My name is Shanshan, my Chinese name is Lang Thi Thanh, and my Vietnamese name is LANG TH! THANH. I am an authentic Vietnamese, and now I am married to a Shandong guy and become a Chinese daughter-in-law.

This is the story of the 526th real person we tell

I am Shanshan

(I take a selfie at home in China)

In 1992, I was born into an ordinary rural family in the mountains of Vietnam. There are four brothers and sisters in the family, one older brother and one younger sister, so I am not the most favored child in the family.

I have been cheerful and sensible since I was a child. I started doing laundry, cooking and helping my parents with farm work when I was 8 years old. In Vietnam, even thin girls still have to help the family herd cattle and cut grass. Life in the mountains is always so famine-stretched, and you can't even eat enough during the lean years.

There are no cars in the mountains. Every day to go to school, I have to climb mountains, cross rivers, and walk for an hour and a half. My childhood dream was to be a teacher or a doctor, but before my dream could come true, my father fell ill and passed away when I graduated from high school. For orphans and widowers, life becomes even more difficult.

My family no longer has the ability to send me to college. I know that this is the reality. Any complaints will be of no use. Only by having the courage to change can there be hope. I decided to go abroad to do business with my cousins ​​to change my family’s difficult financial situation.

's cousin is in the plush toy business, purchasing goods in China, and then Ukraine wholesale. In 2016, I followed them to Guangzhou and Yiwu, Zhejiang, China for the first time, learning how to purchase goods while learning Chinese.

(Photo of me in high school, second to last row, third from left)

Before I came to China, I often looked up Chinese customs, tourist attractions, etc., but after I actually arrived in China, I didn’t expect it to be so good: a bustling city, The bustling crowds, tall buildings, and convenient transportation...especially the convenient payment methods that allow you to buy anything without leaving home really opened my eyes.

What makes me most envious and convenient is China’s public toilets , which are not available in Vietnam. The first time I stayed in China for fifteen days, I fell deeply in love with this country.

It’s my second time to come to China and I decided to stay here. I was learning Chinese while helping my cousins ​​look at the goods, pack them and ship them to Ukraine.

I am alone in a foreign country. In addition to working, I study Chinese on my mobile phone and post short videos online. At that time, I didn't understand the language and had no close friends. I was often surrounded by loneliness.

Maybe Yuelao saw my loneliness, or maybe he saw my yearning for China, so he arranged everything for me.

(Photo of 18-year-old in Vietnam)

In 2017, I traveled to Beihai . One night, I turned on my mobile phone out of boredom and searched for a Chinese boy through people nearby. After chatting with for a while, I learned that he was working as a chef in Beihai. Being cautious, I was afraid that the other person was a liar, so I asked him to send a photo, and just like that, Yuelao sent a handsome boy in front of me.

We started chatting aimlessly and sometimes we would talk on the phone. A few days later, we arranged to meet. That day, he came to pick me up after get off work at noon. When saw me, his eyes lit up, and his love was beyond words.

Then, he took me to a clothing store to buy clothes. It was our first meeting. How could I let him spend money on me? So, I did not accept his gift.

In the evening, he sent a message to compliment me on my beauty, saying that I looked exactly like the girl he likes: big eyes, double eyelids, tall and thin, and he also said that he fell in love with me at first sight. Vietnamese boys never try to make girls happy. I didn’t expect that Chinese boys are so warm. After

, he sent me messages and called me every day. We became more and more dependent on each other. Only when I saw his messages every day, I felt at ease.

(our wedding photo)

The second time, we went on a date in the park. The sweetness and beauty of dating are just like Gu Cheng's poem: The grass is bearing its seeds, the wind is shaking its leaves, and the two of us stand silent. The companionship of is simple and beautiful, heart-warming and sure.

I feel that this boy’s heart is full of me. Although I have never thought about a cross-border relationship, I feel that happiness requires courage to strive for, and if there is an opportunity, we must seize it.

So, when he confessed to me that he liked me and wanted me to be his girlfriend, I said half-jokingly: "More than just a girlfriend, I also want to be your wife." From then on, he started calling me Daughter-in-law, we will be together in half a year.

In November, I originally wanted to go back to Vietnam to celebrate the New Year, but he was reluctant to leave and asked me to stay with him to celebrate the New Year. The love was so profound that I didn’t want to separate, so I agreed to stay.

He quit his job in Beihai and took me back to his hometown of Liaocheng, Shandong. During the Spring Festival in China, it is important to go back to your hometown for reunion. I went back to the countryside with him in a general way. It was in this line of work that I met my future parents-in-law in my hometown in the countryside. I was even more determined that I had found the right person and decided not to marry anyone but him in this life.

