likes this sentence very much:
"When you endure there is no love, no hatred, and no others in your heart, you will be reborn."
Born as a human being, don't be in trouble with yourself. Some people and some things should be learned to be more open-minded and take more lightly.
You are always entangled with all kinds of things, always want to spend energy on trivial things, and in the end it is you who suffer.
Learn to make yourself feel more relaxed, learn to clear your negative emotions in your heart, keep your heart free of worries, don’t worry about the past, don’t worry about the future, let go of your obsession, and the pain of life will disappear.
01 Don’t fight, the more you fight, the more tired you become
Wang Zengqi wrote in "Slow Cooking Life ":
"Don’t worry, have fewer vulgar thoughts, be content with the situation, and use the original intention to slowly cook life quietly."
There are thousands of roads in life, and there is no only one standard for a happy life. Many times, the reason why people suffer is that their desires are not satisfied.
But there are not so many perfections in life, so why bother to compete with others? Instead of pursuing perfection, it is better to have a clear conscience.
Money cannot be a good thing. Rich people will of course have the worries of rich people. It is not that people will definitely be happy and fulfilled when they obtain material things. As the saying goes, every family has a difficult sutra, but they just choose not to say it.
Blind comparison will make you fall into endless self-blame, always thinking that you are too bad and not working hard enough, which will make you fall into mental internal friction, and the result will be that the more you think about it, the more you become, the more tired you become.
People with clear hearts will accept their ordinaryness and their imperfections. No matter what kind of life, they will live a pleasant life, and no matter which path, they can walk freely.
Someone said:
"Where you live in life will have regrets. The key is how you understand it, give this regretful part a higher yearning, and then respect and tolerate it, which will turn this regretful part into a perfection of vitality."
Don't argue with others. Facing a life that you may not be able to change, you must learn to accept it, reconcile with yourself, and reconcile with life. Just face it, accept it, let it go, and face everything calmly, and you will not be tired.
02 Don’t complain, the more you complain, the harder you feel
Many people in life like to complain, but don’t know that this habit will cause you a lot of trouble.
Couples complain about each other, and in the end they have no remaining feelings; children complaining to their parents, gradually cold their parents' hearts, making the family lose their past laughter; subordinates complain to their superiors, but their superiors are not fools, and he knows very well that people who are truly capable will never complain, but spend time to solve the problem.
complains a lot, and the hostility in your body increases. If you are not satisfied when you go out, you will lose your temper with strangers.
But you don’t know if you are encountering a “soft persimmon” or a “small head”. If you are not careful, things that people don’t want to see are likely to happen.
You should know that there are many fighting, destruction, anger and killing in the world, many of which are caused by complaints. From a Buddhist perspective, this is also called karma, which will trap life and drag yourself into the abyss.
The ancients often said that appearance is born from the heart, and people who often complain about life also have bitter faces. I think even if a god descends to earth, he doesn’t want to see that bitter face.
So once people have the idea of complaining, they must be alert and adjust their mentality in time.
Flowers have flowering periods, people have luck, and it doesn’t matter if they are temporarily confused. Life is full of the fireworks of the world, full of the trivialities of firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea. You must be able to work hard down-to-earth, and have the poetic state of mind of looking up at the stars in order to face life calmly.
Don’t complain. Instead of complaining, it’s better to change. Learn to rely on yourself in everything. When you work hard silently and reap good results, that is the most brilliant time in your life.
03 Don’t hate, the more you hate your heart, the more angry you are
There is a saying:
" Don’t hate the person who left you, what you have to do is to make him regret leaving you."
Life is short, spend your limited time hating the person who doesn’t cherish you, and you will disappear like this.
When you hate others, the other party doesn’t feel it at all, but you are so angry that you are bruised and in pain.
If you want to live comfortably, don’t expect too much to treat others. The greater the hope, the greater the disappointment, whether it is for your lover or friends.
If you really want to hate, just hate yourself, because you are not cruel enough, let others hurt you again and again. Sometimes, you have to learn to be harder.
No matter what, don’t waste time on hatred. There are so many good things in life, and there may be better people ahead.
If you can't let go of hatred and cannot escape, how can you make yourself more beautiful and charming? How do you make yourself more wise and transparent?
Don’t belittle your soul in order to hate others, so that your soul and soul can gain more freedom.
Whether you want it or not, when a person reaches a certain age, he must learn to hold an umbrella for himself and learn to make himself happy. Even if he is destined to be alone, as long as there is no hatred in his heart, you will definitely be able to hold more beauty and meet the reborn you!
Let you and I encourage each other!
