an emotional Yu Museum · yesterday
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"The husband and wife are birds of the same forest, and fly separately when disaster strikes."
There are many people who like to use this sentence to explain that there is no blood relationship between husband and wife. No matter how long they have been married, it is impossible to have one mind.
But is that actually the case?
By our side, there are indeed family difficulties, couples divorce, separate things to avoid being dragged down.
But more is not to leave. The reason for the completely different is actually the feelings between husband and wife.
Tang poem " eight to ": "From the near to the far thing, to the deep to the shallow and clear stream. From the highest to the distant moon, from the closest to the distant couple."
The general meaning of describing husband and wife is: husband and wife can live and die together.It can also be like a stranger or even not sharing the same sky.
Any emotional relationship is mutual, as is the emotional relationship between husband and wife.
You are good to me, and I will be good to you too. If you play tricks and use your feelings, how can you get me to be true to you?
Therefore, couples choose to divorce when they encounter difficulties. It is more because one of them is disappointed with the other.
Since you don’t have a sincere heart for me, why should I share the trouble with you?
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Li Qian chose to marry her husband Zhang Yong, all for Zhang Yong's loyalty and honesty.
When the two met on a blind date, everyone was actually not optimistic that the two would eventually get together.
Simply put, it's because the two families are not in good hands.
But Li Qian disagrees with this concept, saying: "Big families pay attention to the right family. Zhang Yong and I are ordinary families. Everyone is similar. Why bother to care about these."
But in fact, the right family can't be simple. Equal to economic conditions.
The living atmosphere of the native family and the family education of parents to their children are the key to this statement.
Although Li Qian has an older brother, his parents do not favor sons over daughters, and they teach Li Qian to be independent, both in character and economics.
Parents teach their daughters to be someone who is not burdened by others. Brothers and sisters can help each other, but they can't have the idea of relying on each other in the future.
We must know how to be grateful, get the favor of others, and find ways to repay.
But you can't let the opponent use this favor as a bargaining chip to influence your own life.
The family education Zhang Yong received is completely the opposite.
The parents are partial to the youngest son. Since childhood, they have instilled in Zhang Yong a notion that as an older brother, he must help his younger brother anyway.
It doesn't matter if you have a bad life, but your younger brother must live a comfortable life; and your parents must meet your parents' requirements when you grow up.
Concepts such as these have caused Zhang Yong to be submissive in his native family, and to be responsive to his younger brother.
Li Qian feels that Zhang Yong is honest and honest and can be trusted for life.
But in fact, he is not loyal and honest, but cowardly and confused.
but we all know thatPeople who are immersed in the relationship basically cannot listen to other people's words against her relationship.
Li Qian insists on marrying, crying and making trouble.
In the end, the parents still couldn't hold back their children. Li Qian's insistence made the parents only reluctantly agree and secretly hope, but she thinks too much.
Because of Li Qian's various persuasion, although she talks about marriage, marriage and wedding matters, her in-laws care about it. But finally got married.
The newly married life of two people is indeed warm and happy.
A happy marriage, how could it not be sweet, let alone Zhang Yong being gentle and considerate to Li Qian after the marriage, consistent with the pre-marriage, which made Li Qian very happy.
But the good times did not last long. Half a year after the marriage, when Li Qian offered to buy a house and Zhang Yong was unwilling, she realized that her husband was tricky.
The house they live in is the dowry house given to her by Li Qian's family. Because they were not satisfied with their daughter's marriage at the beginning, the name of the house was not changed to that of her daughter.
Li Qian always feels that this matter will hurt her husband's self-esteem.
So now there are opportunities to buy school district housing, why not cherish it?
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Two people’s savings before marriage,If I let my natal family help me, the down payment is definitely enough.
In this way, this house is completely owned by the husband and wife, and it is also helpful for the children to go to school in the future.
No matter how you look at it, this proposal is better than living in this poorly located house.
However, Zhang Yong used all kinds of excuses to prevaricate, and said that most people have a house in their entire life. Now this is good, and there is no need to change it.
Li Qian asked various questions, and finally Zhang Yong chose the latter in the choice of divorcing or continuing to live.
It turns out that Zhang Yong was reluctant to buy a house because he had no savings at all, and because he had to repay the loan after he bought the house. As a result, his salary would not be able to be paid to his brother.
Li Qian is shocked when she knows that her uncle has been idle and comfortable all these years, and that she has been spending Zhang Yong's money all the time.
If she was not qualified before marriage, then Zhang Yong used her salary to loan her brother to buy a car after marriage, she would always be qualified to speak.
