children are getting better and better. They will enjoy the convenience that life brings to them, but they have lost the courage to face setbacks and problems.
Many parents say that today's children like to listen to compliments, but they can't listen to any criticism. When faced with challenges, they give up before trying. have a direct relationship.
In addition to perseverance, one's success requires the perseverance of not giving up in the face of setbacks. Adverse quotient is cultivated in setbacks, that is, the ability to resist setbacks.
Inverse quotient education requires parents to consciously cultivate their children from a young age, so that with the growth of age, the children themselves have laid a good foundation, and there is no need for parents to educate them. Naturally, a good conditioned reflex is formed. become more and more responsive.
People's growth is always accompanied by setbacks. Different age groups need to face different growth problems, and each problem is an opportunity to learn.
In life, there is no shortage of parents who overcome all difficulties for their children and do everything by themselves. The result of responding to their children's needs is that there is no problem at the moment, they are all perfect, but it is a hindrance to their growth. Sooner or later, it will be in the future problem appear.
Temporary substitution cannot accompany the whole life. Children always have to face life and society alone. At that time, the advantages of cultivating inverse quotient in childhood will gradually emerge.
If you want your children to be able to deal with setbacks in the future, parents need to consciously exercise their ability to deal with problems by themselves. As parents, you must first have a correct understanding of setbacks. Don’t be afraid that your children will encounter setbacks. Then It is their best growth material.
Adversity is the ladder for a child's growth. Only through wind and rain can you see the rainbow. Parents must be patient enough when their children face difficulties, give their children the opportunity to try to solve problems by themselves, and encourage them even if they fail. , praise the child for the good part of the process.
Don't let children think that failure is because of the environment, success is because of talent, everything depends on yourself, failure should be found in yourself, and success is the result of your own efforts.
Only when they are confident enough in their own abilities can they not be afraid of difficult challenges and face all kinds of unknown problems bravely. Parents should pay attention to many small problems. Only in this way can they be more calm in the face of big setbacks in the future.
Parents have done everything for their children since childhood. Children who rarely experience setbacks are very fragile at heart. When they grow up, they not only dare not face setbacks, but are also more likely to cause mental imbalances, collapse or hysteria at any time. .
Children who can't afford to lose are often lacking in the performance of inverse quotient. As they grow older, it seems that the spirit of the new-born calf that is not afraid of tigers becomes less and less, and they begin to become cautious and weak. Not happy.
This is not just the child's own problem. It is too late for parents to help. Adverse quotient refers to the way a child responds to adversity and the ability to overcome, overcome, and surpass in the face of difficulties.
The environment for cultivating children's inverse quotient education
That is, when children encounter difficulties, don't rush to help first, but encourage them to solve problems by themselves, don't deliberately create difficulties, just need to be late to help when troubles arise That's it.
Parents should give their children an environment of trial and error, so that they understand that nothing can be easily accomplished. Don't panic, work hard to overcome and eventually succeed.
Leading by example
For the problems that arise in daily life, parents should lead by example. The best education is to teach by example and by example. When encountering difficulties and setbacks in daily life, it is not only the parents themselves that are tested, but also the template for the education of their children.
The simplest example, my mother tried a new dish while cooking, but the result was not satisfactory. If the parents said in frustration at this time, "Never do it again", a seemingly trivial complaint may make Children develop thinking patterns of escape and withdrawal.
If parents sum up their experience at this time, try to find out what they have done well, see the positive side of things, and are willing to try next time, then what the child sees is the mother's persistence in not giving up when faced with difficulties.
Unconsciously, children will imitate their parents and will not give up in the face of difficulties. No amount of big truths are more impressive than parents’ own example, so parents should not feel that small things need to be ignored, let alone always complain when encountering difficulties, and use their own practical actions to educate their children against quotient.
Stable love for children
Stable love can bring a sense of security to children, thus giving them the courage to explore the world. Always severe blows may not give children good educational energy. Under the nitpicking of parents, it is difficult for children to have High self-esteem and high self-confidence.
Love is the greatest confidence in a person's life. Compared with strict education, giving children enough love can make them have the courage to face all kinds of difficulties in life. Therefore, parental love is also an important part of frustration education.
When they experience frustration, don't just criticize or blame, let the children understand that no matter whether they succeed or not, their parents' love for them will not change, and then encourage children to face it bravely.
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