As parents, when we take care of our children every day, we always find that our children will do some things that make us feel new and strange.
At this time, we will inevitably have many doubts in our hearts.
But we ourselves could not solve these doubts at the time.
will inevitably feel anxious.
For example, anxiety like the following:
Anxiety 1:
My child is 3 years old. He usually has to follow a certain order when getting up and getting dressed.
Children always put on their tops first, then their socks, and finally their pants.
Once, when the child put on his coat and put on his socks, he suddenly found that one sock was missing. The child searched left and right in the bedroom, but he still couldn't find it.
I was in a hurry to go to work, so I forced my child to put on his pants first and then look for socks.
However, I didn’t expect that the child would cry and fuss after putting on his pants.
After the socks were found, the child did not put them on immediately. Instead, he took off the pants he had just put on first, and then put on the socks slowly.
After putting on his socks, he put on his pants again.
Looking at this series of actions of the child, I feel funny and angry at the same time. I feel that this child is too stubborn!
Anxiety 2:
My child is almost 2 years old, and his speech is not very clear or coherent. Is there something wrong with the child?
Should I take my child to the hospital for a checkup? It’s so impatient!
Anxiety 3:
My child is 5 years old, and he only hears nice words all day long. He feels that he is good at everything every day, and he especially likes to be praised.
When he does something wrong and you say something bad about him, he will be particularly repulsive, pouting and covering his ears. No matter what, he just won't listen.
What a headache!
Have you ever encountered the above-mentioned anxieties or similar anxieties when raising children? If you have encountered
, it doesn’t matter. Just finish reading today’s article.
can help you say goodbye to anxiety with just one trick.
So why do people feel so anxious when raising children?
Actually, it’s because we still don’t understand the power of “maturity”.
So what is the power of "maturity"?
As parents, we need to learn how children grow up step by step, and be able to understand them at each stage. This law of development is the power of "maturity".
The three kinds of anxieties we mentioned above are actually precisely because parents do not understand the three manifestations of "mature" power.
Now, we use the power of "maturity" to explain each.
anxiety1?
htmlThe reason why 03-year-old children wear clothes in an inherent order, and no link is missing, is because the child is reaching the sensitive period of order sense.This is actually the most normal behavior of children.
But because parents don’t understand the development rules of children’s growth and the power of “maturity”, they find it funny and irritating, which adds to their own troubles.
anxiety 2?
Regarding the issue of whether children speak sooner or later, it actually doesn’t matter if it’s earlier or later. Because
understands the power of "maturity", he will understand that children's language mechanisms arise naturally, and it is useless for us parents to worry.
As long as the child's hearing and vocal organs are normal, there is no need to worry too much, so this kind of anxiety is completely avoidable.
anxiety 3?
Parents who do not understand the power of "maturity" will not know that children generally do not like to hear bad words before they are 7 years old. They always like to be praised by others and like to praise themselves.
This is because they are building a beautiful image for themselves!
Moreover, children can evaluate themselves realistically only after this need is met. This age is usually around the second grade of elementary school.
But if parents always attack their children's needs before this, the time for children to evaluate themselves realistically will be postponed.
If this need is not met, the child is likely to end up with low self-esteem.
Therefore, these anxieties are actually the manifestations of parents who do not understand the power of "maturity" when raising their children. It can also be said to be the mistakes made inadvertently during the process of raising their children.
Maybe you have had similar anxiety, maybe you are having similar anxiety.
Let’s read Mr. Todd’s “Super Practical Child Psychology”.
You will understand the power of "maturity".
Just use this trick to help you say goodbye to anxiety.
Because of this, we can clearly understand the certain characteristics and unique growth power displayed by children at each age.
We will no longer feel new and strange.
We will say goodbye to anxiety, and be more calm and wise to accompany our children to grow up healthily and happily day by day!
As a parent, I suggest that you try to think about from the perspective of children, and understand the difficulties that children encounter in the process of growing up.
Because:
We ourselves were once children!
#parenting# #happy with babies#
