Hello Teacher Wang! My child is in the third grade, learning and doing things procrastinate, hoping to get help from the teachers.
Hello!
I saw your inquiry. Although the text is simple, the problem is very complicated.
You said that your child learns to procrastinate. In my opinion, the main reason is that your child lacks a concept of time and efficiency. Your child is already in third grade. You should let him know the "concept" of time.
For children’s procrastination, parents should not be too demanding on their children. To understand the reason for his procrastination, sometimes it is the parents' request that he is not happy to do it, so he expresses it in a procrastinating way.
In fact, most children are lack of time concept, so I suggest you let your children play against themselves.
Parents need to record the initial time when the child does something, and then record the completion time every day, summarize it every few days, and give praise and rewards if there is progress, and help the child find out the reason for no progress.
Parents can also compete with their children. For example, when the child goes home, let the child do his homework within a specified time (usually 20 minutes is the best), and see how many tasks the child can complete. How much housework is done in the house, stop immediately when the time is up, summarize the tasks completed during this time period, and give praise to the child in time, so that the child will be interested in doing the next thing.
As for his slow homework, some children lack the concept of time and efficiency, while others lack interest in learning and do homework in a coping style.
It is estimated that your child has two reasons, so you must conduct correct guidance on the premise of cultivating his interest in learning.
You have to help your child have a successful experience.
Interest is the best partner. To cultivate children's interest in learning, children must have a successful experience. Encourage more, and don’t beat or scold the child for homework problems, as it is easy to beat the child "tired".
Don't often criticize children for being "slow", as this will easily make them think that their learning time is very long. You can say that you can "fast" as long as you concentrate. As long as he makes a point of progress, he must be affirmed and encouraged.
Try to use the speed measurement method to let children feel "I can be fast".
Help children record how many words they can write in a unit of time (such as 20 minutes) and how many test questions they can do. Then calculate how long it will take to finish all the homework at this speed. Let children know that they can complete their homework so quickly.
Let children feel that "it is worth it."
The time saved by the child should be allowed to do something that interests him. Let children learn to ask more. Parents should teach their children that if there are questions that they don't understand in the homework, they should take the initiative to ask them, so that they won't delay too much time on the questions they don't understand.
If the child is dragging in the behavior, you can complete it within the specified time, if it is not completed, you can act decisively. For example, it is stipulated that the child finishes the meal in 20 minutes, and when the 20 minutes arrives, he immediately cleans up the dishes and does not give him food. No matter what he asks, he will not be given snacks. He will be allowed to eat after the next meal. Eat fast.
The child was lying on the bed in the morning, and the parents told him to get up and he could not afford it. At this time, the parents simply ignored him and made a decisive decision to make him late. If the child is late and is criticized by the teacher, he will remember it next time. In fact, if you are on time, the procrastination will naturally get rid of, what do you think?
Sometimes children have these bad learning and behavioral habits, partly due to the influence of the family’s education and behavior. Therefore, it must be corrected in the family first. Parents must lead by example, and family activities must be timed and observed. Complete on time and on time.
For the third grade children, they should emphasize the concept of time, first arrange some simple housework or games, and set a time for completion. Every day, the child's homework is required to be completed 1 to 2 minutes in advance. Pay attention to consolidation and continuity. You can also ask your child to do a simple physical activity, such as doing push-ups, sit-ups, and lifting dumbbells. Start by doing 10, increase by 1 a day, persist for 1 month, and then maintain or increase it at the right time.
Parents should tell their children: The important task for elementary school students is to cultivate interest and ability in learning.Without interest, there will be no enthusiasm and motivation.
Therefore, you have to find a way to make him like learning, so he won’t procrastinate. There are many methods, but they must be combined with the child’s specific situation, praise, encouragement, and so on.
Here, I will give you some small methods:
, don’t let your child suffer the consequences of dragging him.
If a child forgets to do something on time, or does something procrastinate, and then worry about the deadline or the consequences, listen to him sympathetically, but don't help him solve the problem.
Many children can learn the lesson only if they bear the consequences, and it is usually useless for parents to warn him about the consequences. See whose problem is procrastination. If it is a child’s problem, then take care of your own business and let the child make up for it.
The above is the question for you to answer, please carefully compare and implement it, I believe the child will correct the problem of doing things and learning to procrastinate.
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