Text/Xiamo
01, Volume Beginner
Family, like a small boat, everyone has their own responsibilities.
Someone is responsible for the helm and some are responsible for the paddle. Whether the boat can move forward steadily in the vast ocean of life cannot be separated from the efforts of every family member.
Visguan said: "The happiest thing in the world is to have a happy family. Every member of the family should live in harmony and belong to each other."
The development of a family is influenced by every family member.
As a part of the family, a sense of responsibility is very important. If everyone in the family does not care about the big family, it will be difficult for him to develop harmoniously.
Happy families are similar, while unfortunate families are often inseparable from the influence of the previous generations.
Family and everything goes well. The real sorrow of a family is not that they have no money, but that they meet three types of elderly people.
02. When encountering a small thing, you can't control your emotions, and you can't control your emotions.
In the same family, if there are elderly people who can't control their emotions and like to lose their temper at will, it will easily affect the emotions of their family members and destroy the atmosphere at home.
Especially, when an elderly person is doing something small and making trouble, he will panic when encountering something, and it is easy to pour negative emotions into his family.
American novelist Dresse said: "A harmonious family air is a flower in the world. Nothing is more gentle than it, and nothing knows better to cultivate the nature of a family to be strong and upright. The true happiness and joy of life are immersed in intimate family relationships."
In a family, the elderly do not panic when encountering things and maintain a stable mood, so as to stabilize the emotions of the family.
People get old and make trouble when encountering small things, unstable, and often cause family conflicts for no reason, which will make their children suffer.
Especially some elderly people, when they encounter unhappy and destroy their own interests, they will be desperate and panic.
The elderly cannot control their emotions, and their families will be affected. The originally peaceful home always makes people feel uneasy.
There is no good atmosphere in the family, and the family is not united, it is difficult for the people at home to develop their careers with peace of mind, and it is difficult for the big family to develop.
03. Love to attack children, worry about their affairs everywhere
The moment the children are born, parents are ready to do everything they can to care for them and love them.
Washington said: "Let children feel that family is the happiest place in the world. This is a wise approach made by cultivated adults in the past. In my opinion, this wonderful family emotion is as precious as the most exquisite gifts given to children by adults."
However, it is difficult for many Chinese parents to love and raise their children in the right way.
Since ancient times, there has been a saying that "the filial son comes from the stick". Influenced by traditional ideas, many parents are accustomed to attacking their children and worrying about their children's affairs everywhere.
Parents are used to cracking down on their children and denying them. They worry about their studies when they were young, find a job when they grow up, and they have to express their opinions when they get married, and worry about them everywhere.
Although parents' behavior is "for the good of their children", their heavy love inadvertently prevents them from being themselves, and gradually lays many hidden dangers on their children's life path.
The greatest sorrow of a family is not that they have no money, but that there are elderly people who don’t know how to let go of their children and are worried about them everywhere. Even if her children are old, she likes to express her opinions on everything and interfere with and interfere in everything.
causes conflicts between her and her children to emerge one after another, and also leads to children being unable to keep a distance, having a confident self, and being unable to live bravely and enthusiastically in this world.
04. Improper values and improper family traditions will affect future generations
In the inheritance of the family, the best thing parents bring to their children is not wealth, but education.
If parents have bad values and family traditions, it will inevitably affect the values of future generations.If you lose virtue, you will not have a smooth life.
Fome generations are the hope of the family, but parents cannot be ignored as role models for their children.
In a family, the biggest sorrow is not the lack of money, but the incorrect values of parents. In the wrong way, it is constantly affecting the growth of children.
so that children cannot distinguish right from wrong after adulthood and do not have good character. Do more things that hurt the family and hinder the development of the family.
Good family style is the best Feng Shui for a family.
Many families with bad family traditions, even if they have money at home, will eventually lead to family failure due to their own behavior and lead to their children astray.
At home, the impact of the elderly on a family is subtle; the impact on children is also a lifelong thing.
The family style is not upright, and the road of a good life becomes more and more distorted, and the family will also decline.
05. Summary
Century Old Man Ba Jin said: "The meaning of life lies in giving, in giving, not in acceptance, not in struggle."
As the saying goes, "A family has an old age, like a treasure."
In life, every age has responsibilities and obligations to be fulfilled.
In the big family, as an elderly person, set a good example. Control your own emotions and don’t treat your family as a punching bag; give your children respect, learn to let go, and let them grow independently; and set an example and establish a good family tradition.
There are no rules and no order. The most important thing in life is to have principles and bottom lines.
No matter what age you are now, you must learn to control yourself and not be the one who harms the harmony of your family.
In this world, only with home can you have a home. Only by managing your family well can you have a place to go for the rest of your life.
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Author: Xia Mo, a new emotional tutor, psychology scholar, a popular emotional writer on the entire network of over 1 billion, a happy woman manager, focusing on emotions, gender, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.
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