#cognition## thinking##humanity##education##personal growth#
Thinking upgrade, wealth upgrade, I am Li Sen, because a few days ago I talked about the disconnection between children and society, and someone asked me, saying whether there is any information on this aspect. In fact, I really don’t have the information. I also analyze and understand from the perspective of human nature.
Today, I want to talk to you about such a topic. I see that many families attach too much importance to children, so that many children are arranged by their parents without independent thinking and ability to handle things. At least that's right, right? I think when I was in school, most of them actually rode bicycles to school, and they could ride bicycles when they went to elementary school. However, most of his affairs were arranged by himself. I remember a classmate at that time. He basically did a lot of things since elementary school. Since elementary school, he would do laundry and cook, and then go to the hospital to help his grandmother get medicine. Because his mother is a disabled person with particularly inconvenient movement, and she has no way to help her family at all, but her family.
still needs to take care of my mother and grandma, and my classmates are not too far from our home, so we will do it, occasionally going to help, it can almost be said that we have a lot of burdens on our small shoulders, so we separated because we were very few in contact, because after all, I later went out to work, and I only found out after I started working that he worked in his hometown, in a local road and bridge company, and he was the second-in-command, that is, the general manager. Really, not many people would believe that he would support a family because he was often late, and then at school. In the face, it is a famously late person. So now, you may still remember his nickname in the past. Even people who don’t have deep relationships will think that his surname is Chi. In fact, his surname is Chi. In other words, it is really difficult to imagine human life. If you encounter a particularly bad environment and encounter a particularly challenging thing, then his ability can be greatly multiplied, and then, he has unlimited potential. In fact, children and adults, I believe, are the same. They have their own thoughts and can have their own resources. When will they think about methods and when will they find better answers.
When you encounter a problem, you have to try to solve it. If it cannot be solved, then seek help from the outside world. But now, many schools should advocate that students practice, activities, and then experience real life in practice. However, in terms of psychological education, I actually think there should be a big gap. I actually published it in an article before. I said, don’t see a child, and think that he must need adults to educate him. In fact, most of them are very smart and wise, but they don’t have a better way to go.
can better express oneself, so from the perspective of human thinking and thinking height, I believe that most adults may not necessarily have a child’s open mind. Why do you say this? Their souls are actually much nobler than the souls of many adults in reality. At least, in the entire world of growing up, although they avoid a lot of intrigue and intrigue, they can still encounter competition, competition, and the bad people they think are, right?
So when they encounter these things, their souls are actually not subject to any evil thoughts or pollution, right? So it is a relatively primitive state in human nature. When we understand the relatively primitive state in human nature, we will find that in fact, it seems that most people will be similar in front of human nature. That's right, so you are like nature and science. These are not only learned in school, but also need to practice and participate in the field. Then the relationship between people is the same. Only by participating in it will he know who is the person he loves and who is the person who gives him a kind of practice and gain. I see that there are many young couples now, but for children.
is not allowed to let go better. Just like a child falls, he may need to go up and help him up, and then pat the dust on his body. In fact, for me personally, I may have received a little more Western concepts and cultural education. I think that children just want to let him go to to fall and let him experience the real life, so that he will know the feeling of reality. You say yes, if he often falls, people often help him, often falls, and people often pat the dust for him. When no one pats the dust for him one day, what kind of thoughts and psychology will he have? Let's think about it, right? In fact, wrestling is the norm in life, and he can deal with it, unless he can't get up, right, but most people will summarize it. It turns out that there is a pit on the ground, right, not your own problem.
This is a question of concept, right? I think that in the education of China, the more they desire the growth of their children, the more they will give their children a layer of protection. However, for the West, the protection in the future will make the children lose themselves. The children who lose themselves will live in an illusory world, because they not only live in reality, but also live under an arrangement that the whole family helps them. Therefore, many things they see and many things they encounter are not necessarily true, so why do some children see when they were young?
It looks like foreign buildings. Why do many houses have sharp roofs and very strange buildings? But after arriving in China, why are most houses square? Moreover, most houses will adopt an ancient building. For example, some tourist attractions, or some places with special cultural creativity or historical traces will be different. However, we found that many people have no way to explain to the children clearly from the humanities or the development of the entire building. What it is, it is a kind of inheritance of the entire history and culture, and it is also an influence and construction on ideas.
