"living your parents"... is no longer a rare topic, but it is not considered a recurring thing. After all, the " reliance family" has existed for many years, and continues to destroy the reputation of young students.
But now, in the new era, "living off the parents" has also been given new connotations. has changed from simple eating and drinking to "decent eating and drinking" . Some students eat, drink, play and do not study while under the guise of "postgraduate entrance examination and public examination" .
I just never expected that the new things brought by the new era are not only new "living parents". "living" family has added a new member - "living girls". What is the situation in ? Don’t lew me, lew my kid?
"Getting Girls" is popular among second-child families. Many students are "sucked" to the point of exhaustion.
In fact, even if "Getting Girls" is different from "Getting Girls" and "Getting Parents", it is easy for everyone to guess its meaning, it is just that their daughters need money. But what we don’t understand is that The elderly have raised their children for the rest of their lives, and it is not normal for them to care about their daughter’s money?
is not normal for Lin - is less than one-tenth of care, but why should I exchange 10% of responsibility for 10% of responsibility?
Kobayashi was born in a very happy family, at least at the beginning, wore new clothes and ate birthday cake . , but soon, after the second child policy, , Xiaolin had a younger brother, and she became the "sister".
So Kobayashi said goodbye to her new clothes and cakes, and became the sister who "want to give in to her brother" as parents. Slowly, Kobayashi realized that the parents' attention and long-term love can really disappear overnight.
Kobayashi scored 86 points in the 100-point test, which is embarrassing, means "will not have a good future", and 's brother's 120-point test, which is worth celebrating, 's father smiled and praised, and his mother made a meal of braised pork .
There are many things that need to let my younger brother go -
When she was in junior high school, she was pushed down by the child commanded by her younger brother. She dragged her broken knee home, and her parents said "Don't bother with my younger brother." went to high school and went to school after school. My younger brother ran away early, but when she went home, she wanted to be scolded by her parents.
Xiaolin grew up in such a family atmosphere. On her 18th birthday, she used all her pocket money to buy a cake that the aunt said might be broken. On her birthday, Xiaolin forced herself to recognize the reality.
is the same as Zhang Guimei teacher said, If the original family cannot give you the life you want, then try to escape. is still young and has a lot of opportunities and time. But at the moment, what a high school student can do best is to study hard.
When the students of Huaping Girls' Middle School got one exam after another, Xiaolin also got her original family exam. Because the educational resources in the place are not abundant, Kobayashi worked very hard and only reached a end stream 985.
During the college period, Kobayashi almost never asked for money from her family except for the first year. After working in , except for regular transfers to her family every month, Kobayashi did not contact her relatives anymore, and slowly walked out of the haze.
But just when Xiaolin found the right person and was about to form a family, the parents got the news from somewhere and found it. thought it was just the family’s attention to the big things happening to her children, but did not expect that the parents’ actions were overestimated by Kobayashi.
After a few greetings, they got around the topic. The parents said that they had "carefully raised" Kobayashi for so many years. needs some filial piety money, and of course, the bride price is paid separately. The amount of these two sums offered by parents is almost as much as the money Kobayashi plans to buy a new house.
Xiaolin had some guesses in her mind, because of her younger brother's recent situation, she also heard from her aunt that her younger brother, who was spoiled by her family, only went to a private three-tier university in . After three years of waste, I couldn’t find a job after graduation and leveraged my parents at home, but I just found a capable partner.
Parents’ purpose is very clear, which is to take Kobayashi’s new house money and buy a house for their younger brother. The original little fantasy of parents who care about themselves was completely shattered. After driving away the two parents, Xiaolin completely broke off contact with her family.
If you are unfortunately in a "girlfriend" family, what should students do?
Although many parents will say "It is appropriate for children to respect their parents" , it can also be seen from the story of Xiaolin that if you really meet such parents who have almost never fulfilled your educational responsibilities, you should discuss this degree carefully.
Parents give their children great attention and support, and their children give their parents great filial piety and responsibility, yes. What if parents don’t even give their children one-tenth of attention and support, but ask their children to bear ten-tenths of "filial piety" and "responsibility"?
Is this fair to your children? Some netizens also said after hearing the story of Kobayashi, "Kobayashi is too cold-blooded, and family members should take care of each other." But as adults, should be able to distinguish the difference between "collecting each other" and "one-way blood sucking".
If "living off the elders" is an improper behavior, then "living off the daughters" is also improper. The eldest son and daughter of a second-child family should not be morally kidnapped, and parents who pretend to be confused in these families are also worthy of condemnation.
Therefore, whether it is the eldest son or the eldest daughter of a second child family, if the original family makes you feel the deviation, should not be suspicious because of the inherent impression of the outside world at the first time, should be clear that you are being ignored by the family. The lack of
The lack of family education is very unfavorable to the growth of students. Therefore, the first step for students to change the status quo is actually to communicate with parents, tells them about their objective needs as a child and express their ideas.
Most parents actually understand the truth. If students make clear, the attitude of parents of will also improve.
But if the student is in a family that really has a "focus on the small and over the big" or "refers to boys over girls", the prejudice of parents is deeply rooted and cannot be shaken in a short period of time, the student can only choose the same way as Kobayashi.
If the family environment cannot be changed, then stay away from the negative impact brought to you by the original family. After all, life is your own, is the person who should cherish yourself the most, not our physical "parents" or "relatives".
And the way to achieve this goal is to read and study. students can concentrate and devote their energy and time to study. can improve their grades, and 2. In person testing, you can really temporarily get rid of the negative emotions of your native family.
Wait until like Kobayashi, has an education and a stable job, and then we will really hold "independence" in our hands. At that time, we will truly embrace our freedom and happiness, and our own life.
Therefore, as students of ordinary families, we must study hard, and must rush forward in the college entrance examination so that we can rush out. Just as Kobayashi said: "Education and knowledge have allowed the girls of Huaping Girls' Middle School to walk out of the mountains, let me also walk out of the haze of my original family, and become myself."
Topic today: Does your children have similar experiences? Has it been solved?
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