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I remember when my child was more than 5 months old, it happened to be during the Chinese New Year. When I returned to my hometown during the Chinese New Year, I burned firecrackers at home in the middle of the night. When the child heard the sound of firecrackers, he woke up from his sleep and cried. He held the child and coaxed him for a long time before he fell asleep.
But by the second year, the child is over one year old. When he returns to his hometown, he still burns firecrackers, but the child is sleeping soundly like thunder!
Later, I learned about the psychology of my baby. It turns out that the things that children are afraid of at different ages are different . As parents, we must understand in advance and make coping strategies in advance!
There are six fears before the child is 9 years old. Mothers are aware of it early to deal with it early, so that the child feels more secure
★0~6 months: Fear of too much noise
This is an instinctive fear for children. When my mother was inside her belly, although there was noise outside, it was separated from her uterus and amniotic fluid, so the sound he heard was not very loud.
When the child is born, he finds that there is a lot of noise in the world, which is a strong stimulation for the child!
[How to deal with it]
Families with children, be sure to pay attention to . Don’t close the door loudly, don’t play too loudly music. You can choose some toys for children with soft voice , listen to soft music, usually Hug your baby more.
★7~12 months: Fear of strangers
The child has started to recognize people by 7 months old, knowing which one is the mother, which one is the grandma, and which one is the father, He will instinctively be afraid of when he sees strangers. This is actually A kind of for children self-protection .
Children begin to meet strangers and start to be afraid of strangers, so that they can avoid being abducted!
[How to deal with it]
When mothers take their children to see strangers, try to avoid letting the children hold the children or pinch the child’s face.
★1 years old~1 and a half years old: afraid of separation
At this time, the child has actually already developed a very deep sense of attachment to his mother or the nanny who often takes care of him. Once is separated, the child will be afraid.
[How mothers deal with it]
If the mother wants to separate from the child, try to have an adaptation process, such as 10 minutes apart on the first day, half an hour apart on the second day, and half an day apart on the third day.
As much as possible, choose to raise people in a stable manner. For example, if you are a grandma, you will always keep it.
★2 years old~3 years old: Fear of animals with huge size and terrible sounds
For example, take your child to the zoo, and the child will subconsciously retreat when he sees a tiger.
Because children start to learn to think at this stage, they will be scared of animals that are larger than themselves.
[How to deal with it]
If the child is afraid of the dog in the neighbor's house, the mother should not think that the child is timid, and try to avoid letting the child face the dog head-on.
★4 years old~5 years old: Fear of monsters and people wearing masks
Zihan started to sleep by himself when he was 4 years old, but when he was 5 years old, he was unwilling to sleep by himself and wanted to sleep with his mother. He said he There are monsters in the room!
Later I learned that one time my cousin came to play at home and wore a strange mask to make a face in Zihan's room, which made Zihan feel scared.
is mainly the baby's imagination of in its budding state and lack of confidence in its physical strength , so children will be afraid of some monsters.
[How to deal with it]
Chat with the child, understand his fear, and accompany the child.
★6 years old~9 years old: afraid of posing a threat to your own safety
At this time, the child begins to slowly realize death , so children will become afraid of things that threaten their safety, such as fear of knife and fire, such as fear of knife and fire. .
[How to deal with it]
Mothers can buy a children's kitchen knife for their children when cutting vegetables, so that the child can also learn to use these props. When the child understands how to use it, he can eliminate his inner fear.
Children's timidity and fear are actually a kind of protection for themselves. . Mothers should understand what children of different ages are afraid of, help children avoid them in advance, and avoid leaving fear in their hearts.
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