Due to the influence and restriction of many factors, during the critical period when teenagers master knowledge and develop good character, their bodies and minds are prone to various problems. Among them, being tired of studying is a more prominent problem. A survey by China Youth Research Center (2005) shows that currently about 70% of children have varying degrees of being tired of studying.
The main characteristic of study weariness is disgust and aversion to learning and school, and even pain, so often absenteeism or truancy. Whether a child is tired of studying or not has little to do with a child's interest in a certain subject or academic performance. Not only students with poor studies are tired of studying, but students who are good at studying will also have a tendency to be tired of studying. Note: Click “ Study-weariness is very common among today’s students | pixabay
Being tired of studying is a behavioral manifestation. The formation mechanism behind it and the underlying psychological problems of adolescents are the real focus of this issue. Many children are not tired of learning from the beginning, but are caused by the conflict between the stimulation of various external objective factors and their existing psychological level.
So teenagers are tired of studying What are the main causes of the problem? How to deal with it?
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Weary of studying due to emotional problems
Adolescents are in a stage of imbalanced physical and mental development. Their personality, world view, outlook on life and values have not yet been finalized, and they have insufficient experience in dealing with negative emotions. At this time, emotional problems are likely to arise, leading to various types of study weariness. The more common morbid emotions related to study weariness among teenagers are:
depression
Depression is a mental state characterized by low mood. Teenagers who suffer from depression often feel that they are unable to cope with life and work due to lack of happiness, slow thinking, inattention, memory loss, and fatigue. It is difficult to do well while studying.
They subjectively want to cheer up, but the pathological characteristics of depression make them less interested in anything and lack confidence. Sometimes it is also accompanied by physiological changes such as insomnia or lethargy, weight loss, and eating too much or too little.
If parents and teachers cannot understand or criticize them harshly, it will further aggravate their influence on learning. Resistance to emotions aggravates depression.
Anxiety
Anxiety is one of the most common emotional reactions of people under stress. But when the anxiety reaches a high point and forms morbid emotional distress, it will have a negative impact on the daily life of teenagers, weakening their ability to study and live.
often manifests as excessive anxiety, being upset, overthinking , immersed in the pain of anxiety, and unable to self-control emotions. Loss of concentration and reduced thinking efficiency. Often cannot eliminate distracting thoughts and concentrate on thinking activities . Therefore, memory loss may also occur, and the ability to learn and process information may be affected. . Difficulty falling asleep, tossing and turning, dreaminess, and motor restlessness may also occur.
A series of physical symptoms such as palpitation, chest tightness, general fatigue, difficulty breathing, indigestion, and diarrhea may also occur.
Generalized anxiety disorder and separation anxiety disorder are both highly correlated with the problem of academic aversion in adolescents.
Fear
Phobia refers to the patient's unusual fear and nervousness of certain external situations, objects, or interactions with people. It can cause blushing, shortness of breath, sweating, palpitation, blood pressure changes, nausea, weakness, and even fainting. As a result, there is an avoidance reaction, difficulty in self-control, and even affecting normal activities.
School phobia is a specific type of phobia | pixabay
Common fears in the case of aversion to school include agoraphobia, school phobia, social phobia including general social phobia, heterophobia, peripheral phobia...etc.
Among them, school phobia has the highest correlation with the psychology of being tired of learning. School phobia is a child psychological disease that is more common in primary and secondary school students aged 7-14. It refers to an emotional disorder in which children are abnormally afraid of a specific school environment and strongly refuse to go to school. It is a special type of fear.
Children and adolescents with such diseases will feel nervous, anxious and fearful about going to school, and may be accompanied by physical and vegetative symptoms. Sometimes the fear of school turns into headache, dizziness, abdominal pain, diarrhea, vomiting and other physical discomforts on school days or in the early morning of school days. It is normal to read, play games, and play with children at home after school hours or during holidays.
Coping methods
Although the reasons why teenagers are tired of studying are different, they all have a common manifestation, that is, they hate going to school and are unwilling to go to school. To solve this problem, we must first pay attention to find out the reasons why the child refuses to go to school.
Parents should talk to them and learn as much as possible about everything related to their schooling. Pay attention to enlightenment, eliminate various tension factors, and do not use simple intimidation and other methods to force children to go to school. They should provide more encouragement and support, and avoid all kinds of coercive and punitive words and deeds to avoid aggravating the child's psychological trauma and emotional problems.