(Photo taken with my parents-in-law when we got married)

My parents-in-law saw me as a foreign daughter-in-law for the first time and were very curious, but was more concerned about me, treated me like my own daughter, and thought about everything for me. Because I had never been to the north, I only wore a thin cotton-padded jacket. The old man was afraid that I would be cold, so he hurriedly rummaged through the box and took out the cotton-padded jacket and shoes for me to put on, and kept greeting me.

I am afraid that if I am not used to eating, my husband and mother-in-law will ask me what I want to eat every time. There is no heating in my hometown, so they put an electric heater next to me to keep me warm.

In Vietnam, whether at home or as a guest, girls always wash the dishes after meals. But after dinner here, the family refused to let me wash the dishes. This was so heart-warming and even flattering to me, who had been accustomed to the humble status of Vietnamese women since childhood.

As the Chinese New Year approaches, I am pregnant. The New Year, a new daughter-in-law, and a grandson are all three blessings coming to my door. My parents-in-law are full of smiles, and they can’t hide the joy. They say to everyone: “Shanshan is pregnant, Shanshan is pregnant.” My father-in-law smiles from ear to ear every day. Seeing them so excited makes me extremely happy. The family makes me feel the greatest kindness and love.

During the Spring Festival, many people came to my home, including relatives, friends, and neighbors. They came to see me and congratulated my parents-in-law and praised them for their good fortune. The whole family celebrated the New Year happily.

(I am pregnant, my family treats me as a baby)

In February 2018, I wore a wedding dress that my husband personally selected for me, held a simple wedding, and became a Chinese daughter-in-law.

My husband asked me how much I would like as a bride price, although in Vietnam girls will also need a bride price of 20,000 to 30,000 yuan when they get married. But I told my husband that I don’t want any betrothal gifts. Money can’t buy love, as long as you treat me well. In this life, when you meet the right person, you will have nothing more to ask for. Unexpectedly, my husband said: "You have to give it even if you don't want it."

When my eldest son was seven months old, I returned to my parents' home in Vietnam. My wife gave me 40,000 yuan as a gift, and I used the money to buy gifts for my family and give red envelopes to my brothers and sisters. My husband's family pays so much attention to me, and my heart is filled with warmth.

At that time in my hometown in Vietnam, I was only over 80 pounds. After more than a year apart, I returned to my hometown again. My mother looked at me, who weighed more than 110 pounds and was fat and white, and knew that I had lived a good life. She was happy for me from the bottom of her heart, happy that I could marry in China, marry a good husband, and meet good parents-in-law.

A few days later, with my mother’s reluctance and the envious eyes of my neighbors, I returned to China.

(Husband holds his eldest son)

After I came back, I weaned my eldest son from breastfeeding, and my mother-in-law helped take care of him. My husband and I plan to open a fast food restaurant in Liaocheng City. Because of the tight initial funds, I did not hesitate to give my husband the more than 70,000 yuan I had saved from my previous work.

We don’t hire anyone, so we have to do everything in the store ourselves. We also learned to open takeout, which extended the business hours. My husband would go to the store at 6 a.m. to prepare ingredients, and he would be busy until 12 o'clock in the evening before going home to rest.

Life is very hard, but because we do business sincerely, we pay attention to new ingredients and sufficient portions, and never cut corners or cheat. Therefore, our store has always had a good reputation, and we can earn more than 1,000 yuan a day . With such a return, we are very motivated.

Immediately afterwards, the birth of our second son brought more joy to the family. Of course, our responsibilities also became greater. Fortunately, my husband's career has also reached a new level. He and his friends jointly own a large hotel.

My husband is very capable, and the restaurant business is very good, with an income of tens of thousands of yuan every month. My husband said that as long as he is here, I don’t have to worry about anything. How wonderful it would be if the years were peaceful and peaceful all the time!

(Erbao and I)

All things should be avoided, and all things should be avoided. In 2021, my husband, who is 1.73 meters tall and weighs 130 kilograms, lost more than ten kilograms at a speed visible to the naked eye. At first, we all thought it was caused by being too tired and too busy at work.

Until one night, when he was taking a shower, he found a pimple on his chest. We searched online and looked at the answers online, and had a bad feeling.

I didn’t dare to delay, so I accompanied my husband to the county hospital for a check-up the next day. The doctor said it was some inflammation and prescribed medicine worth several hundred yuan. After taking the medicine for a few days, the symptoms did not improve. Without hesitation, we went to the Liaocheng major hospital for examination without stopping.

The doctor performed a quick pathology on my husband, and the result was that the epithelial cell tissue was active. The city hospital did not dare to draw conclusions, so they asked us to go to the provincial hospital for examination. After a series of examinations such as immunohistochemistry and puncture , the results showed that it was intraductal papillary carcinoma . The examination sheet The words were like a bolt from the blue to me.

did not understand at the time that cancer was divided into early, middle and late stages, nor did it know that it could be cured in the early stage. When I heard the word cancer, I suddenly felt that the sky was falling . I stood in the corridor and felt stiff and couldn't walk.

