Parents’ poor education makes their children more sensible, but "the future is endless", which is more terrifying than poverty

2021/09/0721:46:09 baby 1238

Guide: Educating children to promote , thrift, diligence, and thrift is a virtue. Many parents want their children to experience the hardships of life, cherish itself, _span2 is no problem. If we regard the child crying poorly as a normal state, and even think it is frustration education will be counterproductive.

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01. The psychological impact of deliberate crying on children is endless

Poor represents material lack ,If parents deliberately cry poor , let their children think that they are incapable, is not worthy of , inferiority is born from the bottom of my heart. This kind of inferiority complex does not even affect 's lifetime . Even if we have wealth in the future, childhood poverty will not be able to erase the shadow of .

First: low self-esteem

TV series mapping family education " small parents who have been crying for _span_strong_strong span1) , mom and dad are migrant workers in the city,Dad’s income from opening a small supermarket is meager , mom does odd jobs. Mitao is full of Xueba , the most chatted with her parents is " poor at home , I count on you to study hard for you." "Money, cherish" and so on, such cry poor education , Mi Tao is extremely inferiority , walking down to the corner.

When she entered the family of classmate Xia Huanhuan, she was stunned by the living conditions of the middle-class family in this metropolis , she even saw it 1 had never seen span_strong span _strong span _span _strong span _span 1 And beautiful clothes. After Xia Huanhuan’s father took them to a children’s meal worth 798 yuan ,Mi Tao completely collapsed collapsed, psychologically out of balance, she didn't know that life could have such a big gap .

Parents’ poor education makes their children more sensible, but

Second: vulnerable and sensitive

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Because of the habitual lack of material, the parents instilled the idea of ​​"can't afford and are expensive", and they can't wear it as well as others. The psychological pressure increases and they are unwilling to interact with others.

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Parents’ poor education makes their children more sensible, but

Third: Restricted pattern

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Parents’ poor education makes their children more sensible, but

from childhood cry poor education ,When she grows up, even if she is not short of money, she will not give herself the opportunity to enjoy the life of , and even think that she is unworthy of is happy. Frugality is true, but the consciousness of being poor is deeply rooted , will miss the goodness of life, no matter what is measured by money will gain or lose 3 . Pattern .

Parents’ poor education makes their children more sensible, but

4th: influence values ​​

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Parents’ poor education makes their children more sensible, but

These children have all received their parents' crying poor education , and the psychologist in the next interview pointed out: That is, cares and fears .Once he has money, he will not get along well with money subconsciously. will not dominate . Under the influence of the concept of crying poverty, once there is a chance, eagerly wants to have money, and it is easy to become a slave of money _strong3 _strong3 .

02. Being poor is a temporary state of life, crying poor is an eternal mentality

animation " cherry balls " has an episode titled "our family is very poor" _strong small The meatball family sits around the table and eats hot pot, because Japanese beef is too expensive , they cook a small amount of beef and pork together, even so the whole family is very happy happy . Xiao Wanzi has never shown inferiority in front of other classmates because of her poor family.She has always been cheerful and confident, is neither overbearing nor overbearing .

Parents’ poor education makes their children more sensible, but

This all comes from family education , Xiaowanzi’s father never cries in front of her, but although strong1span2span2 strong3span_strong can’t eat beef strong3 _span strong3 span_strong They regard being able to eat beef as happiness . The whole family showed positive Influenced by such a life attitude, family members have never complained about negative . The child is rich in heart and has a positive attitude . Although living in poverty is happy .

Parents’ poor education makes their children more sensible, but

For the child’s desire , if the child has the ability to satisfy the child’s , if is reasonable and 1 is reasonable_strongspan_strong happiness and good memories are not bad. If it is true that is beyond the range of 's ability, should not be accused of children, so that he feels that he does not deserve to have. It should be sincerely told him that the requirements are reasonable, this thing is also very good, but for the time being has no way to satisfy.

Let children understand that money is only to meet the needs of ,Bring people more rich experience, not all. Purchase items to be reasonable have a plan, not excessive. Let him have correct 's view of money, he will not take money too seriously, if he blindly cry poor limit normal needs, but will let the child's heart Desire is getting stronger and stronger, which is not conducive to the formation of correct values ​​ .

Parents’ poor education makes their children more sensible, but

The child is really happy is not the main reason, the family's attitude towards life is the key.If the parents’ pattern is limited to instilling narrow ’s poverty, complaints, and can’t afford, the child seems to be very sensible, but bury the seeds of inferiority inferiority strong. suffers endlessly .

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real has a pattern 1span2span2 _strong2span _strong3span2span Change. Although we cannot temporarily lay the material path of perfect , but will give them the support, love and encouragement of unconditionally , and pass them on to the children's sunshine, confidence, strong3span2 positive ’s attitude towards life,These cannot be exchanged for money.

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