In treatment, Full cooperation of medical staff, parents and teachers is the key to success. When teenagers show symptoms of being tired of studying due to emotional problems, parents should get in touch with teachers and school psychologists as soon as possible to find clues from many aspects to see where the teenagers have morbid psychology, or where the needs of the teenagers have not been met. For some more sensitive children, it is necessary to gain their trust and conduct in-depth communication.
After determining the specific cause of the problem, the doctor will guide and coordinate, and carry out individual and family psychotherapy, and use drug-assisted treatment when necessary.
The best situation is to carry out prevention before the child has serious emotional problems, pay attention to the cultivation of the child's personality, and cultivate the teenagers to have good psychological quality from an early age, so that the teenagers will have a cheerful, optimistic, strong character and strong environmental adaptability.
In family life, there are many factors that have an impact on children's mental health. Parents' imperfect personalities, high mood swings, and unharmonious family relationships etc. will cause great pressure on teenagers and cause anxiety, depression or fear. Some parents are too strict or too hasty with their children, and their children will be scolded, ridiculed or beaten if their academic performance is slightly poor. This makes the children's psychology too tense and becomes a negative factor affecting their learning.
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Learning cannot bring a sense of accomplishment to children
School factors
1. Educational purpose deviation, emphasis on exam-oriented education.
The school focuses on exam-oriented education and pursues the enrollment rate one-sidedly. As a result, both teachers and students face competitive pressure and increase their psychological burden. Because some students with learning difficulties do not receive respect, care and patient help, their self-esteem is constantly frustrated. They initially feel ashamed and guilty, and then "break the pot", so they seek negative compensation through anti-study behavior, which progresses from passive laziness in class study and plagiarism of extracurricular homework to truancy and truancy until they abandon school. This creates a vicious cycle in which the worse your grades are, the more you will be tired of studying, and the more you are tired of studying, the worse your grades will be.
2. The teaching content is complicated and the teaching methods are single.
Learning interest depends on rich teaching content, effective teaching methods, etc. to stimulate. However, some teachers do not pay attention to the study of students' psychological characteristics, and their teaching methods are dull and monotonous. Teenagers lose the satisfaction of their thirst for knowledge and curiosity in learning, and gradually lose the desire to explore, and over time they become tired of learning.
Book-reading learning destroys the motivation of teenagers to learn |pixabay
Family factors
Inappropriate parenting methods will have a negative impact on the mental health of teenagers. The parenting methods adopted by some parents tend to go to extremes, or are too strict, or are indulgent and over-indulgent. This has a negative impact on students' learning mentality, making students think that their learning is for their parents and they cannot experience the joy of learning.
Students’ own factors
1. Learning motivation is unclear. Learning motivation is the internal motivation to stimulate and maintain learning activities. A survey on the learning motivations of students who are tired of learning showed that 38.9% of students said “if they don’t go to school, they have nothing to do”, 18.9% said “because it’s not fun at home”, “in order not to be criticized by teachers and parents”, “in order to pass the exam”, etc. It can be seen that some students do not have spontaneous and active learning motivation.
2. Lack of good learning methods. Without good learning methods, students will not know how to learn. During the learning process, teenagers may become blind or encounter many obstacles, resulting in low confidence and the idea of escape.
3. Poor self-control. Self-control is the ability to control oneself. Some students often have weak willpower, broad but not specific interests, poor attention stability, lack of self-consciousness and persistence in learning, and are easily impatient, shaken, and withdrawn when encountering difficulties. They are often tempted by other things and become distracted, lose interest in learning, and become tired of learning.
4. has a strong inferiority complex . During the learning process, some students often encounter difficulties and failures due to overloaded academic work. They are even ridiculed and scorned by teachers and classmates, as well as beaten and scolded by parents. As a result, they form a bad and negative self-evaluation, thinking that they are incompetent and losers, so they give up on themselves, give up their pursuit and enthusiasm for learning, and become tired of studying.
Coping methods
Stimulating the motivation of young people to learn independently and alleviating the occurrence of study weariness is a complex and arduous systematic project involving all aspects of school, family and social education.
First of all, educators and parents must create as many conditions as possible for students' success and truly see that each child has his or her own advantages and encourage dynamic development of students' learning interests and motivations from point to point to meet students' basic inner needs and then stimulate learning interests and motivations. With this kind of interest and motivation in learning, it is possible for individuals as student subjects to gain the inner freedom to truly develop themselves.
