However, now, there is a parent from Shandong who doesn’t care about this. She said solemnly to her daughter who is in her junior year: "Be obedient, you are not allowed to take the first place next time!"
There is still such a mother in this world, and she jumped out to oppose her daughter getting the first place - is this person crazy? However, without human affairs, no one can speak of others. Only when we think about problems from the perspective of others can we see the whole picture of things clearly. This is also the fundamental reason why we have to criticize in the tube.
So, why did this mother warn her daughter so earnestly? Let’s take a closer look at this mother’s post, and we can understand this mother’s good intentions.
At the beginning of the post, she said: "After years, my daughter got the first place in the grade and got the national scholarship , but I couldn't be happy. I'm really not pretentious, nor Versailles."
My daughter got the first place in the grade and got the national scholarship. Isn't this Versailles? How many people can get these in a school? As a mother, her daughter has such outstanding achievements, even when she is Versailles, it is also her arrogant capital.
However, when you read her next text, you may never have this kind of thought again -
It turns out that her daughter has high requirements for herself and is under great pressure. She spent a semester taking online classes in the dormitory, but she forced herself to feel depressed. Why did this mother think like this? Because she found out that she had become a garbage can for her daughter to pour out her negative emotions.
As long as the daughter's mood becomes worse, she will video with herself and vent her heart's content, sometimes even twice a day. After each video, my daughter's mood improved, but this mother took a long time to calm down. Even a normal person can't stand the cycle of
. It is precisely because of this that she helped her daughter and said, "Daughter, even if you fail the exam, you should relax and relax normally. It would be better to be happier."
From her words, we can read the mother's painstaking efforts. She was worried that her daughter would force herself to a dead end because she was too persistent.
And my daughter, taking the first place in the exam, became an obsession. Why did she do this? It was because she didn’t do well in the college entrance examination. She held her breath and wanted to be admitted to a 985 university or even a prestigious university in C7.
Have such ambition. Whoever is unhappy as a parent, but is too persistent. It is often possible that when you encounter setbacks, you can't stand it and go to extremes. It is precisely because of this that this mother said - be obedient and not be allowed to take the first place next time.
What this mother said is absolutely right. Look at how many children around us are walking into a dead end because they cannot bear the pressure.
Meng Yi, a 26-year-old doctoral student at the Shanghai Institute of Organic Chemistry, Chinese Academy of Sciences, jumped off from the 7th floor of the Institute's teaching building, ending his young life.
In his suicide note, he said that the reason for his suicide was "willingness to the world, wanting to be lazy, and mentally depressed." He also said at the end of the suicide note: "Although God wants to keep me, I am already on the verge of arrows." The reason why he chose not to return is actually because the research pressure in the institute is too high.
Why are children now so vulnerable? It is because nowadays, parents and teachers often only pay attention to scores. In their opinion, children have a future if they have good grades, and the rest are not what they consider. And they often ignore the most important issue - the mental health of children.
Only when a person has a healthy mind can he face failure and setbacks calmly; while a person with unhealthy mentally will feel dark before his eyes even when he stands on the roof and faces the sun. This is the huge contrast between mental health or not.
We all know that life is not satisfactory. At any time, we must learn to reconcile with ourselves, but have we instilled such thoughts and consciousness into our children? I'm afraid few people will do this. And this great mother did it.
Therefore, in order to avoid tragedies like Meng Yi, we should pay attention to children's psychological problems as soon as possible, guide them to establish a correct view of the three views, and appropriately exercise their ability to withstand stress and frustration. Once your child shows bad tendencies, as a parent, you should communicate with him in time to help your child relieve bad emotions so as to prevent the situation from getting worse.
Dear reader, what do you want to say about a mother who shouted to her daughter "Assuming, you are not allowed to take the first place next time!" because she was worried about her daughter's psychological collapse. Everyone is welcome to leave a message and discuss.
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