Foreword: Many parents are both happy and worried about their children entering kindergarten. Since birth, many mothers of children have given up their work and leisure time to accompany and take care of their children. When he finally enters the kindergarten, the parents are relieved, but at the same time they are also very worried, afraid that their children will not be able to adapt. Life in the kindergarten, but I don’t know that there are still some “hidden injuries” on campus.
The neighbor of Nono’s mother sends him to kindergarten every day. The child is always crying and making trouble, and his mother is also very helpless. Every time he has to coax him to get on the school bus. At first, Nuonuo's mother thought that he would not adapt to kindergarten just after he was in kindergarten, and it would be better to adjust to a period of time, so she disagreed.
Until one day when she came to Nono's school, she happened to find that Nono was sitting alone in a corner and didn't play with other children. At this time, Nono's mother took it seriously. It turned out that the child's life in the kindergarten was not going well, and she was wronged invisibly. Children do not understand communication, so they are always squeezed out. It must be uncomfortable. Z1z
Nono’s mother finally understood the reason why the child did not want to go to kindergarten, and regretted that she did not pay attention to the child’s emotions at the time, communicated and enlightened the child in time, and caused the child psychological harm. Kindergarten children are in a period of fragile physical and psychological growth. Parents must pay attention to the invisible damage of the kindergarten, and do not harm the child's body and mind. Parents must pay attention to the following situations in particular.
1. Ignored by everyone
Most children live a lively life, and hope to be valued and liked by parents and teachers. In order to achieve such a goal, some children will do something to attract the attention of teachers. But the fact is that some teachers do not like children who are naughty, because they think these children will disrupt their classroom order and affect classroom efficiency, so these children are often "specially treated" and arranged in corners and so on.
And this kind of "special treatment" will make the child's psychology begin to resist, and over time will not like going to kindergarten, and even fear of going to kindergarten.
2. Compared by the teacher
Do you remember the little red flower that the teacher sent when you were a child? This method of encouraging students is particularly common in kindergartens. Teachers often use small gifts to encourage obedient and sensible children. These children who receive rewards are naturally very happy, but those who have not received praise will be very discouraged and have no motivation to go. Do anything.
children will also compare with each other. Children who are often praised will like to play with him, and those who are not praised will often receive ridicule and contempt from other children, and will develop some inferiority complex over time.
3. Isolation by classmates
Kindergarten children are relatively simple in their minds, and at the same time they often do not think much about the feelings of others. It is very simple to think about anything. For example, if two children are awkward, extroverted children can quickly blend in with other children, while introverted children are often unable to let go and gradually become isolated.
In school, the teacher is often unable to take care of every child, so the child who is isolated must be helpless at this time, and slowly, he no longer trusts others, and even closes himself.
Summary: Although these “invisible injuries” are unintentional, they will slowly erode the soft heart of the child. If they live in this environment for a long time, the child’s psychology will gradually be distorted. The original lively, lovely and cheerful child It is very likely to gradually become autistic and introverted. Each of our parents hope that their children can grow up in a healthy and warm environment, and they will also be a kind and warm person in the future. Kindergarten is the first place for children to learn, and it occupies an important position in a person's life. We should pay more attention to children. The growth of children is inseparable from our meticulous care.