The height of a person standing, the depth of his thoughts, clear thoughts and spirit. People with small patterns are prone to trap in small places and sink into trivialities. People with big vision have a broad mind, can tolerate things that are difficult to tolerate in the worl

A scholar Zhang Chao of the Qing Dynasty once divided life into three realms:

First: look at the moon from the window; second: look at the moon in the courtyard; third: stand on the platform to play with the moon.

The height of a person standing, the depth of his thoughts, clear thoughts and spirit.

People with small patterns are prone to trap in a small place and sink into trivialities.

People with a big picture have a broad mind, can tolerate things that are difficult to tolerate in the world, and live a free and easy life.

1. The pattern is big, and it can be tolerated

Laozi said: "The highest good is like water, water is good at benefiting all things without fighting."

People with noble character are like water, which can tolerate and nourish all things, but do not fight or grab them.

Song Dynasty Lu Mengzheng , from a young age, he has been poor and has never been able to continue his meals.

Later, he worked hard to study in high school top scorer and became prime minister.

Once, he reported the matter early, and suddenly he muttered from behind: I didn’t expect that this little beggar who lives in a broken kiln also became the prime minister.

Lu Meng pretended not to hear it and walked forward without looking back.

The servant said in anger, but was persuaded by Lu Mengzheng:

"If you know who it is, it is inevitable that it is difficult to get along with. It is better not to know it. In short, it has no effect on me."

Even Song Taizong sighed such open-minded words: "I am not as good as I am."

The ancient saying goes: "A great disaster comes from the inability to bear in the moment, and I have to be cautious."

Disasters and disasters often come from unbearable. Intolerable.

A person's external manifestations reveal the essential pattern everywhere.

Maybe at home: parents are nagging and often smiling; lovers are complaining and accompanying as much as possible; children are shouting and hugging them soon.

Maybe outside the home: the villain treats him coldly and praises him; the idle is gossiping, praises him; the villain deliberately slanders him as a performance.

People’s joys and sorrows are not connected, and everyone’s perceptions are very different.

A person with a big picture, let me say the following.

He tolerate external noise and does not argue for right or wrong; he tolerate everyone's discussions and does not argue for right or wrong.

All these are neither fault nor confusion, but the wisdom of distinguishing priorities and being far-sighted in the world to seek profit and avoid harm.

In a century of life, if you can keep your original aspiration and allow others to interfere, you will not only be tolerant of others, but also forgive yourself.

2. The pattern is big, and it can accommodate people

" Admonition to Exile the Guests " says: " Mount Tai does not allow the soil, so it can become big; rivers and seas do not choose the streams, so it can become deep."

Do not give up all subtle soil, and make the height of Mount Tai; do not reject multiple tiny streams, and make the deep sea. The same is true for

people.

If you allow others to be arrogant and unreasonable and have poor habits, you will be able to create your pattern and temperament.

Uncle Han When he was young, he went to a deserted inn in a private place.

It was late at night, and Emperor Wu of Han had to have some boiling water. The store owner said angrily but impolitely: "There is only cold water that has just washed the vegetables."

The servant immediately wanted to get sick, but was stopped by Emperor Wu of Han.

and his group settled down, the owner said to his wife: "This group of people must be gangsters, and we must gather everyone to surround them."

and his wife stopped him: "No, depending on temperament, they may be big shots."

Finally, she got drunk and deliberately slaughtered chickens and sheep, and received Emperor Wu of Han and his group.

When he left the next day, Emperor Wu of Han not only did not scold the male store for being rude, but instead gave him a reward.

Because she knows that people wearing swords in the middle of the night are really easy to be misunderstood.

The old saying goes: "Only generous can tolerate others, only generous can hold goods."

Tolerant to others is a kind of cultivation, and loyalty and kindness is a virtue.

A person with a big picture can tolerate people.

Su Shi of the Song Dynasty can tolerate drunken people who knocked themselves down, not angry or annoyed, and can also tolerate drunken people who knocked themselves down, "the self-loving is gradually unknown."

Jiang Wan of the Three Kingdoms can tolerate Yang Xi "only answering" and smile calmly and accept its temper.

Dong Huan of Qi in the Spring and Autumn Period can tolerate the Guan Zhong who once shot him, and did not bear his personal grudges, and he also had the important task of being the prime minister.

Su Shi or Jiang Wan. Whether it is Duke Huan of Qi, they are difficult to observe people. They have a view of the overall situation worth imitating.

When we blame others and don’t like others, why not think carefully about how we can do better.

Only by "reproaching yourself with the heart of blame others and forgiveing ​​others with the heart of forgiveness of yourself" can you "tolerate what others cannot do and what others cannot do"!

3. If the pattern is big, you can tolerate things

The ancients said: "You must have tolerance, and it will be helpful; if you are tolerant, virtue will be great."

The world is complicated, and if you have patience, you can achieve something; if you are different in your hearts, you can achieve virtue.

Late Qing Zhangzhidong , one of the four famous officials of ZTE, was particularly short.

Just as the governor of Huguang , a painter painted a watercolor painting of "Three Dwarf Strange News", each of which was a local official and Zhang Zhidong.

Both are known for their short figures.

painter used this painting on the Wuchang exhibition, attracting countless people who were sarcastic and watching the excitement.

Zhang Zhidong's subordinate said he wanted to arrest the painter in prison, but he smiled and said, "It's not worth serious."

Finally, he paid for it himself and asked his subordinates to buy the painting.

As soon as the news came, the painter was surprised and respectful from then on, and everyone in the city was amazed.

People with broad minds can control their mentality when encountering major events and will not be troubled by fragments.

may be a slander of jealous people: if you bear it, the pure one will be clear, and time can give the answer.

may be the neglect of the rude: if you give in, your own value will not be defined by others.

Maybe it is the deception of the villain of Qiqi: laugh, people are doing, God is watching, and walking your own way.

There is never a need to rise up in the world. There is no need to ask for an explanation for "big matters" and "urgent matters" without needing to defend "important matters" for black and white.

Many times, the so-called big things, urgent things, and important things are just the relationship between thoughts.

If your heart is concerned, the prosperity you encounter is all desolate; if your heart is relaxed, the cold winter of the twelfth lunar month can also be full of spring.

The ancients said: "The great wise must be humble, and the great wise must be tolerant."

The big pattern and can tolerate is the great wisdom of life:

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In this life, be a person who looks at the overall situation. The bigger the pattern, the smaller the temper, and you will be able to survive the sufferings of life. Enjoy the sweetness of life.