time flies so fast, the second week's replay is here again. This week has been very rewarding. Not only did I gain the knowledge of reading and writing, but also the knowledge in the book has given me a lot of help, allowing me to face negative emotions and deal with family relationships reasonably. The heart became calm, no longer anxious and empty, and the family became calm and harmonious because of my changes. Especially in the parent-child relationship, I found a way to know how to communicate with my children, and be able to sincerely understand, forgive, accept, encourage and care for my children. I hope my efforts can give my children a truly happy childhood.
In the past two days, our mobile phone was swiped by the suicide note of a 14-year-old junior high school girl. Why did this young girl choose to die and leave a three-page suicide note? "It's very simple to destroy a person. As long as she destroys her childhood, everything else will take its course." This shocking sentence gave us the answer.
After reading the suicide note, we know that in the eyes of girls, parents never love themselves, but the self who was admitted to the top 10 and got a perfect score. The former is a tool for parents to compare, but the queen has to endure the insults and beatings of his parents.
All the misfortunes experienced in childhood finally broke out when adolescence arrived and finally destroyed her.
A happy childhood will heal a lifetime, but an unfortunate childhood needs a lifetime to heal.
The famous children’s educator Li Yueer believes that “children’s happiness is actually like the three primary colors that can tune all colors, but adults only give them one or two colors. They can’t tune the colors of happiness, and their happiness is Man took it away."
So, who took away the happiness of the child? Adults, educators, teachers, parents...
This 14-year-old girl is supposed to bloom beautifully, but she was used by her parents as a pretense of being good for you and wanting to develop you into a good person. In fact, it is to satisfy her parents. His vanity, turning a blind eye to the merits of the child, is all picky, complaining and verbal abuse, kidnapping the child with morality, facing the parents, the child is helpless, helpless, desperate, and finally pushed into the endless abyss by the parents.
Beverly said that if you have suffered childhood trauma, you may feel that you are inferior and not worthy of being loved. This series of reflections is a sense of shame, which is likely to linger for the rest of your life.Torture makes you unhappy.
Fortunately, after more than 30 years of research, Beverly has found a cure for shame-compassion. Self-compassion and accept the compassion of others. Then through the five exercises of self-compassion, self-understanding, self-forgiveness, self-acceptance, self-care, self-encouragement, to heal, will slowly heal childhood trauma and live a beautiful life of your own.
Sadly, the 14-year-old young girl became a victim of domestic abuse. I hope that the girl’s experience can awaken the abusive parents, prevent the tragedy from happening again, and give the child a truly happy childhood.
Nowadays, I am also a mother of a child. As a mother, I don’t just take care of the child’s clothing, food, shelter, and transportation. Instead, I guide and educate my child. This is a skill that a parent must learn throughout his life.
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