Some people are born with dragons and phoenixes, and they are the ones others look up to since childhood. There are also people who grew up ordinary from an ordinary age and work an ordinary job as adults.
As long as the expectations are not broken or there are no expectations, most parents can accept it. But how many parents can accept their children falling from the altar to the ground?
Parents are often the envy of others when their children have good grades. When chatting, other parents educate their children by saying, "You have to learn from so-and-so."
Parents only wait for their children to get a good job after they leave the society and seal their glorious life. Peking University is a place that almost all students dream of. If your child can go to Peking University, what an honor would it be?
But if one day he suddenly tells you that he wants to transfer to a technical school. This is such a difficult fact for parents to accept, but for the child who made this decision, what did he go through that led him to make such an incredible decision?
This is a true story. College student Zhou Hao, after staying at Peking University for one year, decided to transfer to a technical school. What happened to and what is his current situation? Let's read his story together and taste our own life.
01 The Proud Son of Heaven
"Zhou Hao, wait a minute." On the way out of school, a fourth-grade child chased a skinny boy in front of him and shouted.
The thin boy in front was named Zhou Hao. After hearing the shout, he stopped and turned around, waiting for the children behind him. After he caught up, the two walked side by side.
The child behind looked at Zhou Hao with envious eyes and said, "I really envy you. You are number one in this math test. When will I be as smart as you?"
"It's nothing. Just preview before class, review after class, and complete the homework in time. If you don't understand anything, you can ask me."
Zhou Hao is a post-90s generation, born in 1990. Compared with other families whose parents were mostly illiterate, Zhou Hao was much luckier. His parents were rare educated and knowledgeable people at that time.
However, Zhou Hao is a slightly lonely person.
Because he has good grades and takes first place every year, both teachers and parents feel that they are flattering him when they are placed with other students. Therefore, the friends around him who do not have good grades spontaneously isolate him.
Of course, Zhou Hao didn't care much. He usually stayed alone. But if someone is friendly to him, he is also willing to be kind to others.
The kid who caught up was his only friend, and he was very carefree.
The parents of their two families are also good friends. Although they usually compare the two, they do not criticize the children with poor grades because of this, so he just envies Zhou Hao and has no other emotions.
"Okay, okay, we agreed. What will you do when you go home later?" The kid who caught up grinned and took Zhou Hao's shoulder.
"Let's finish today's homework first." Zhou Hao said naturally.
"As expected of a top student, okay, let's do it together. Otherwise, my mother will talk to me again later, 'You see Zhou Hao is doing homework, and you only know how to play.' How about we play together after we are done?"
"Okay, my mother bought me a new toy and told me to give it to me if I got first place in the exam. I will show it to you then."
"Okay, okay, but I agreed in advance that this time I have to wait until I have played enough before I can take it apart. Every time a toy is in your hands, it is intact for only a few days, and you don't know what it means to take the toys apart. I like complete toys. "
The two of them walked home talking and laughing.
Speaking of which, Zhou Hao’s learning talent is truly incredible. He has been praised by teachers since kindergarten. And he is not just good at one subject, but has developed comprehensively. Both teachers and parents have to give a thumbs up when mentioning Zhou Hao.
However, some children are not so generous and can be envious and jealous. Therefore, sometimes when some parents compare their children with Zhou Hao, the children who cannot compare will reply to their parents, "My parents can give him lectures, can you?"
Of course, when other parents asked why Zhou Hao's grades were so good, Zhou Hao's parents just said with a slightly proud look: "He learned all by himself, and we didn't care about him."
There are also some parents who say sourly behind their backs that just because they are great now does not mean they will be great in the future. But Zhou Hao really made it all the way to high school. Finally, during the college entrance examination, I reached the pinnacle of my life.
html Zhou Hao, 118 years old, looks very talented. He has been soaked in praises for a long time, and his whole person feels high-spirited. This year, he took the college entrance examination.
That day, the weather was very good, just like Zhou Hao's mood. After Zhou Hao walked out of the examination room, he made a self-assessment and felt that he had performed at a normal level, with a hint of joy in his plain expression.
As soon as Zhou Hao's parents saw their son's face, they knew that he would not disappoint their expectations. Father Zhou waved his hand and took his wife and children into a high-end restaurant to celebrate.
During the dinner, Zhou's mother asked about the situation, "Haohao, how did you do in the exam? What's your estimated score?" "I feel pretty good. If nothing else, it should be above 600 points." Zhou Hao replied confidently.
Zhou’s father and Zhou’s mother looked at each other with a smile that couldn’t be hidden in their eyes. "Then have you decided what to apply for?" Zhou Hao said, " I want to study Beijing University of Aeronautics and Astronautics. I like schools with strong operational capabilities, and this school is good. "
Hearing this, Father Zhou's expression became a little solemn.
"We also know that you have liked to dismantle toys since you were a child, and even the furniture at home has been harmed by you. But now is a critical moment to determine the future of your life, so you must be cautious. With a score of more than 600, you should be able to go to Peking University."
