As parents, must know the "Rhesus monkey experiment"
At the end of the 1950s, American psychologist Harry F. Harlow and his colleagues put a Newborn baby monkeys are separated from their mothers and raised in a separate cage. Two fake monkeys are used to replace the real mother monkeys. These two surrogate mother monkeys are made of iron wire and flannel respectively.
The experimenter placed a pacifier that can provide milk on the chest of the "wire monkey", but the "flannel monkey" did not. According to Harlow, "one is a soft and warm mother, and the other is a mother who has infinite patience and can provide milk for 24 hours."
In the beginning, most of the baby monkeys were next to the "wire mother monkey", but within a few days, something surprising happened: the baby monkey only went to the "wire mother monkey" when they were hungry "Drink a few sips of milk there, and more often they nestle on the "flannel monkey". In addition, experimental observations found that when the baby monkey is threatened by a strange object, such as a large wooden spider, it will run to the "flannel mother monkey" and hug it tightly. It seems that the "flannel mother monkey" will give the baby Monkeys feel more secure.
Why can flannel mothers make baby monkeys more attached and safe than wire mothers? Harlow and his colleagues gave the answer: "contact" and "warm touch."
94% of the rhesus monkeys are genetically the same as humans, so many psychologists believe that although the experimental subjects are rhesus monkeys, the experimental results can also be applied to humans.
Harlow’s discovery has had a great impact on contemporary parenting theories. Many orphanages and social service organizations have more or less adjusted their key policies based on Harlow and his colleagues’ research findings. Partly because of Harlow, the doctor now knows that the newborn baby should be placed directly on the mother’s belly; the staff of the orphanage knows that it’s not enough to just provide the baby with a bottle. They must also shake the abandoned baby back and forth, and be right. Its a smile.
Children who are often embraced by their parents are mentally healthier
The "warm touch" that babies and monkeys crave is actually the "hug" that human children often crave. Sometimes we will see that a child stretches out his hands to ask mom and dad for a hug, but mom and dad think the child is too clingy, or they are too busy and refuse. As everyone knows, what you refuse is not just a "hug", but also a child's safety attachment to you, and his/her basic sense of security in the face of the world.
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Hugs give the child a sense of security and trust
When the child is a fetus, he lives in the mother’s warm womb, surrounded by amniotic fluid, which is for the fetus A safe environment. When the child croaks to the ground, loses the shelter of the mother's womb, and is exposed to an unfamiliar environment alone, the child will have a sense of helplessness and fear. Therefore, the warm hug from the mother or others will make the child feel safe and adapt to this unfamiliar environment faster and better.
In daily life, we will find that if the child falls down or is frightened by something, a warm hug can quickly calm the child's emotions. Because in the hug, they feel that they are cared for, loved, and safe.
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Hugs can eliminate loneliness and make children feel supportive
The child’s desire for a parent’s hug is actually a confirmation of love. Hug is a silent communication. Almost 70% of the communication is silent. Body language can depend on an action, and hugs are the best way to express yourself silently.
When a child is wronged, a warm hug can make the child feel supported, and he will be more willing to express his "experience", resolve the "pain", and then recharge Fully explore the world.
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Hug keeps children away from bad emotions
Studies have confirmed that hugging will promote the body to produce dopamine. Dopamine is a neurotransmitter in the brain, which mainly transmits information of excitement and joy, and directly affects people's emotions. Therefore, children who are often hugged will feel more happiness and support, so as to stay away from the trouble of bad emotions.
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Hugs children, parents can also feel the nourishment of love
Hug is a mutual action, giving a hug and getting a hug from others. Love is fluid. When parents embrace their children and convey love to them, they can also feel the response of their children to your love.
In addition, children’s sincere smiles and warm hugs have the magic power to heal everything. They can wash away the fatigue and complexity of adults’ hearts.
So moms and dads, hug the little people around you~
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