Actor Hu Ke teaches his son to overcome strength with softness: the future of the child is hidden in the emotions of parents

At No. 1 Middle School in Jiangxia District, Wuhan, 14-year-old Zhang Mourui played poker with his classmates during class, so the teacher invited his mother to the school.

According to the school's monitoring: in the corridor, the mother slapped the child, the child blocked it, and then the mother slapped the child on the other side. The mother got more and more excited as she struck, pinched the child’s neck with her hand and poked her finger on the child’s forehead.

After the mother left, the child was silent for a few minutes, then suddenly climbed over the corridor wall and jumped down. Unfortunately, the child died due to serious injuries.

Netizens’ comments afterwards,Some say that the child’s ability to bear is too poor; others say that parents should control their emotions, and that tragedies can be avoided if they go home for education.

When a person is angry, his IQ is zero. Parents lose control of their emotions when educating their children, and what will happen in the next second is beyond their own expectations. People who don't know how to control their emotions can easily do things that they regret.

Napoleon said: "A person who can control his emotions is greater than a general who can win a city."

is the most difficult emotion to control . Once triggered, anger will dominate our behavior. If parents can control their emotions and don't let their emotions "direct" themselves, they can avoid a lot of excessive behaviors.

an educator said: " parents’ emotional stability is the best education for their children ." In the middle, Hu Ke's son Xiaoyuer, during a meal, wanted to play with a toy just bought, and asked his mother to assemble the robot immediately. Hu Ke made it clear that toys are not allowed during meal time.Xiao Yuer was very unhappy after hearing this.

The two of them froze, watching the storm between mother and child soon. Unexpectedly, Hu Ke looked at his son who was losing his temper, but said gently: "I know you want to transform into a toy, and you want it to become a robot with a weapon. But you have to wait until the meal is finished. Play again, here are the rules, you have to follow the rules."

After listening to his mother, the child slowly eased his emotions and nodded to show that he would follow his mother.

When faced with a child's tantrum, Hu Ke did not blame the child in an impatient tone, and did not show anger, but cleverly started communicating with the child with "I know". Let the child know that the parents understand what he wants to do, thus effectively soothing the child's anxiety.

Parents maintain a stable mood to communicate with their children, which not only nourishes the children's heart like a spring breeze, but also resolves the conflicts between mother and child.

National secondary psychological counselor Cui Xin believes that parents should do a good job in emotional management. In the face of children's non-cooperation, parents should use "I" sentences to tell their children their emotions and feelings. Parents take the initiative to establish an emotional connection with their children so that they can understand their own thoughts,At the same time, guide children to express their emotions.

There is nothing wrong with emotion itself, right and wrong lies in the way of expressing emotion. Regardless of the reason we have emotions, we should not suppress it in our hearts, as it will not benefit our body and mind.

We should learn to embrace our emotions, vent our emotions, cry loudly or talk to friends, and even tell our children our grievances. This way of expression will not only be recognized by the child, but also shorten the distance between parents and children.

As children grow older, children will face various challenges. As parents, we must teach our children in a targeted manner according to their children's personality and temperament.

Children who like to do things their own way have difficulty listening to the opinions of others. We must give our children rights, and while letting them enjoy autonomy, we must also make them responsible for their choices.

A child who requires perfection in doing things, as long as we give him enough space and time, his success is just around the corner.

lively children,We can guide him to find a companion to study together. In an atmosphere of mutual encouragement, children will gradually develop the habit of learning.

For children who don't quarrel or quarrel, we should give him encouragement and confidence in good time when he makes achievements, and help him grow while moisturizing things quietly.

" university" says: "If you want to rule your country, you must first align your family; if you want to align your family, you must cultivate your body first."

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