"Yes," Zhou's mother agreed, "We'll see when the results come out. If the scores are good enough, study at Peking University."
Zhou Hao was a little unhappy, but the results hadn't come out yet, and he didn't want to spoil his parents' interest, so he didn't say more. The results came out soon after. Zhou Hao's college entrance examination score was 660, and he could be directly shortlisted for Peking University.
After Zhou Hao’s parents learned the news, they couldn’t help but happily share it with their relatives and friends. But Zhou Hao was not very happy because his parents insisted that he apply for Peking University.
However, although this score is shortlisted for Peking University, you cannot freely choose the major you want in Peking University.
But Zhou Hao couldn't resist his parents, so he finally listened to his parents' advice and chose Peking University, and obeyed the adjustment. When the final results came out, Zhou Hao was admitted to Peking University and transferred to , School of Life Sciences, Peking University.
But no matter what, as a proud son who can go to Peking University, Zhou Hao's grades have given his parents face, and he can be regarded as a proud ancestor. Relatives and friends came to express their gratitude. People's enthusiasm was so high that they ignored Zhou Hao's unhappiness.
02 Cruel reality
In September 2008, Zhou Hao's parents happily sent Zhou Hao to Peking University. Looking at the gate of Peking University, Zhou Hao was in a trance. For the first time, he felt unsatisfied. He didn't know whether it was good or bad to come here.
But now that they are all here, Zhou Hao is determined to study hard here. University and high school are completely different. Although the academic atmosphere of Peking University is very strong, the degree of freedom in university is still much greater than that in high school.
Moreover, there are more subjects to learn here, and the teachers are not so strict in discipline. Most of them rely on students' self-awareness.
Zhou Hao’s major was liberal arts and abstract. Zhou Hao was not good at learning abstract, purely theoretical subjects, which made him feel struggling to learn for the first time. Moreover, as a top student, he has enjoyed the attention of many stars since he was a child.
But when he got here, he discovered that there were many people like him, and he was just an ordinary one among them. Under such a huge difference, Zhou Hao gradually felt something was wrong in his heart.
Without the advantage of grades, Zhou Hao's personal communication skills are not very outstanding, so he does not have good friends in college.
Under such a huge gap, Zhou Hao's grades plummeted, and he gradually fell into depression. barely finished the first semester of freshman year. During the exam, not only did he rank among the best, he even failed the exam.
This is unacceptable to Zhou Hao. He reflected that because this major was not his favorite, he thought of changing majors, but changing majors required ranking among the top three in his major.
For Zhou Hao, who failed the exam, this path was obviously not feasible. Zhou Hao thought of the second way, which was to drop out of school and retake the exam. At the end of the first semester of his freshman year, Zhou Hao returned home and communicated this idea to his parents. Their parents did not understand and were shocked.
reprimanded him for this idea which was really ridiculous and he strongly disagreed with his idea. After his parents' strong opposition, Zhou Hao had to come to university again to start the second semester of his freshman year.
However, any effort without a reliable foundation will be half the result with half the effort, and Zhou Hao's study became more and more difficult. As a former top student and now a poor student, he could not accept this huge gap and his inability to study.
He knew clearly that his condition could not continue any longer, so he finally decided to drop out of school without telling his parents. He wanted to use the hard work to adjust his condition after going out to work.
Therefore, after his freshman year, he took a leave of absence. Then I went to an assembly line factory and worked as a front-line worker.
is all hands-on operation here. He is very adaptable and gets started quickly. However, this is work after all. The monotonous steps and heavy assembly line work soon made Zhou Hao feel bored.
And he also knew that there was no future, and finally decided to go back to school again. However, this work experience did not give him any new feelings, and he struggled to learn as always.
After learning from the pain, he once again thought of another way, which was to transfer to another school. He still wanted to stay in Beijing, so he aimed at Beijing Institute of Technology.
Although it is a technical school, he checked the majors of this school and felt that it was very suitable for his interests. This time, he decided to convince his parents no matter what.
Sure enough, hearing that Zhou Hao was going to transfer to a technical school was like a bolt from the blue to Zhou Hao's parents. Isn't it a joke for relatives and friends to turn a good top student from Peking University into a student from a technical school?
However, whether it was his parents’ earnest persuasion or tearful accusations, this time, Zhou Hao refused to return to Peking University.
In order to gain the support of his parents, Zhou Hao also talked openly about his own feelings. He talked about his sadness of not being able to keep up with the courses and the pain of not being told. The efforts he made, and the rewards he couldn't get.
He said that everyone has their own areas of expertise. You cannot ask fish to learn to climb trees or birds to learn to swim. My son is not happy at Peking University, and his parents also know it.
Seeing Zhou Hao in such pain, his parents chose to let Zhou Hao do what he wanted after being silent for three days and three nights.