She went directly to her husband's house, but her parents-in-law did not make sense.
The mother-in-law said that this is something Zhang Yong was willing to do, and it has nothing to do with his parents. What's more, his brother is in good condition, has a house and a car, and helps his brother. Isn't it a matter of course?
Zhang Yong’s statement in front of his parents,Nodding vigorously, she also told Li Qian not to get angry.
Li Qian thought of divorce. Her parents’ initial worries were all right. Her husband’s loyalty and honesty were indeed caused by the fact that his parents were too strong, and he had always accepted it.
But looking at Zhang Yong's helpless expression, she remembered his tenderness and consideration for herself in life.
Although angry, but still softened.
In the end, Li Qian mentioned that all the previous things were turned over, but Zhang Yong wanted to keep the salary card for himself, and he would give him pocket money every month and buy a house.
Zhang Yong immediately agreed to keep the marriage.
Li Qian also happily thinks that her husband, because of herself, finally wakes up and understands that in the family relationship, the relationship between husband and wife is the first.
It is a pity that the concept engraved in the bones will change because of the faded love.
What if the salary card is handed in, a person who really wants to accomplish something, can always figure out a way to do it.
Zhang Yong directly reported the loss of his salary card when facing the demands of his parents and younger brother.
In other words, what Li Qian holds in her hand is just a waste card, and she also uses her own income every month to give Zhang Yong a few thousand pocket money.
Li Qian, out of the trust between husband and wife,She never wanted to go to check the accounts, nor did she realize how a man whose original family's affairs were too big could change so simply, and how could her parents-in-law and younger uncles give up the chance to live a good life so peacefully.
If it weren't for Zhang Yong's illness, it might take a long time for Li Qian to realize that she was deceived again.
Two years after marriage, just as Li Qian was preparing to get pregnant, Zhang Yong suddenly fainted.
After he was sent to the hospital, he learned that Zhang Yong was seriously ill. Without surgery, his quality of life would be poor in the future, which also affected his lifespan to a certain extent.
However, the operation costs quite a lot of money. Over the past year or so, it is estimated that all the savings of the husband and wife will have to be put in. The plan to buy another house may be frustrated again.
But in Li Qian's mind, money and money are naturally not as important as her husband's health.
She asked for an operation at the first time, and she was going to use their salary cards to pay for the expenses.
There is nothing wrong with her card, but Zhang Yong's salary card balance is only a few hundred yuan.
She knew very well that she had not touched the money in it for more than a year, so the money was either lost, or Zhang Yong was doing it with her hands and feet behind her back.
Don’t think too much, she immediately connected with her uncle about buying a house for marriage some time ago.
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almost no confirmation,Li Qian already knew where the money had gone, and she was chilling.
Faced with his wife’s questioning, Zhang Yong admitted that he had reported the loss of his salary card at the very beginning, and then, as soon as his monthly salary arrived, he would take out one-half of his salary to his parents.
The remaining money, plus project bonuses later, and money for part-time jobs, are all down payment for my brother to buy a house.
Zhang Yong said: "I'm just a younger brother. I must help. My parents have worked hard to bring me up. How can I let my parents down." Enough, said that I can ask the old man to help.
Li Qian smiled bitterly. The money was her husband's life-saving money, but he didn't leave a way out for himself, so he gave everything to his brother.
Now let me ask my parents how sad it is to borrow money.
Knowing that Zhang Yong needs money when he is sick, his parents-in-law and his uncle are hiding far away, not to mention the money, even the hospital dare not come, for fear of being caught incurring expenses.
But even if he knew the attitude of his parents and younger brother, Zhang Yong still had no complaints. He still told his parents and younger brother that they also had difficulties. Then Li Qian hurriedly asked her parents for help.
Li Qian finally gave up on this marriage and Zhang Yong.
She sneered and said, "There is not enough money at home,Abandon treatment. We will be discharged from the hospital in a few days. We are divorced. You move out of my house. Go back and live with your parents and brother. "
Li Qian is about to divorce life and death, but she did not lend Zhang Yong to treat her illness. Some people say that she is cruel and cold-blooded, but she feels that she is not wrong. Bear the results for your own words and deeds.
Your current situation, good or bad, is the result of your choices and actions at the beginning.
Since Zhang Yong feels that things in the original family are too big, yes Marriage is not responsible, so let him and his native family bear the result.
You are full of exploits and deceptions to me, so why should I be responsible for you in the end. You said, Li Qian should lend money to her family Does Zhang Yong cure his illness?
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