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Parents are both academic masters, and their children can’t be any different no matter how you say it. After all, the genes are here to stay.
If you really think so, you are totally wrong.
In the past two days, I have seen two pieces of news about parents tutoring their children who were so angry that they collapsed, and were so angry that they had and convulsions. Parents who have experience in tutoring their children must know that this is not an exaggeration.
The deputy dean of the School of Education at Peking University said that he could recite dictionaries at the age of 6, but he could not learn from his daughter. Logically speaking, he himself has excellent genes, and his wife must be the same. Genetically, the child has the upper hand. Advantage, but the child obviously did not inherit any genetic advantage in learning.
Some people say that in fact, the quality of children's learning is related to the guidance method. The deputy dean of the School of Education is still a student of Peking University . He himself has made his education top-notch, but his children still cannot learn well.
The true feelings of tutoring children - the feeling of powerlessness
My baby is over 3 years old and is currently on summer vacation. I have made some arrangements for her, some of which are courses that I tutor myself, such as Montessori mathematics.
I looked through Montessori mathematics books, and the content is quite good. The content and illustrations are designed according to the baby's age group, and the children are very interested.
When I am not tutoring children, I am full of confidence, because the content is very simple, and the content designed for 3-year-old children is very childish when you think about it.
But when I started tutoring, I found that there was a big mountain blocking my eyes.
For example, when talking about this piece of content, the question requirement is to count the corresponding quantities in the picture and then connect them.
There was a fish in the pond, and the baby said there were two. After I blocked the outside one, I asked her how many there were, and she thought about it and said there were two.
I asked her patiently: Tell mom, where are the two fishes.
She pointed at the fish in the pond with her little hand and said "1", and then said: " There is another one for you to hide! "
What I felt at this time was that I was angry, wanted to laugh, and felt powerless. In the process of tutoring,
is not always able to maintain a good attitude and is indifferent to the child's performance. Sometimes she also has some emotions. For example, when she doesn't understand what she is saying, her mind always jumps. Yes, I don’t know if it’s the child who can’t keep up with me, or I can’t keep up with her.
believes that many parents will have such feelings and experiences when tutoring their children.
If we take it seriously, like the parent mentioned at the beginning, it is possible that he was so angry that he went into convulsions, or the parent who helped his children with homework in Nanjing was so angry that he was put in the intensive care unit.
So when we tutor our children to study, we must first adjust our mentality and always remind ourselves: Don't be angry.
Does children’s academic performance have anything to do with parents’ tutoring?
If there is a relationship, different children behave differently. When some children are learning knowledge, their eyes are bright and their concentration is particularly good. Some children look around, look distracted, and are completely unable to concentrate.
If there is no relationship, the child's concentration seems to be inseparably closely related to the family environment, parental guidance, and early guidance and education.
There is a saying on the Internet to describe popular celebrities: Little ones are popular because of their admiration, and big ones are based on their lives.
This sentence also applies to parenting. Real academic masters rely on qualifications, and real academic scumbags also rely on "qualifications." There is a large area in the middle where children's academic performance can be affected by their parents.
environment, guidance methods, and family environment will all affect children's academic performance.
has seen the different behaviors of two parents when tutoring their children. The two parents tutored a 4-year-old child respectively. One parent was very anxious. Every time the child could not answer a question or made a mistake in writing, he would They were all furious, thinking that the child had made an unforgivable mistake. In his eyes, the child seemed to be a child with stunted growth.
Another parent has a completely different attitude. He always looks at the problem from the child's perspective. When the child writes or answers incorrectly, he patiently asks for the reason, finds out the reason why the child answered incorrectly, and then tells him the reason. Why is the child's answer incorrect?
The two children have almost the same qualifications, but the second child seems to be a bit dumber. But the second child's results were significantly better.
When two parents tutor their children, the first parent can only get irritable, anxious and angry every time, and nothing else.
The second parent can master the child's thinking method through the tutoring process, understand the child's weak points of knowledge, and then lead the child to review this part of the knowledge .
This is the difference between the two parents, and this difference directly affects the children's learning efficiency and learning results.
The quality of children's learning is directly related to their parents.
When school starts in September, the baby will be a student in the kindergarten class. At the end of the semester, the teacher counts how many parents plan to upgrade their children to "intelligent classes" after the kindergarten class. , a parent asked the teacher: If the child enters the special class, will the child's oral fluency be guaranteed?
teacher’s answer is: No, it mainly depends on parents.
has a foreign teacher as the class teacher all day long, and the children are in an English atmosphere. However, it is mainly up to the parents to review with the children and constantly practice the children's spoken English, so that the children's spoken English can be improved.
Two parents said privately: We send our children to this school and spend so much money because we want them to learn well. If everything depends on the parents, there is no need to send them here.
A good school provides a good platform for children. The most critical link for children to study for a day at school is to review repeatedly after returning home. The gap among children is not only reflected in classroom efficiency, but also in the ability to review after class. In terms of efficiency.
As children grow up, parents can slowly take action. However, when children are young, their motivation to learn is not spontaneous and is directly related to the guidance of their parents.
We cannot be too confident in our children, but we must also maintain enough patience to communicate with them, understand their weaknesses, and guide them to overcome their weaknesses, so that children can continue to make progress.
