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Author | Jiawen Editor | Yanzi
01 Have you ever directly confronted the boss in the workplace?
A few days ago, there was a hot topic on Weibo #Post-95 is really a clean workplace#. A netizen shared:
My friend’s daughter is at the front desk. One night, the boss wanted to invite a customer to dinner, so he asked the little girl to follow him. Everyone understands the reason. How can a man at the table be active without a girl?
Unexpectedly, the little girl said directly: "Why do you want me to go? Why don't you ask your wife to go?" As a result, the boss was criticized for a long time and couldn't recover.
To be honest, I admire this little girl so much. The sentence against the boss was really straightforward, without being careful, without being downrightened, and without refusing to think about the entanglement of the speech. is a very simple "You make me uncomfortable, so I will directly criticize you."
After all, under the same circumstances, she said what I dare not say and did what I dare not do.
remembered that when I was working in a small company, there was a dinner party. Because there were too few people, I couldn’t get together. The boss asked every employee to bring his family on a whim. He repeatedly told me that I must bring it to my husband. I said that my husband worked overtime, but the boss said directly that I would just go to work in a class?
To be honest, I am very disgusted and feel like I am being violated. In my perception, my family is equivalent to my privacy. Secondly, you didn’t give my husband a public salary, why did my husband still have to serve you? Even the people who have dinner together can’t get together, so I don’t think about why?
But this sentence is still hidden in my heart and I didn’t dare to say it.
When the dinner was held, I was the only one of the new boys and I didn’t bring my family. The boss immediately gave in. I couldn’t bear it anymore. I was about to argue with the boss, but the boy directly started to argue: What are you shaking? How can I give me some money and my whole family has to serve you? Where do you get the confidence?
said, "Remember, don't owe me your salary, otherwise you will go to Labor Bureau to sue you", and then left, leaving behind the boss who was so angry that he was also laughing secretly in his heart.
02 Should I directly criticize my boss in the workplace?
is really hard to draw a conclusion directly, because the boss and employee positions are different, and the dimensions of thinking about problems are also different. Many times, the boss has normal work arrangements, and as an employee, he starts to spray, which is no different from being a gangster, or he always has a victim mentality, and he feels that everyone is sorry for him. To be honest, I also hate such employees.
can workplace after all, it is not a binary world that is either black or white, it is very complicated. When communicating with superiors and subordinates, although I do not agree with the direct struggle and start a fight directly, if I encounter the following three situations, I still hope you can just click it and just go over it. Don’t think about enduring the calm for a while, Remember that you are here to make money, not to be angry.
What's more, forbearance is often the result of endless disasters.
① Personal attack, personality insult directly criticize
for work errors, or lack of ability, resulting in inefficiency, and it is understandable to be scolded a few words. But if it rises to personal attack and personal insult, remember to fight back directly.
Things have come to this level. What the boss is thinking about is not how to solve the problem, but how to vent his own pressure, dissatisfaction, and negative energy.
The boss is also a human being. He bullies the weak and is afraid of the strong and picks the weak and persimmons. He has his bad nature as a human being. You are tolerant again and again, and he also tests your bottom line again and again.
Don’t be afraid of the consequences. At worst, you can be fired. But if you understand the Labor Law , you will know that employers cannot open people at will, otherwise they will have to pay a certain amount of economic compensation to the workers.
But this is often the case. When the other party knows that you are not easy to mess with, he will be very polite to you.
A friend of mine told me that when she first started working, she was annoyed, and the boss often vented her anger on her, although some mistakes were not made by her, once she couldn't help it, and she fought with the boss in public, pointing at the boss' nose to tell the other party to be polite in the future. From then on, the company was very polite to her from top to bottom.
was just right in front of me. Although it was simple and crude, it was useful. What you get is not only the opportunity for equal communication, but also the real interests, personal dignity, etc., and all of these are the root of being born into human beings.
② Sarcastic, slandering and spreading rumors and directly slandering
When I was working in that small company, the boss and the boss's wife often said sarcastic to me, saying "let college students do it", "Oh, what's so great about college students?" "Are you still college students?"...
To be honest, I felt very uncomfortable when I heard it, but I still advised myself that the boss might just be joking and joking, but later I found that another employee with a university degree came to the company, but the couple never said the three words "college students" in front of others. After
, I sent a WeChat message to the boss's wife and expressed my dissatisfaction clearly. The boss's wife's reply was still sarcastic and said: I thought you too well and had too high expectations for you. I will try not to look for you in the future.
To be honest, I still regret it, and I regret why I didn’t directly fight back at that time. If it were now, I would have said directly: Why did college students eat your rice? Have you dug up your ancestral grave?
In the words of my best friend, it means: the other person’s work is ugly, so don’t ask yourself to speak well.
Because this kind of person is not a problem of you enduring it once or twice. If you don’t directly fight back at the beginning, then he will determine this way of thinking and behavior, and will infringe on you more and more.
③ Moral kidnapping, interests are damaged, and directly confronted
also has to share something I encountered when I was doing sales. That time I signed a big order, but when I calculated my salary, I found that the commission was small. The boss’s wife talked to me, meaning that my colleagues have been following this client, and my colleagues have also paid a lot... The central idea is that I have to divide my performance by 30%.
I said firmly: Boss, it’s really not to refute your face. I don’t know how to distinguish this performance.
The boss lady saw that I was firm in her attitude, so she started to kidnap morally, saying that she would promote me to be a store manager in the future, but there was no situation at all. She also said that it was a blessing to suffer losses. I directly retorted: Do you want this blessing?
I understand what I mean very clearly. If the company thinks that employees work hard and make contributions, then I will give you bonuses and red envelopes. I am not qualified to stop you, but don’t use my commission to show your own pattern and realm.
I remember a joke on Douyin said: You give me 100,000 yuan a month, and I wash all my shorts for you. See if I have any pattern. When we come out to work, we are first to make money, and secondly we are learning and growing. The most useless thing in this world is the penniless pattern and the useless kindness.
You must always believe that you are worth it.
03 Behind the boss is the fear of power
I have been thinking before, why are the people in the workplace before the post-90s so cowardly, so cautious, and obey the leader's words? Is it just because life pressure is too great?
Later, I read Zhang Hongjie 's "The Evolution of China's National Nature" and I was wondering, is the reason behind it because of the fear of power?
Qing centralization reached its peak. When the ministers saw the emperor calling themselves "slaves", they would kneel down and kowtow at all. In the eyes of the Qing emperors, the people and ministers were all humble. They were born to serve the imperial power... If you have a slight mistake, you will be killed in the whole family...
But what we don't know is that in China there was such a beautiful era - Tang Dynasty Zhenguan rule, which is a master of quarrels Wei Zheng 8 I have made many suggestions, and every time I can make the emperor angry...
During the reign of Emperor Renzong of Song 8, countless scholars took it as their mission to support the world. They were not the emperor's slaves, they wanted to rule the world with the emperor...
So, we found that in that period of time a thousand years ago, a group of imperial elites still created a beautiful era of peace and quiet without being cautious or bowing their eyebrows.
Nowadays, more and more young people are beginning to emerge in the workplace. They are beginning to use new values to reverse the previous unhealthy trends. I think this is a good sign.
I know that there are too many helpless and exhausting things in the real workplace, but I still say the same thing: Tolerance cannot solve the problem, and never endure yourself as hard-working.
When you are angry, just fight, just like Ye Lanyi in " The Legend of Zhen Huan ", then whoever loves the blessings will want!
