text|Original Xiaoyudai’s diary, welcome to forward and share personally
If a child is clamoring to eat a big cake by himself, play a new toy by himself, and don’t share it with others, then you must I think this kid is too selfish and doesn't know how to share.
However, if the child came up with an interesting idea in order to monopolize the birthday cake, you might find it a little cute.
A 3-year-old girl in the United States opened her mind for an exclusive cake
Here is what happened: A netizen from the United States shared a unique birthday cake requested by her 3-year-old niece on social platforms.
If the cake is made into the style of the lion king Mufasa being pushed off the cliff by his scar face , they will definitely be sad after reading it, and they don’t want to eat it, so I will eat it myself: the little girl secretly thought of it. .
Moreover, children start from the direction of customizing the cake style to protect the cake from being "infringed" by others and can enjoy it alone. This is a solution that you can think of without crying or making trouble. To some extent, it is worthy of encouragement.
Of course, although this is a solution, it does not guarantee that other children will not want to eat cake because of this. After all, human sorrow and joy are not the same. Maybe other children don’t feel sad, haha~
3-year-old child does this It's not selfish, and conforms to the law of psychological development
Many netizens questioned: Is it really good for children to come up with such a method in order to monopolize the cake?
In fact, this just shows that the child has empathy . At least she feels that the death of Mufasa is pitiful and sad, and she thinks everyone is as kind as herself.
In fact, for a three-year-old child,It is normal to make such a move, and it fully reflects the innocence of the child at his age.
First of all, I have a lot of imagination, and I can think of Mufasa's pitiful death at the time, just like I often tell my children (only two and a half years old at the time) the story of " wolf and seven lambs" .
In the middle of the story, the child will cry and say: "I don't like the big bad wolf. The big bad wolf is a badass. It eats all the lambs." Seeing such a scene, I can only tell him first." The happy ending of "the mother sheep rescued the baby sheep".
The behavior of a 3-year-old child who wants to "exclusively" the cake, is really not a selfish and selfish performance that doesn't understand sharing. Let's analyze it from the perspective of psychology.
3-year-old children themselves are "self-centered"
The famous psychologist Piaget Piaget 's "Three Mountains Experiment" has already explained everything for us.
A three-dimensional sand dune model is strewn with three rockeries of different heights, sizes, and colors, allowing children to observe the model and take pictures from different directions from front, back, left and right.
Later, the experimenter placed a doll on the opposite side of the child and asked the child to pick out the mountain in the eyes of the doll from the four pictures.
Not surprisingly, the children basically chose the picture they saw from their own sight. This fully shows that 2-7 year olds look at problems mainly from their own perspective.
The development law of psychology determines that at this time they still can't look at the problem from the perspective of others, which is what we often call empathy.
For example, at this stage, children give their parents gifts, usually candy and toys, because they subconsciously think they like them, and their parents must also like them.
At this time, the child is still at the first level of development in the stage of moral cognitive development-"pre-conventional moral level".
To put it simply, the ethics at this time are only external constraints for children, not internalized. They don’t really understand social customs and rules , obeying the rules is just to avoid punishment and gain benefits.
Children's self-control is not as strong as adults. Compared with mature us, they are unwilling to wait. Therefore, once children want to do something, they will do it without thinking, causing a lot of frustrating consequences.
In order to reduce the troubles caused by this nature, parents still need to be guided appropriately to cultivate children with good personalities.
How to boot correctly?
First of all, the role model of parents has a great influence on children. Give them more positive influences, so that they can understand what should be done and what should not be done.
Secondly, it is necessary to formulate rules and regulations with the child and establish a basic code of conduct for the child. is as specific as possible.
After the child is in trouble, it can be corrected in time. After correction, the child can be appropriately rewarded and encouraged to deepen the understanding of right and wrong.
Finally, effective communication with the child is very important. Whether it is after the accident or at ordinary times, you should talk to the child calmly, understand the child's thoughts, and the parent-child relationship will be better, so that you can be disciplined in the future.
.-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-