When choosing evaluation methods, we should try to consider the psychological needs and psychological laws of students, and use as many methods of encouragement and praise as possible to make it easy for students to understand and accept. While encouraging and praising, there should also be necessary criticism. The key is to grasp the degree so that students can accept it with sincerity.
Secondly, we should focus on cultivating children's learning ability, formulating a study plan suitable for themselves, developing good study habits, mastering correct learning methods, etc. , so that they can feel the sense of meaning and accomplishment brought to themselves by making progress in learning, and rebuild a correct understanding of learning.
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Rebellious psychology causes aversion to learning
Adolescent rebellion refers to a psychological transition period that occurs after teenagers enter adolescence. It is a manifestation of their increasing awareness of independence and self-awareness, their desire for freedom, and their eagerness to get rid of the supervision of adults (especially parents).
At this time, parents' excessive interference, excessive manipulation, and deep-rooted suppression of education often make adolescent children feel distrusted and respected; conversely, parents' emotional neglect and laissez-faire will make them feel that they are not paid attention to and valued, causing both parties to have constant conflicts and contradictions due to lack of understanding. It further inspired the rebellious mentality. Therefore, out of resentment towards their parents, teenagers develop a rebellious mentality, deliberately confronting their parents and deliberately not studying seriously, or directly choose " to ruin ".
A strong rebellious mentality will have a profound negative impact, not only stimulating a dislike of learning, but also affecting the child's attachment system . After an insecure type is established, the negative impact on the child's happiness can even last a lifetime.
As mentioned before, dogmatic communication is most taboo in the process of forming children's self-awareness. Teenagers are in the stage of being curious about everything and pursuing the truth. It is reasonable for them to not understand the inherent rules and authority. When they first come into contact with some social consensus and rules, adults such as parents and teachers need to pay attention to their personality, not to be perfunctory or shirkful, but to patiently analyze and explain, and even teach by words and deeds.
Family atmosphere greatly affects the physical and mental development of children | pixabay
Secondly, adults should empathize and understand their children, empathize with their own , look at problems from the child's perspective, provide more support and help rather than harsh criticism, maintain adequate communication, and establish a reliable image of "you can communicate with me no matter what, and I will always be on your side." Children will naturally be willing to take the initiative to seek help. Psychological consultation can be conducted with the child when necessary.
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There is a problem with values and anti-frustration ability
Some good students in the eyes of teachers will also become tired of learning due to lack of correct self-evaluation. The intelligence and knowledge level of such teenagers are often relatively high, but the development of personal character, belief in the value of learning, and sociability is often not balanced. They have high self-esteem and strong self-esteem, and have no experience or ability to deal with setbacks. They often cannot bear the lessons of failure or criticism from teachers. If they suffer setbacks in learning, or are criticized by a teacher or other sudden losses in competition, they will have negative emotions, respond to new challenges in the future by avoiding, , or even become depressed, reducing their enthusiasm for learning.
For this type of teenagers, parents and teachers should not be too strict. The families of such teenagers are more likely to have high expectations for them. Therefore, we must change our attitudes, lower our requirements for children, and change our overly strict and hasty education methods. On the contrary, we must persuade these children not to take things too seriously, let them understand the truth that "life must involve success and failure," and help children overcome their nervousness.
In addition, more emotional exchanges should be conducted with children to create a relaxed family education environment. For parents who have psychological problems themselves, it is necessary to trace the root cause and treat the problem together.
Teachers and parents should also pay attention to cultivating all-round development, guide young people to exercise good psychological quality, shape a sound personality, and make them become all-round high-quality talents.In particular, it is necessary to carry out patient, meticulous and peaceful psychological education based on the specific reasons why students are tired of studying, to exercise their strong will and strengthen their belief in the value of learning.
If handled properly, the setbacks encountered by teenagers are not all bad things. Training their ability to resist setbacks before they step out of society has positive significance in preventing the occurrence of various emotional problems and mental illnesses.
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There are some comorbidities
Adolescents’ academic problems are often related to physical problems, such as dyslexia, attention deficit and hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), pain, insomnia, diabetes or physical disabilities, etc. There are certain particularities in these situations. In these complex cases, basic treatment often needs to be combined with systematic individual or family psychological treatment. This can ensure that children no longer drop out of school and can better solve comorbid problems.