Because in itself, when we erase a channel of children's understanding of the outside world, it is actually equivalent to drawing a new map for them, right? This is also possible to understand it, at least I think it should be understandable, right? Because many families like it and arrange a lot of things for their children, but in most cases, the children may not even have time to think about this matter, and are affected by a family concept. So when he grows up, he will use this method to deal with something. However, he will find that it is very good to deal with things in many years when I was growing up. However, we found that it would not work if we encountered other factors and other different people, and the same method would not work, right?
This is what we need to let children experience a reality, and then there is also an idea. The transformation of love, right? This is that sometimes children do not necessarily live in cradles, nor do they have to live in a caring palm, right? Maybe love is really a way to let go, right?
I remember an education talked about letting children accept roses with thorns, and then letting them thorn hands, and then letting them experience the beauty of roses. That is to say, it is to let children see the impermanence in the wind and rain, and also let children experience finding rainbows from the wind and rain. At least for me, my friends and their children are comparing who have more things every day and whose good toys are more expensive. In fact, they experience wind and rain every day. When someone holds an umbrella, he doesn't know that wind and rain are normal. So when he grows up, at some time and at some moments, I think it will appear, and it becomes sudden and I hate wind, because when he is very young, someone will come to pick him up when there is wind, and when there is rain, someone will come to send him off, but when he grows up, he will mistakenly think what's going on?
Why did the person holding an umbrella change? Right, why no one holds an umbrella for me? I think there should be no real rain in his world, right?
So sometimes I can’t figure out why adults must go through experience, so you see that many older generations will say that when we go out of campus and when we face society, we must go through trial and error, and then find our own growth trajectory, but I think it’s funny, why do adults must go through experience, and children must experience a false thing from life? Can't children go to practice? Right, why does he have to succeed, and cannot understand the taste of failure in success?
right? Why does he have to score 100 points every time? Why does he have to rank among the top every time? Can't he fail the exam? Of course it is OK, right, because he must experience the real life, right? I even hear people saying that he wants to educate his children to survive. I think what a pale and powerless word is. I think on the contrary, there are many times when adults actually need to learn from their children, learn about their pain one minute ago and happiness one minute later, right? The change of thoughts is fast enough, so I learned from their passionate face and an attitude that can let go of anything. Is that true? So many years ago, I saw a Korean child training in the snow with his upper body naked in winter. I saw that the upper body was red and purple, and the little guys lined up in rows, and then carrying super large wood on their shoulders, which seemed to be a soldier. At least I felt very excited. What kind of education is this? In fact, this is a kind of thinking and culture inheritance behind the education. I don’t know if you have seen it through it, but at least, the world they have experienced is actually similar to the real world, right?
is not a comfortable world that parents or people deliberately package or create.I won’t say much about some education in Japan. What I want to know can be found out. In fact, the information is so developed now. What kind of information you want to know can be checked and retrieved through the Internet, right?
So the education in Taiwan pays more attention to emotional training, because I have come into contact with some friends in Taiwan, especially several professors in Taiwan, who actually understand that everyone has the right to feel emotions. Now many young parents may most of them kill their children's feelings. OK, for example, when children feel fear, uneasiness, and unhappiness, many adults will cut off their children's perception of emotions through their own methods. So I feel that whether they are happy, sad, or pity, they can feel their emotions. No matter what situation the child is in, they will feel insecure around them, right? So basically the core bond of emotions is to let him know that someone is always by his side, and he will feel safe, so he can give full play to it. Moreover, he can fully expand himself, and then realize various creations of society and realize various values of society, right?
I think Taiwan is more concerned about cultivating emotions between people. In fact, I think this is the best way to connect yourself and the outside world, because emotions themselves are the most nourishing a person's heart. However, with the development of the entire Chinese society, especially the middle class, why do some middle-class children say that when they grow up, most of them belong to the middle class? It is because they are in a middle class, their own parents' cognition, or their parents' cognition in the field of emotional care, and their children's spiritual connections, probably because emotions are the most able to nourish a person's heart, but at this stage, they are exactly the entire elite, or young couple, or the whole. When a family is constantly working hard, so people always focus on the doubling of wealth or on family education. There will always be a little bit, right? You see, the more you try the world when you are young, and as you get older, you will find that it will not derail with the world. It is just that you know that failure will move towards greater success.
You said, okay, let’s talk so much today. If you are interested, we will continue to talk in the future. Bye.
