text/Zhang Xiaonuan
Everyone is praising Zhou Meiren for being so cute and being more adorable when she acts coquettishly.
But in reality, if you are given a husband like this, who can only act coquettishly, play games, can do nothing, and do nothing, do nothing, do you want it? In the end, you will become an old mother eroded by time.
Marriage is not something that can be with you as long as you are cute and can act spoiled. Marriage must be practiced with real swords and guns.
Zhou Meiren acts spoiled and cute when she is fine, and can’t count on her husband when she is fine. Just look at it. After being happy, she still has to return to reality.
job cumbersome
Say Zhou Meiren is a job cumbersome, it is not an exaggeration.
He plays games every day, and Zhao Shan is busy every day. He not only wants to earn money to support his family, but also serves the family's food, drink, defecation and urination. After years of hard work, Zhao Shan became an old mother, but Zhou Meiren was still "that boy once".
After the coercion and temptation of his son Zhou Bowen, Zhou Meiren finally agreed to get up early and go to the morning market to buy vegetables with Zhao Shan to prepare for the restaurant's business.
But when I arrived at the morning market, Zhou Meiren simply went to the tricycle box and went back to sleep. Zhao Shan was still busy alone. When I saw that Zhou Meiren accidentally twisted her waist and wanted to go home to play cards, she left Zhao Shan alone to carry the heavy bags of vegetables on the bus, I really felt that what's the use of having such a man?
Zhou Meiren's usual spoiled behavior is just pink bubbles. When he really needs to take responsibility, he runs faster than anyone else.
Does he love Zhao Shan?
True love is never romance when there is nothing, but responsibility when there is something.
Sometimes I really feel that Zhao Shan is not hard work, but life is hard. Thank you for your hard work and a day of liberation, and life will be truly a lifetime, and there is no hope.
Indeed, she had never expected Zhou Meiren, nor did she dare to expect him.
However, when it was really time to fight side by side, Zhao Shan realized that it was difficult and tiring to count on Zhou Meiren, maybe she was wrong at the beginning.
Zhao Shan is pregnant. She always wants to give birth to this child, but Zhou Meiren doesn't want it.
One more child will have an extra burden.
So, Zhou Meiren passed the problem on Zhou Bowen's head, hoping that Zhou Bowen would stop her mother from having a second child and "intimidate" Zhou Bowen. Her parents are older and will not be able to raise her younger brother or sister in the future. The mother gave birth to this child to put a burden on him.
Zhou Meiren's words were heard by Zhao Shan.
Perhaps it was this moment that made Zhao Shan decide not to spoil Zhou Meiren anymore, because Zhou Meiren was spoiled by her so that she was not only irresponsible, but also pushed her responsibilities to her son. Who would like to be a mother to hope that her child would carry the burden forward.
Zhao Shan was not angry, but the tone of talking to Zhou Meiren changed and became much stronger. While reasoning for Zhou Meiren, she comforted Zhou Meiren's emotions.
She hugged Zhou Meiren and said: I'm scared, are you?
Zhou Meiren nodded silently, afraid that he would not be able to do so, and he would cause trouble for Zhao Shan. Zhao Shan touched Zhou Meiren's head, cheered him up, and encouraged him.
Zhao Shan comforted Zhou Meiren's emotions and walked into the bedroom. Her expression immediately changed. A trace of helplessness mixed with a trace of fatigue, accompanied by a low sigh.
Actually, I feel very sad to see this.
It’s nothing to comfort Zhou Meiren when Zhao Shan comforts Zhou Meiren. But when it comes to major events in life and when they need to face them together, Zhou Meiren still needs Zhao Shan to comfort and encourage others, so that no one can be tired.
: The matter of pregnancy and having a child is obviously Zhao Shan needs greater courage and more comfort, but on the other hand, she wants to comfort Zhou Meiren.
It is true that only those who are loved dare to be willful, while those who lack love can only be self-reliant.
Zhao Shan decided to give birth to this child, half of the reason was because she was afraid of loneliness, and half of the reason was because she wanted Zhou Meiren to change.
Zhao Shan once said to Zhou Meiren: My world is only you, but your world is only games and a little me, which is not fair to me.
She was afraid that after Zhou Bowen was admitted to the big city, she would only have a husband who played games every day at home. She had no sustenance in her heart, so how could she live her life?
has been here for so many years, and she can see that no matter how much she spoils Zhou Meiren, Zhou Meiren still has no intention of changing for her, so she thought that perhaps having a child can rekindle the sense of responsibility in men.
She said to Zhou Meiren: Perhaps the arrival of this child is God reminding us that it is time to change and take on the responsibility of being a parent.
Life is enough to make us anxious, and we have to grow up with one person. Shouldn’t marriage be about finding a partner who fights side by side? When did you become a mother?
In fact, I admire Zhao Shan, a woman. After so many years with Zhou Meiren, Zhou Meiren's bad habits not only did not wipe out Zhao Shan's patience, but also made her always have fantasies about Zhou Meiren. This kind of anti-human emotion is too difficult to persist and too rare.
This is probably what netizens said: There are tears in the corners of their eyes, and there is light in their hearts.
weak emotional value
If you want to say that Zhou Meiren is not useless at all, he has a very good temper.
can also provide people with appropriate emotional value.
This is probably one of the reasons why Zhao Shan cannot live without him.
When an epidemic was isolated from both of them in a hotel, Zhao Shan suddenly became hungry and looked for food everywhere. At this time, Zhou Meiren said anxiously that she wanted to send the food in his room to Zhao Shan, but Zhao Shan stopped him and said that she had a camera and was found that she would be cleared for the past few days of isolation.