Zhou Hao’s father said: “Son, you have grown up, and you should be responsible for your own life.Since you insist on doing so, we can only choose to support you, but you must be mentally prepared to be responsible for your own choices. "
Zhou Hao responded: "I know my own situation. I know best what is best for me. Interest is the best teacher, and I will be responsible for my own choices. "
03 In 2011, Zhou Hao, who received support from his parents, immediately went to Peking University to complete the transfer procedures. The principal of Beijing Institute of Technology knew that Zhou Hao was going to transfer to their school, so he was very enthusiastic.
Because this is the student with the best academic performance in the history of the school, Zhou Hao's title of top student at Peking University attracted great attention as soon as he entered the school. This attention and enthusiasm finally allowed Zhou Hao to regain the lost feeling of being a top student. He had long been accustomed to such an atmosphere.
Here, Zhou Hao is free to choose any major he likes. He chose the CNC major that best suits him based on his own interests.
Teachers attach great importance to Zhou Hao, and all the school's resources are given to him first.
In this atmosphere, Zhou Hao felt like a fish in water. His grades in the new major rose rapidly and he soon ranked among the best. As before, he became an insurmountable existence for everyone.
Although Zhou Hao has regained his confidence here, Zhou Hao's parents don't think so. When relatives and friends asked about it, Zhou Hao’s parents found it difficult to talk about it. I used to love going out to have dinner with friends, but now I hate it so much, I would avoid it if I could.
Zhou Hao also knew a little bit about the situation of his parents.
In order to prove himself, Zhou Hao signed up for the school’s 6th National CNC Skills Competition Contest . This event has a high gold content, and the participants are all very capable, so Zhou Hao has to go all out.
All his enthusiasm for learning was aroused, and he studied skills day and night. He often forgets to eat and even sleeps only three or four hours a day.
The teachers saw how hard he was working, and sometimes even brought him meals in person. If he had something he didn’t understand, they would give him priority to help him solve it. Finally, this time fate no longer played tricks on him, he had no doubt about it Weidi won the championship of the competition .
Zhou Hao's parents secretly hoped that Zhou Hao would not go so smoothly, so that they might be able to return to Peking University after suffering some hardships. But seeing how much he loved his new school and major, he had to give up.
In this way, Zhou Hao once again became the glory of the school, and Zhou Hao also had the warm feeling of home here. After graduation, Zhou Hao gave up majors The company offered me an olive branch, so I chose to stay in school and teach.
His deep understanding of professional knowledge, super hands-on ability, and to-the-point lecture style make students particularly like his class.
Zhou Hao himself did not stop learning. In 2018, he participated in the first National Vocational Skills Competition for Teachers in Technical Colleges and unsurprisingly won the championship again.
ran And just when Zhou Hao thought he could continue to be a star teacher in this school, the cruelty of fate showed him its ferocious side again.
As a teacher, Zhou Hao’s job promotion is the first step. However, promotion in schools basically requires a bachelor’s degree or a master’s degree. Even if he has hard power, Zhou Hao’s academic qualifications from his school are somewhat difficult to use.
Zhou Hao is in a dilemma, stay in school, Room for advancement is limited. Come out, I don’t know where to go. At this moment, the former principal threw an olive branch to him.
The former principal was the principal when Zhou Hao first came here, and he was of great help to Zhou Hao. The former principal set up an education consulting company outside after resigning.
Because many people try their luck in the important matter of choosing a school or a major, and they do not understand career planning after graduation. Therefore, educational consulting companies still have a bright future.
However, this also requires a living sign, and Zhou Hao is undoubtedly the best choice.
The two hit it off and collaborated again. This time, Zhou Hao himself also realized the importance of academic qualifications. He obtained a part-time undergraduate degree while working.
Nowadays, Zhou Hao is no longer limited by academic qualifications and has become the backbone of the company. often plans the future development direction of the company with the principal.
He is also committed to helping many students who, like him, are living in pain behind their majors and interests.
Under the epidemic, although the education industry has been affected, education is the foundation of a country. Zhou Hao did not think that education would end here. Under his promotion, the company switched to online education and worked hard to withstand this wave of impact.
Now, Zhou Hao is doing what he likes in the industry he likes. Zhou Hao’s parents are relieved after so many years, especially due to the epidemic. No amount of reputation can compare to good health and a happy mood.
A few days ago, Zhou Hao called back to ask how his parents were doing. Zhou's father and mother Zhou's mother said happily in the video: "It's much better. Fortunately, you bought the medicine, and you will be almost better in two or three days."
"We know that you have been proving yourself to us for so many years. Now, we have also thought about it, nothing can compare with health, and the family can be together without any grudges. "
"Come back early this New Year. When you come, let us know in advance and we will prepare your favorite dishes for you. "
Hearing this, Zhou Hao replied with a bit of sobs: "Okay! ”
Like Zhou Hao before, there are many people who are struggling in areas that they are not good at and have self-doubt. Zhou Hao is one of the luckier ones. In the end, he bravely followed his heart and chose his favorite major.
We may not be as powerful as Zhou Hao, but our talents are destined to be useful. If you feel miserable in your area, try to step out. The unknown is both a risk and a hope!
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