(My husband was sick and was hospitalized for surgery)

I was supposed to comfort him, but in the end he supported me and pulled me. He also joked with me, saying that I should comfort him, but it would be better now that he should comfort me. Seeing him pretending to be calm and calm in front of me made me even more heartbroken.

I really hope this is just a dream, and I even hope the doctor says the result is wrong. I was afraid and felt sorry for my husband. Ten days before the operation, I couldn't eat to my liking, couldn't sleep at night, and cried secretly all day long until I couldn't control myself.

It was also at this time that I started losing a lot of hair.

I often ask myself: "We never lose heart in our business, and we never overstate our conduct. I even help those women who were trafficked in Vietnam find their relatives online. But why is God so unfair to let the one I love the most Do people suffer from such a disease? "

Sometimes I think, Maybe our love is too perfect, so even God is jealous, so he gives us a test. If this is the case with , then I will accept it all and never regret it.

I had a sense of security before. When I was hungry, he would cook for me. When I was cold, he would dress me. When I was tired, he would give me a shoulder. feels extremely at ease as long as I am around him. All his efforts are to make me happy and have better days in the future.

(House in rural Vietnam)

He never lets me do any work. He does all the big and small things at home. He earns money to support our family. But ever since he got sick, I couldn't help but be afraid that one day God would take him away from me.

I firmly believe that a man like my husband will not choose to escape from difficulties. But I know that such an upright man will definitely have fears and worries when the disease comes to him.

It’s just that he put his sadness into silent mode. Even as a person who shares the same bed with me, he is not willing to let me share the pain.

He makes me feel so sad for him, but I can't share his pain. In addition to accompanying me, I also silently prayed to God: I don’t want anything, I just want him to be safe and healthy by my side and never leave.

Fortunately, my husband has bought insurance before, so I don’t have to worry about not having enough money. The city hospital soon arranged an operation. After the first operation, we went to the best hospital in the provincial capital for examination. Because the resection area during the first surgery was too small, a second surgery was performed.

At that time, we made an appointment with the best expert in the province. Before the operation, the director of said that there might be sequelae and that the arm might not be able to be lifted like a normal person. For a chef, this is equivalent to ending his career. I know what this means to my husband.

(Photo before coming to China)

On the day of the operation, I kept praying at the door of the operating room that there would be no accidents or sequelae. I secretly told myself that I must be strong. As long as I regard hardships as a test of life, nothing can knock me down.

Perhaps my sincerity moved God, and the second operation was successful. Subsequent reexaminations showed that the body was recovering well and there were no sequelae of the arm falling off. Later, we were afraid that chemotherapy would cause too much harm to the body. On the doctor's advice, we chose conservative treatment.

My husband is a capable and responsible person, but because of his health, he quit the restaurant he opened with his friends. Now, for the sake of this family and his two sons, he, who should have continued to recuperate, contracted a window in the university cafeteria and began to make money to support his family again.

I used to do live broadcasts occasionally before, but now I don’t want to put all the pressure on my husband, so I started doing live broadcasts and shooting short videos every day. Although I don’t earn much, it is also a kind of sharing.

I also do charity work online, helping Vietnamese women who have been trafficked to China by human traffickers to find their families. Most of them came to China smuggled into China without any contact information of their families. Some Vietnamese women have been smuggled here for so long that their husbands are no longer here.

(Our happy family of four)

I guided them through the procedures, and even those who were particularly poor would help them raise money. I also personally went to the embassy to help them apply for visas, and my influence was growing. From March 2022 to now, in just 3 months, I have helped more than 60 Vietnamese women find their relatives. I will always stick to .

I used to have beautiful hair, but since my husband fell ill, I was under great psychological pressure, which led to severe hair loss. I often see hair on the sheets, on the floor, and even in the food. Having been in a restaurant, I always feel that it is very unhygienic. So I shaved my head directly.

Now I spray medicine on my head every day, hoping that beautiful new hair will grow back and my hair will not be as severe as before. When my hair reaches my waist, I hope to be the most beautiful Chinese wife.

I love China and I am very lucky to be a Chinese wife. After experiencing all this, in the long journey of life, everything will turn around. When we feel the aftertaste is bitter, I believe that everything will eventually turn out to be sweet.

Hold your son’s hand and grow old together. The most precious thing in life is not the material things you own, but being with the person you love. Only when you have lost can you know how to cherish it. Now I don't ask for wealth, I just want to cherish every minute and every second in front of me. I hope that in ordinary days, we can accompany each other until we grow old and let our two cute babies grow up.

[Oral: Shanshan]

[Editor: Fan Xin]

We can’t live through different lives, but we can experience other people’s real stories here, and every story has real photos! If you also like such true stories, please follow us! @real person interview