’t such a lovely boy the same thing I am looking for?
Later, our relationship developed very quickly, and the sweet and romantic feelings made the friends around us envious.
(II)
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We live very far away, and it is not easy to meet once. He said: "Why don't you move to my place to live! My mother likes you very much." That It was not convenient for me to live with my sister and brother-in-law. He always advised me, but as many times as I was a little moved. After the Spring Festival, he took me to his house.
I am a very romantic girl. Our cottage is very small, but I cleaned it up spotlessly and decorated very warmly, like a small paradise. I washed his clothes cleanly and neatly folded every day, and never let him wear a piece of dirty clothes.
He loves me very much, I can feel it. But I don’t like living that kind of dull life, so I always like to create some small frictions and conflicts, and then let him hold me, coax me, make me happy, and keep saying endless love words to me.
Every time I deliberately look for trouble and pretend to be angry. He always tries every means to coax me, saying over and over in my ear: "Good wife, don't be angry, it's me that I'm wrong." Actually, I did it on purpose, but in fact I just like the kind of coaxing me Feeling very, very happy.
However, the more he spoiled me like this, the more I indulged myself, and gradually became a little willful and willful. We often quarrel over a trivial matter. After the argument, I would run out and take a walk. After I came back, I would deliberately anger him by saying that he didn't go to find me. I know he must have gone to me. In fact, it was just to let him coax me. For me, being spoiled by him was a kind of happiness.
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About a month after he arrived at his house, he told me, come here to help me, come and help me, come to my supermarket first, and we will start our own business in the future. I was moved by his words. Then he really resigned.
has no job and no income. In the past, I liked to buy the best things when I bought things, but after I arrived at his house, I became much more restrained. We had no money, so he asked his mother for it. Seeing that he was a bit overwhelmed with money, I advised him to save some money.He said, it doesn't matter, my mother has money. I said, your mother earns money and it’s hard to save some money.
But as he asked for money more often, his mother's face became bad. When he asked for money again, his mother said, "I always ask for money, what are you doing? Your sister-in-law often buys things for your brother. When have you ever seen me give you money for your sister-in-law?"
I felt like hearing these words I felt very uncomfortable, so I said to him: "I don't want to have conflicts between you mother and son because of me."
That day, while he was going to deliver the goods, I left him a note: I'm leaving. Looking at our cottage that is as cleaned like a small paradise, I really can't bear to leave it. I love you, but your parents have raised you for many years, and I don’t want you to be stuck between me and your mother.
That night, he called me and said, come back! I miss you. He cried as he said that, and I cried too. I said, I miss you too, but I can't go back. When you miss me, come to me.
The next day, he called and said, "Come back." I feel like I'm going crazy without you and I'm not energetic in my work." My mom will apologize to you. I hurriedly said, "Don't do this. How can I let the elderly apologize to the younger generation? This is unfair to the elderly." After talking to him, I went to his sister-in-law's place.
His sister-in-law said: "You are so in love with each other, how can you say you are separated? In fact, he cares about you very much. After you leave, he cries every night and has a headache the next day. He told me in person that he will have it in the future. If you get money, buy whatever you want and don’t let you suffer any grievances. "This touched me. If there is a man who can love me like this in this life, what else can I ask for!
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After their persuasion, I moved back again, and I feel that we are in love more than before.
Later, I had a problem with my body. When I went to the hospital for examination, I found that my body had inflammation and needed regular treatment. Every time I go to the hospital, I spend a lot of money. Every time I spend money, I am very uneasy, so I secretly ask my sister for money.
He was very angry when he found out, and began to check my bag frequently. Whenever he found out that he had no money, he would ask his mother for it and put it in my wallet. My sister is a doctor. In order to save some money, I decided to go back to my hometown for treatment.
During the treatment, my sister found out that I was pregnant and I felt very happy at that time. Although I know that this child may not be able to be protected, it is the crystallization of our love after all, and I really want to tell him the news in person.
That day, he happened to call me and told me that he had a cold. I was worried that he would not take care of myself. Before my illness was completely cured, I said goodbye to my sister and ran back to Shijiazhuang. When he went to the station to pick me up, my first words were said: "I miss you very much." He said that he was too. We walked back with our hands holding hands and talking and laughing.
After going to his house for dinner, his mother said to me: "I don't know what to say." At that time, I was still immersed in the joy of reuniting with him, and said: "It's okay, tell me, we are not a family." It's human! "
The mother said: "The doctor said you should be separated for a while, so that it will be good for your health. You can move out first and take you back when the disease is cured."
heard this My eyes were immediately blurred by tears. I turned my head and walked out, feeling like my legs were filled with lead and could hardly move. He ran up and hugged me and said, "Don't cry, I'll be back in a few days."
The mother also came over and said, "Why are you crying? You're not going to let you come back." I said in my mouth It's okay, but I just can't control my tears.
I kept crying, as if I had never cried like this in my life. I ran back for him and wanted to separate as soon as I met, and I didn't want to. The good news I wanted to tell him hasn't had the chance to say, where can I go? I don’t have a house or a job, so they didn’t care about me and drove me out.
I actually know that they may not mean this, but they just feel wronged. He cried as well as I cried, and he said, "Don't cry, I feel uncomfortable when you cry." I said angrily, "Don't worry, I'll move out. I will never step into your door again."I tore up the only letter I wrote to him, he picked it up, slapped himself twice, I went over and hugged him, we all cried.
That day, he and his mother delivered my luggage to me My sister's house, I deliberately drove him away loudly, saying that I would not want to see him again in my life, and said a lot of heartless words. Later, he really left without looking back. I was so sad. Actually, I didn't really want to say that. .
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I decided to abort the child, so I came to a suburban hospital alone. The doctor asked me why I came alone, and I said we broke up, and after that, I hugged me The doctor burst into tears.
Doctor said: "You are such a stupid child. Even if you don't want children, you should tell him. "I said, I don't want to use my children to win back our love.
Doctor said, you should choose painless surgery. I will charge you for ordinary surgery. I said, no need, just let me remember this time, I want Forget the mental pain with physical pain.
That day, the kind doctor comforted me for a long time. When I came back, I cried all the way, and I was sorry for this unborn child.
The child was done, I My heart hurts. We used to love each other so much and were envied by so many people, but I am really so fragile and can't stand the storm?
Now, I've found a new job. I really want to tell him, do you know ? We once had a love crystallization, and I still love you.
Marriage and Love Navigation:
For girls, choosing to live together without marriage requires a certain risk. Perhaps Manyue’s boyfriend’s parents are not ready to accept it either Mental preparation for entering this family alone.
Manyue is young and lacks the skills to get along with the elderly, and conflicts are inevitable. Manyue’s boyfriend is between his mother and girlfriend, and he also lacks the way to deal with it. Girls are self-reliant and self-reliant. Only then will you win the respect of people around you. If Manyue has his own job and does not give up on his own development for this relationship, perhaps these two people who love each other will have fewer setbacks. Reflection is for progress and growth, and for the sake of living a good life After all, the future is still long.
■Text/Hebei Youth Daily reporter Pi Xueyan
■Editor/Pi Xueyan
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