When people reach middle age, they often have a more thorough understanding of many things in life.
When I was young, I felt that men and women were either pure friends or lovers, and there was no middle ground. In middle age, especially after experiencing some relationships, this view often loses balance easily.
Just think about it, you know you like the other person and you know there will be no results with the other person, can't you really get closer? People all have desires and need warmth. As long as they don't harm the third person, it's not strange to hug each other for warmth on a cold night. The key is what you do after you cross the line between friends.
Generally speaking, after middle-aged men and women have sex, as long as they do this well, they can still get along well.
Clearly define the relationship between each other
When people reach middle age, they no longer need to be like young people, depending on whether they love each other for everything.
Life itself is a very complicated thing. At this age, you will be close to each other and have such contact, which itself means that you can already get what you want from each other. As for what kind of plans for future life, we still need to reach a consensus with each other.
Generally speaking, after middle-aged men and women have a relationship, as long as they take the initiative to clearly define their relationship, whether they really want to live together, or whether they treat each other as temporary supplies, as long as they reach a consensus on this point, it will still matter. We can still live in peace.
On the contrary, if you think it is love, but he is just playing for fun, and there is a cognitive deviation, then it will be difficult to have a better ending.
Don't disturb the other person's life
In life, there will always be many accidents, and these accidents can make your life richer. However, the reason why an accident is an accident is because it cannot become a real daily life.
The relationship between men and women is like this. Treating each other as a lifelong person or a temporary transitional product are two completely different things in themselves. This also distinguishes the different roles you play in each other's hearts and the different spaces you occupy.
Generally speaking, middle-aged men and women still need to maintain a sense of distance after having a relationship. Don't disturb the other person's life without the other person's permission. If you do this well, you can still live in peace.
On the contrary, if you are stubborn and insist on disturbing or even destroying each other's life, the ending will often be another. It is very likely that the beauty of the past will disappear and be replaced by mutual harm.
Be grateful for each other’s efforts
There are thousands of people in this world. The fact that you can come to each other from so many strangers and become one of the most important beings in each other’s lives is a great fate. .
This in itself is a gratifying thing, and it is also worth cherishing and caring for you. Even if one day you may do something that hurts the other person, as long as it was not intentional, even if you are unwilling to forgive the other person, you must not attack the other person twice as hard.
Therefore, even if a middle-aged man and woman have a relationship, as long as it is consensual, even if it is a momentary impulse, they should still be grateful for the other party's efforts, so that they can live in peace.
On the contrary, if you are not grateful and instead hurt the other person, it will not only be difficult to get what you want, but it will also be easier for you to suffer backlash.
