My cousin’s child, Tongtong, had his first monthly exam in junior high school. My cousin said that the exam was not ideal, and even in elementary school, the child was not good at Chinese. What's going on?
Because in my impression, Tongtong has been a "child of other people's family" since childhood. Her grades not only won't worry about their parents, but also can take the initiative to learn. Every time the child’s grades are among the best in the exam, especially the Chinese scores are even more envious.
When my child could only get 70 or 80 points in Chinese, Tongtong's Chinese score was always above 95 points.
But such an excellent child did a lot of exams in the first monthly exam when he entered junior high school. The full score for Chinese is 120, and Tongtong only scored 76 points. The grades in other subjects were not ideal.
Mathematics only scored 99 points (out of 120). These two subjects suddenly pulled down Tongtong's scores, not to mention other subjects.
This monthly exam, Tongtong's grades did not even enter the top 20 in the class. My cousin was anxious. This child was not in good condition in junior high school, and his academic performance plummeted. In this case, my cousin was worried that Tongtong would not be able to get into high school.
My cousin complained to me. Actually, I am also very surprised. Why did Tongtong, who has always loved to study, change so much when he arrived in junior high school? Is there any reason?
My cousin said that since I entered junior high school, Tongtong has less time to study, but instead is keen on interacting with classmates. Especially I like to compare with my classmates. Now, it’s only been more than a month since school started. Tongtong has asked her cousin to buy her famous brand shoes, and she has named her to buy a big brand of shoes, with one pair of shoes worth more than one thousand.
I think what should a junior high school student do when wearing such expensive shoes? Many popular brands can also feel comfortable to wear shoes worth one or two hundred yuan. But my cousin said that Tongtong just called her and wanted it, and if she didn't buy it, she wouldn't go to school.
The contrast between this child is a bit big. What's going on? Later I chatted with Tongtong once before I found the reason.
It turns out that after Tongtong went to junior high school, the school has ordered school uniforms for the children and requires children to wear school uniforms when they go to school. This is true. Many junior high schools have their own school uniforms, but we all know that the styles of school uniforms are not good-looking because they are convenient for children to exercise and avoid children from comparing. Therefore, the colors of school uniforms are mainly black and blue.
But less than two days after the children wore school uniforms, some classmates started to show off their shoes in the class. After all, school uniforms are the same, and there is nothing to compare, so compare items outside the school uniform.
Tongtong said that many of the classmates in their class have famous brands, so she also needs to buy famous brands so that she can only be faced when wearing it at school.
After hearing Tongtong's words, I was really a little surprised: Is the competition among junior high school students so serious?
Although living conditions are good, students should still focus on learning. How can they only care about clothing? Moreover, the reason why the school arranges children to wear school uniforms is that they don’t want to compare with each other.
But a friend from a junior high school student at home said that shoes are already considered a pediatric department, and there are other things, but we adults don’t know.
I asked curiously what was there. Friends said that, such as gloves, scarves, hand cream, sunscreen, etc., the most exaggerated thing is that it is more than socks.
Friends said that if there is a child’s socks in his child’s class, it costs thousands or tens of thousands of yuan.
I really can't imagine what kind of socks are worth. The children's consumption concept really surprised us.
After listening to my cousin and friends, I looked at my own children and felt quite grateful, because at least my children have no requirements for clothes. Generally, I buy whatever I want and what he wears. At most I just ask him if he likes a certain style.
Junior high school students are really beyond our expectations for their daily necessities to be so. This shows that there is a problem with the child’s values.This situation occurs in
. I think there are reasons for both schools and families. Whether in schools or families, we must promptly correct children's behavior and help children establish correct values, so as to help children grow up physically and mentally.
First of all, the school is the place to learn knowledge. "Teacher is to preach, learn knowledge and solve doubts" . As a teacher and the leader of children's values, we must promptly stop the comparison in the class, gradually change the children's consumption concept through effective means, and help children establish correct values.
Once a netizen said that in order to prevent comparison between children, his children's school stipulated that his children's shoe brand could only buy a certain brand, and the price was within 200 yuan. In this case, ordinary families can afford it, and there is no possibility of comparison between children.
Personally I think this is a good method.
Secondly, as parents, although we have better living conditions, we cannot blindly meet the unreasonable requirements of our children. Especially when it comes to children's clothing comparison.
We need to make children realize that as a student, the most important thing is to learn. No matter how expensive you wear, if you don’t have knowledge in your brain, you will still be looked down upon by others. But if you have rich knowledge and connotation, no matter what clothes you wear, you can still get respect from others.
We should guide children to feel the joy of learning and enjoy the sense of accomplishment brought by learning, so as to stimulate children's greater motivation to learn and focus all their attention on learning. At this time, what children want to compare is grades, not external things.
I saw a mother answering her child’s questions about “tall, rich and handsome”. I agree with it and it is worth learning from her parents.
A boy asked his mother: "What does tall, rich and handsome mean?"
Mother looked at the child with a smile and replied: "High is noble character, rich is rich knowledge, handsome is real character." The mother's answer is to tell her children that we should not look at people’s appearance, but should pay attention to a person’s inner self. A person with rich inner self must be a person worth dating and a person worthy of respect.
I hope that the Tongtong in my cousin's family can also understand this truth, focus on learning, be a person who can gain a sense of accomplishment from learning, and let knowledge enrich their brains, this is the capital worthy of pride.
What do you think of the school’s comparison style? Welcome to share your views.
