html The 13-year-old boy Kang Kang is a little "violent". He likes to hit people whether he is happy or angry. The target of the person is either his parents or the children who play with him.
One day, my mother was feeding him and was slapped by Kang Kang for no reason. My mother called her back because she was in pain without thinking. Unexpectedly, Kang Kang called her back again, which surprised her mother.
Whenever Kang Kang beats someone, his parents will say "No". For the young Kang Kang, the three words "no" are not much stronger than the wind in his ears, and there are even signs of getting worse. In order to stop Kang Kang's "violent" behavior, parents sometimes use violence to fight violence, mistakenly thinking that their children will not hit people after they know the pain.
What should I do if a child likes to beat people? There are three choices for parents: one, say "no", two, use violence to fight back, and three, be reasonable.
In fact, the three methods have their pros and cons, and they cannot be chosen blindly. We must first find out the reason why the child beats someone, and then adopt different response methods according to the reasons.
Why do children hit people?
, express rejection
Sometimes children just want to express "not like" and "no", but the waving of their hands is a bit large, and their parents will mistakenly think that it is a beating.
, fun
Sometimes the reason why children hit people is just because it is fun or attracts parents' attention. If parents respond with exaggerated and interesting behaviors, they will give the child the illusion of "really fun".
. Emotional Carefree
Most children beat people is a kind of emotional venting, because they have limited language and poor emotional control ability, hitting people becomes their only choice to express dissatisfaction. Of course, the reason why children choose this method is mostly closely related to their parents' words and deeds.
If we can find the real reason why the child beats people, it will not be difficult to solve this problem.
Children love to hit people, what should we do?
. Find the reason
When a child beating someone, many parents will gently hit the child with teeth to let them know the truth that "it will hurt when you are beaten, and you won't beat someone in the future."
In fact, this method is not good at all. This will make the child think that beating people can solve the problem because parents are using it. For children, beating is a way of communication, not really trying to hurt others. We should first calm the child down and then find out which of the above three reasons he hits.
. Talking about feeling
The reason why most children hit people is not to hurt others, but to not know how to express their emotions, so they chose to hit people. Moms can discuss with their children, help them describe their emotions, and teach them other ways to vent their emotions, so that they can truly help their children.
In addition, some children will worry that once they confess, they are often not the understanding of their parents but the scolding and beating. Therefore, parents must accept their children's emotions and give the same language and expressions when their children confess their emotions to you.
. Emotional control
There are many ways to control emotions and vent emotions. Parents should find ways that suit their children. Parents might as well ask their children: "What do you do to make you feel better." Of course, the 10-second calm method and diverting attention are both good choices.
Our children are still young, and it is normal for them to not vent their emotions. As long as they do not hurt themselves and others, it doesn’t hurt them and let them vent.
4. Praise the right thing
When you are angry, the method your child uses is not to hit people, but to teach you the "10-second calm method" or "distract attention". We must promptly affirm and encourage the correct way of children.Over time, children will get rid of the bad habit of beating people and master the correct way to control emotions, which is crucial for children's healthy growth in the future.
When a child hits someone, parents must first suppress their "rumping" mood, calmly find out the reasons behind the child's behavior, and guide them with a flexible attitude and method to reduce the possibility that the child will choose "violence" again.
