Some time ago, news of "naughty kids" making a big fuss on the high-speed rail was flooded with major self-media platforms, and some netizens even suggested that "the high-speed rail will launch a carriage with children alone." The incident started with a 3-year-old child making

Some time ago, the news of "naughty kids" making a big fuss on the high-speed rail was flooded with major self-media platforms, and some netizens even suggested that "the high-speed rail will launch a car with children alone." The incident was caused by a 3-year-old child making a noise on the high-speed rail. Passengers who opened to the bus reasoned with their children's parents and were criticized. The peers even said, "If you think it's irritating, you can go there." Netizens who were riding with

said that their son was loudly clamored by multiplication , and the front passenger and flight attendant stopped him many times ineffective. The parents ignored this and praised the child for his good memorization of the formula.

Under this issue, many netizens have a deep understanding of it, saying that when they go out for a bus or watch movies, they are most afraid of meeting noisy children.

In recent years, there have been more and more cases of naughty children. Many "naughty children" in society have grown up in this way under the indulgence of their parents and making excuses for them to shirk responsibility.

But this is not conducive to the cultivation of children's moral concepts, social adaptability and interpersonal communication.

1 Why set rules for children as soon as possible

For example, when we are climbing a mountain, if there is no railing next to the cliff, the reaction is generally to be discouraged. In social life, this railing is the "rule". rules give people a standard behavior, thus giving people relative freedom.

Do not touch the socket at will, do not play on the street, play in the corridor, do not jump from high places, do not go into deep water... These rules ensure the safety of children.

Do not move others' things randomly, respect others' privacy, speak well, go on high-speed rail, cinema and other public places, do not make noise or litter... These rules teach children to be polite and upbringing, so that children can adapt to the social life of the group.

Go to bed early and get up early, eat less sweets, and do not use electronic products excessively. These rules make children healthy and more self-disciplined and excellent.

In the numerous rules, children can have a deeper understanding of the world and society, understand what can and what cannot be done, break the limitations of self-centeredness, be wise, have empathy, speak and act appropriately, and become a person with good education and correct views.

"Life is a hundred years old, and it is up to young people". Never think that children are still young and naughty and naughty, so they will be fine when they grow up. html Set rules for children aged 73-6, with the best results and the least resistance. Children at this period have not yet formed their own understanding of things. Their parents' words are like the "golden rules", and their children are more willing to obey; when the children enter junior high school and their values ​​are formed, the children will have a strong personal awareness, and the influence and authority of their parents continue to weaken, and it will be difficult to change their children's behavior.

2 Set rules for children Parents should set a good example

When setting rules for children, the power of role models is very important. Children will assume that parents’ behavior is right, and parents’ behavior is the child’s code of conduct. If parents set rules for their children, but themselves are breaking the rules, slowly, the rules begin to lose their effectiveness in their children's hearts.

For example, parents ask their children to stay away from electronic products and read more often, but after dinner, they go to the sofa and live a "two-person world" with their mobile phones. The children will also ask unconvincedly: "Why can you do it, I can't?"

Parents' words and deeds are inconsistent, and children are one of the important reasons why children are unwilling to stick to the rules.

There are also some parents who even take the lead in breaking the rules and demonstrate bad behavior for their children.

For example, driving drunk, running traffic lights randomly, littering and cigarette butts at will... These behaviors are giving children wrong guidance and subtly affecting them.
Therefore, as parents, you must be cautious in your words and deeds and set a positive example for your children.

3 Set rules for children and use reasons to awaken their children's autonomy

Some parents know that they should set rules for their children and set an example as an example. However, children are still very disgusted. This may be because parents ignore a link and do not explain the reasons for setting rules. They just instill in a mandatory way, forcing their children to implement it, causing the children to resist.

When children are two or three years old, they will gradually develop self-awareness. If parents set rules without explanation, the children will feel that the rules affect their free activities and are unwilling to obey them.

At this time, if the parent directly says to the child, "This is the rule, that's it!" It is easy to cause unhappiness between the parent and child, and the child will deliberately fight you.

When setting rules for children, parents should let their children understand the purpose of the rules and the principles behind them, so that their children can understand the benefits of abiding by the rules.

Used things should be put back in place because the home is clean and comfortable and convenient for use next time;
public places cannot make loud noises because no one wants to be disturbed;
complete homework first after school to do homework without having to panic in the middle of the night...

For older children, parents can also discuss with their children what other rules are needed in the family, in schools, and in public places, and why these rules are needed.

This process is to let children participate in formulating rules, and it is also the process for children to sort out why these rules are there.

In this way, children will be more proactive and conscious when executing.

4 Set good rules and implement

gently and firmly. Some parents set rules for their children with confidence, but when they see their children crying or acting coquettish, they will feel soft-hearted, or change at will depending on their mood changes. In the long run, children will continue to challenge the authority of the rules.

Therefore, parents must be firm in their attitude and let their children understand that the established rules must be followed.

However, in the process of communicating with children, do not over-criticize children because of their crying or nonsense, maintain a patient and gentle tone, and let the children implement the set rules.

Communicate with children with an understanding and encouragement attitude, which will make children feel good and confident about themselves, and thus be more willing to abide by the rules.

While setting rules for children, some reward and punishment measures can be customized to make the children responsible for their actions.

Strong curiosity, lively and active is the nature of children, but it does not mean that parents can adapt to their children's "nature" anytime and anywhere.

In specific things and occasions, parents cannot help their children escape, but should ask their children to bear the consequences for their wrong words and deeds, face their mistakes honestly and bravely, and correct themselves. In the classic picture book " I will always love you ", Ali is very worried that he will do something wrong, and his mother will not love him. What mom said is, I will always love you, but no matter what you do wrong, you must be responsible for your behavior.

Love and rules do not conflict. Love with rules and principles will be more nutritious for children's growth.