At this time, Zhou Meiren was so anxious that she jumped: I don’t care, I just know that my wife is hungry now, and this matter is the most important thing.
Which girl doesn’t like to listen to such words? It’s the taste of preference and the taste of pampering.
But I don’t think this is the real emotional value. At best, it is the pink bubbles in poor life. It’s okay to adjust the color of life.
The true emotional value can provide strong strength to the other party’s heart and provide sufficient nutrients to the other party’s spirit.
I deeply remember such a scene.
When Zhou Meiren found out that Zhao Shan was pregnant, she asked Zhao Shan what she planned. Zhao Shan said tentatively: Why don’t you just get rid of it?
Zhou Meiren immediately said with a heartache: It is not good for you to hit .
At that moment, I was really warmed by this man.
But when Zhao Shan continued to say tentatively: Then stay.
Zhou Meiren said: Look, the current situation at home is not suitable for raising a small one.
Finally, Zhou Meiren insisted on not wanting it.
Zhou Meiren dared not want this second child. Firstly, it is because once the second child is landed, it will inevitably deprive him of time to play games and cards; secondly, it is an escape. He was afraid that he would not be able to take care of his family and earn money to raise his children. Then the child would be the burden of his life with Zhao Shan.
Look, he chose not to do this child. First of all, he thought from his own perspective, and never thought from Zhao Shan's perspective.
If Zhou Meiren's sentence "Abolishing it is not good for you" is a warm emotion provided to the other party, then the value of this sentence of warm emotion is at best a warm baby who can only dissipate heat for 3 minutes.
If Zhou Meiren really puts Zhao Shan’s thoughts before her own interests, such emotional value is really valuable.
Everyone says this man is cute, but what I see is his selfishness engraved into his bones.
Sweet words cannot support marriage, and their fancy moves will sooner or later be exposed by life.
Love or not, are actually hidden in the details of life. People can lie, but details don’t. Love is details, and not love is also true.
Perhaps, Zhou Meiren had not grown up at this time, and he didn't understand what love is.
condonize
Zhou Meiren changed for the first time, and he started to practice stalls and make money.
The eldest brother who set up a stall with Zhou Meiren asked Zhou Meiren: Are you 35 years old this year? Zhou Meiren said overjoyedly: I am 44 years old this year.
Zhou Meiren's ten years younger were all attached to the corners of Zhao Shan's eyes and the increasingly deep wrinkles on her forehead.
There is no such thing as peace of mind, but someone is carrying the burden for you.
Zhao Shan is no longer tolerant of Zhou Meiren, but indulging him.
But is Zhao Shan really willing to indulge Zhou Meiren's laziness? Not.
In fact, Zhao Shan hopes Zhou Meiren will change more than anyone else, and hopes that he will become responsible and diligent.
Because once Zhou Meiren changes, she will be the biggest beneficiary.
But Zhao Shan never communicates with Zhou Meiren head-only about this problem that seriously affects the operation of the family. She only "leverages the strength to fight" every time. She knows that Zhou Meiren is afraid of Zhou Bowen, so she will intentionally or unintentionally expose Zhou Meiren's problems to Zhou Bowen, and then Zhou Bowen comes forward to deal with Zhou Meiren, and she finally reaps the benefits of the fisherman.
Then you have to act as a good person in front of your husband, and then speak for your husband in front of your son. Whether you want to go back to the game account or the graphics card of the console, as long as Zhou Meiren asks for it, Zhao Shan will go to ask for it for her son.
Is Zhao Shan really that stupid?
Zhao Shan is smarter than anyone else. She knows that Zhou Bowen won’t care about Zhou Meiren. Whether it’s a game account or a graphics card, Zhou Bowen won’t give it back to Zhou Meiren at all. Zhao Shan just pretends to Zhou Meiren in front of Zhou Bowen.
Some people say that Zhao Shan is really a wife with high emotional intelligence. Using Zhou Bowen to beat Zhou Meiren can not only achieve one's own goal, but also not hurt the relationship between husband and wife. As for the relationship between father and son, blood ties are the bonds, and they will not break at all.
However, is this true?
I don’t think this is a high emotional intelligence. There are many problems in life. Small problems can be ambiguous, and just pass it in sloppy, but the matter of principle should be placed on the desktop. Ding is Ding, Mao is Mao, make it clear and make it clear.
I agree with Zhou Bowen's point of view. Zhou Bowen once advised his mother: Mom, my little trick can't deal with my dad at all. You have to do it. You have to explain it to him clearly, and you can't continue like this.
A woman with truly high emotional intelligence will not be confused about principled things. They are tender when they should be tender, and when they should be angry, tenderness is because life needs love, and when life needs a bottom line. Love without bottom line sometimes becomes a matter of course in the eyes of the other person.
Zhao Shan's indulgence led to Zhou Meiren's 44 years old and realized: It turns out that my wife loves me very much. It turns out that my wife has taken on a lot of responsibility for this family, and it turns out that my wife is carrying the burden forward.
It’s okay, Zhou Meiren has awakened this day, and Zhao Shan has worked hard for so many years, which is worth it.
But what if Zhou Meiren never woke up in her whole life? Zhao Shan’s hard work really turned into a miserable life.
I especially like a saying: would rather be old than age.
I want to give this sentence to all couples in marriage. Two people who understand and support each other will be nourished by love. Those who are nourished by love will be rewarded with songs and wait for the twilight.
Author: Zhang Xiaonuan, I hope you and I will meet in the warm and comfortable words and grow together!
original is not easy, plagiarism will be prosecuted!
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