Now in this era of information explosion, the management of children has become a heart disease of many parents. Many parents are complaining about this and that, saying that children are becoming more and more disobedient and too difficult to manage. Then our parents have done it for their children. what?
Recently, I often wonder how did I grow up with my children? More than 33 years have passed. I wrote it on paper today. I don't know if it will be useful for current parents.
I often wonder what is the child’s nature? Is it instinct to eat and drink Lazard? No, it should be his instinct. So eating, drinking, and having fun is a natural instinct!
I often hear people say, don’t obliterate the child’s nature, so how can I not obliterate the child’s nature? I don’t know how many copies of my child’s nature have been preserved by these practices?
Let me first talk about eating and drinking. Eating and drinking are innate. When you are hungry, you want to eat, and when you are thirsty, you want to eat. He wants to eat when he sees others. He wants to eat when there is something outside. He wants to eat and drink if he hasn’t eaten before.
How can we eat and drink well? What should we do as our parents?
We can all control and manage this before the second birthday. After the second birthday, it will be difficult for us to do it slowly. Then I think that these foods and drinks can be guided to some extent. of.
We can be friends with children. From this aspect, it is also the easiest way to establish a parent-child relationship. We can make three chapters with him.First you think what is good, you can buy it for your child, let him taste it, and then if the child wants to eat other things, it’s okay, you can let him pick it in the supermarket, don’t be afraid, let him pick it , The rule is not to exceed two, he can't eat much.
I used to hear old people say that, The child is hungry, he is hungry!
It’s really like this. I remember our son didn’t eat food seriously at home from when he would eat by himself until he was 15 years old. He wanted to eat anything outside, as long as he didn’t eat anything, he saw I want to taste it, so we will take him to the supermarket and let him order the same and eat. Of course, our popsicles and ice cream were absolutely forbidden at the time, and they were not allowed to enter the house.
every time he can't really eat much, he is very happy and satisfied if he orders the same two things. After all, he is a child and is easily satisfied. Soon he will not continue to ask for it. , I even forgot to eat it.
"If you have milk, you will be a mother" This sentence is actually very reasonable. Substances are the premise and basis for establishing a parent-child relationship. At this time, this method is very good to establish a parent-child Relational, if the relationship is good, it will naturally be easy to communicate with other things in the future.
Let’s talk about playing again. I summarized playing into three aspects: first, children like to play fun games, and second, they are curious about new things.Three pairs of adults or animals imitate some actions.
1. Playing games, I remember that when his son is over one year old, we taught him to count, but we taught him to count, not just breaking the hands, we use gestures as adults Let's teach the child the knowledge of numbers 1-10, including we teach him the knowledge of clocks and watches, that is, our son will recognize the time at this time. Before we knew it, we discovered that our son's mental arithmetic was very good.
The nature of people is to play primarily, so what do children know when they are young? You know that you have to eat when you are hungry, sleep when you are sleepy, and you have to pee and pee. Don't forget that he is slowly growing up, and he has to grow up too.
The child grows up slowly, he can look at the facial expressions of people, he also learns to look at the face, and his thinking is slowly formed. The joys, sorrows, sorrows, sorrows and joys of adults can easily affect children. Therefore, when children are still infants, we must have an optimistic face, control our emotions, and treat all the contents of our children’s life with "education through fun". "The way to treat, patiently play with him.
This was summarized later, because now I think about it, and found that we did not thoroughly educate our son at that time, and I regret it every time I think about it, so I want to persuade the young parents to learn from me. This lesson.
Second, he is curious about new things. I remember that my son was curious about everything when he was young. He asked why no matter what? Then we must grow up with our children at this time. We must give answers to children asking what we know. If we don’t understand, we must learn by ourselves first, and then give the children the correct guidance and response.
Let’s not reject children’s curiosity arbitrarily,Don't just say "You have to ask the bottom of everything," "Don't ask everything", "There are so many whys in children", "I don't have time to take care of you now" and so on. Use these words to prevaricate him.
These are all contrary to curiosity, easy to obliterate children's nature and prevent children's creativity. All scientists and masters have a curious mind, they like to ask the roots, and they always ask why they are successful.
People who are curious about knowledge have a curiosity.
Newton If he does not have curiosity, he will not discover the law of universal gravitation. If painters and architects do not have curiosity, where does he come from? This is true for scientists in other professional fields...
Sufficient sensitivity, curiosity, and originality are precisely the key power and source of scientific and artistic development and creativity.
3. I love imitation. I also put it in the category of play. When an adult is holding a book and reading it, the child will pick up the book decently. Come and watch.
I remember my son went to kindergarten when he was young. We were on the way to kindergarten. I used Tang poetry as a way to play games with him and played with him. I can remember it every time I read two. He will remember it over and over again, and soon he will give back to you,Read it to you. Of course he would not understand the meaning inside, it was pure imitation.
I remember my son was riding a stroller when he was three years old. When I took him to ride a stroller on the road, how I taught him, and even rudely pressed his foot on the bicycle and he didn’t move. Feet, later I put him on the playground to play with other children, and he will ride when you turn around.
Thinking about my son back then, I also did a lot of things that deserved him, and went crazy with him.
I threw my son's schoolbag from the fourth floor to the first floor when he was in the second grade of elementary school.
also watched cartoons and sports with his son when he was young.
When he was in high school, he helped him watch football matches. When watching football matches, I didn't say that I just watched it with two eyes, but took the task given by my son to help him watch.
When the game was in his evening study, he told me to show him the football game, remember who scored the goal, when the game started, and remember what position and direction Ways to score goals... These must be noted on paper one by one.
I said so much just to tell us parents that if we want our children to listen to us, then our parents must first reflect on themselves and see if they can stand with their children and follow their interests. Don't keep suffocating with your child, suffocating each other, making the relationship more and more rigid.
Of course,With the children's happiness, the premise is that under the guidance of the parents, the parents should grasp the general direction and grow together with the children's sex.
end with an old saying, If you want your child to be obedient strong58 , you must have a big gain from strong58 s!
Okay, after a long conversation, I don’t know if the parents like it and whether it is useful to you. If it’s useful, please pay attention to
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