Neglected teenagers are depressed, please pay attention to these four points!

The latest China Health Commission stated that nearly 30 million children under the age of 17 in the country are currently depressed. There was a girl named Yingzi in the once hit series "Xiaohuanxi", who had very good grades, but Yingzi's mother's education method was to give a slap, then a candy, and a carrot stick. I believe this is also the education method commonly used by parents today. On the one hand, they are very autocratic towards their children, and they always want their children to follow the adult’s vision and plan. On the other hand, they also show a very caring attitude. Will fluctuate accordingly. But more often, autocracy is more than caring, often suppressing and arranging children. The children have been in this environment. When the high school schoolwork gets heavier, Yingzi can't hold it anymore and suffers from psychological depression and insomnia. Her goal for the college entrance examination is to leave her mother's control and escape from this pressing environment. There are a lot of families and children like

. Whether they are seen on TV or heard from colleagues and friends, such incidents are actually happening around me. Getting along with children, especially those in the youth rebellious period, really has to pay attention to methods.

Why is the child's mental pressure so great now?

First: The pressure to enter a higher education is much greater than those of us who were parents.

Second: With the development of society, the pressure on employment and life and housing of parents is greater than that of the previous generation. Over time, we will invisible this kind of pressure infiltrate the children and give them mental pressure. .

Third: Third, this is an era of rich material and information, and children are actually very lonely in spirit, and the problems that children think are beyond our imagination. For example: Why did I come into this world? What is the meaning and value of my existence? This kind of deep philosophical proposition of life is thinking about when the child is very young.

Fourth: Parents’ expectations are getting higher and higher. The expectation for children in the past was to find a job and meet the basic needs of life. Now,

not only requires good grades, broad knowledge, high emotional intelligence, but also at least one skill. Therefore, children have to participate in various skills training in addition to completing their homework, and their identities are in a state of fatigue for a long time.

has higher and higher requirements for children, but the method of educating children still stays at the set of family education methods we have previously accepted. Such a method cannot meet the expectations of children now. There will be conflicts between the two, and many children cannot withstand such pressure, leading to the emergence of many conditions, such as frequent depression. Therefore, parents must pay special attention to communicate with their children from an equal angle, listen to them, learn more about their inner activities, and find and solve problems in time. Don't wait until the matter is serious.

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