Recently, there is a saying circulating on the Internet: "There is no best choice in the world, you can only be responsible for yourself."
There are many choices in life, and it is everywhere in every fork. Sometimes, you think this fork is a turning point in your life, but after some experience, you realize that this big turning point cannot be clear about your life.
people, how can we live a good life? It’s very simple, that is, choose yourself to be with yourself, “take responsibility” and find yourself, and forgive yourself. Sometimes, people live unhappy and uneasy, isn’t it because they cannot tolerate it?
A writer once said: "Only by daring to admit defeat can you change your luck."
It turns out that when I first read this sentence, I felt that this person's speech was really contradictory. But slowly, I found that this sentence was very charming. What is what? "Agree to lose"? Is it depressed or life? Actually not.
’s real “admitting defeat” is to “inclusive” and choose another new way of life. Just like what I said in . Does "no action" mean not doing things? The facts are the same.
Dare to "accept fate" is a kind of "wisdom"
tribute to Yandu , stay in Beijing for a year, sit quietly all day long, without reading texts. After returning from Ji, I traveled to Nanyong. Before entering the prison, I first visited Zen Master Yunguhui in Qixia Mountain , sitting opposite each other in a room, without pursing my eyes for three days and nights.
——"Four Lessons of Life"
After I was elected as a tribute student of , I studied in Beijing Imperial College according to regulations. During my year in Beijing, I sat quietly all day and didn’t read books. In the year of Jisi, I went to Nanjing to study. Before entering the Imperial College, I visited , Yungu Zen Master in Qixia Mountain. My Zen Master Yungu and I sat opposite me in a meditation room, and we didn't close our eyes for three days and three nights.
Yuan Liaofan sits quietly every day, does not read the text, and no longer has other inappropriate thoughts. Some people interpret this as accepting fate, but in my opinion, it is more of negativity and despair. The recognition of fate advocated by Confucian refers to being content with doing things at the moment, planning the politics in his position, and based on doing things, not being greedy for high or good, being positive in terms of mentality, and also focusing on self-improvement in his nature. Laifan more shows that he is "lying flat" and no longer active life.
Of course, Mr. Lefan can stop his delusion because of despair, which is not something that ordinary people can do, but his conscience is still covered by dark clouds and has not been exposed yet. He also needs someone to point out his mind and nature. After strangling his thoughts, he will still be lively, bright and bright. Then this is what Mr. Wang Yangming said in "Destroy human desires and preserve the laws of nature" manifested. The person who enlightened Mr. Fan and made him see the sun was Zen Master Yungu.
Zen Master Yungu is the master of Master Hanshan, one of the "Four Great Monks of the Ming Dynasty" in history, and is also a famous monk of the Ming Dynasty. It is rumored that Master Yungu was comprehending "who is the one who recites the Buddha's name?" It happened that his job was done and he had a great enlightenment and realized his mind and nature. At that time, there were many people visiting Zen Master Yungu. Zen Master Yungu gave people a cushion and asked people to sit quietly, and did not talk to others. Most people are restless and restless, and they will leave after sitting for a while. Therefore, it is very strange to Mr. Lefan to be able to sit quietly for three days without moving.
Why do you think it’s strange and not that Mr. Lefan is also a Taoist?
Generally, people who have great mental skills have different temperaments from ordinary people. This is a kind of energy and magnetic field that people who practice for a long time will have in them. Mother Teresa , wherever she went, the soldiers who were fighting automatically stopped attacking each other. As soon as the nun left, these people began to kill each other again. This is also due to the fact that the nun has a powerful energy field, which instantly stops the heart of killing. This energy field is the power of human nature. Mr. Lefan is just a desperate person. Zen Master Yungu cannot feel the energy of his mind, so he is curious why he does not have delusions.
Accepting one's fate is to turn a corner to find a "way of life"
The first hunter, who believes that he can defeat everything and thinks that he can grasp things that do not belong to him. So, what is his result? Even if you get into difficulties, you will never get out of it.
And the second hunter, in his opinion, ran away if he can't fight, and being able to save his life is the most important thing. In this way, his future talent will be infinite and he will get more than he is now. The two different results of
only explain one truth, that is, sometimes people do not "accept their fate", and what is suffering is not only the present, but also the future.
Taoist often emphasizes one truth, that is, "not fighting" and "inaction". All of this shows that it seems to be a negative behavior, but if you look deeper, it will be a magnificent vitality like a surging river.
Yungu asked: "The reason why ordinary people cannot be saints is just because they are entangled with false thoughts. Why do you sit for three days without a single false thought?"
——"Four Lessons of the World"
Zen Master Yungu asked me: "The reason why ordinary people cannot become saints is because it is because Because there are too many false thoughts, and the mind is not pure. I sat opposite you for three days, and I found that you do not have false thoughts. What is the reason?
"The reason why ordinary people cannot be saints is just because false thoughts are entangled." This sentence by Zen Master Yungu is almost consistent with what Sakyamuni Buddha said after he realized the truth. After becoming a Buddha under the Bodhi tree, Sakyamuni Buddha said, "All sentient beings have the wisdom and virtues of Tathagata, and they cannot be realized because of delusion and attachment. "
The beginning of "The University" talks about a stage of practical cultivation: "The way of university is to show the bright virtue, to be close to the people, and to stop at the ultimate good. Only when you know the cessation can you be calm; only when you are calm can you be calm; only when you are calm can you be at peace; only when you are at peace can you be considerable; only when you are at peace can you be able to get it. "The "knowing to stop" here means stopping thoughts, and the final "get" means to achieve the right result and reach the state of "highest goodness". Confucianism calls sages, and Buddhism calls Buddha.
How to stop thoughts? Forcibly stop thoughts or enter into tranquility is not desirable. Confucianism believes that stop thoughts need to accept fate first. In "The Great Learning", there is a guiding method for how to accept fate in life. "A king, stop benevolence; a minister, stop be respectful; a son, stop filial piety; a father, stop be kind; and a fellowship with the people of the country. "This is a gentleman who is committed to the foundation, and the Tao is born. In terms of mentality, he first falls on accepting fate, and then actively does things and cultivate virtue on the basis of accepting fate. Slowly, as the energy increases to a certain stage, with the protection of virtue, can he truly stop thinking and not be hindered by false thoughts.
Only when he dares to accept fate can he "change fate"
Liu Na once wrote: "Compared with the struggle ability to fight to the end, what poor children need to have is the ability to dare to accept fate. "
is like the college entrance examination some time ago. Some people are happy and some are worried. Some people are even depressed after getting the results, and go all the way to the end and get stuck in a big way. This approach is really a fight with "fate". What can
"kill to the end" persistence bring to people? Can it bring changes in the results or future paths? It cannot be changed. After all, what it changes can only be people's mood and dimming the light of the future.
The most important ability for people in this life should be the ability to adapt and the wisdom to let go. If you don't adapt, you can only fall into death. If you don't let go, you will only spend every day in the "rainy and rainy" days, and you won't be happy.
likes a sentence very much, that is, "Keep the green mountains and don't worry about burning firewood. "As long as you are still here, as long as you have a future, isn't it just a light of hope?
The quality of life of people is closely related to the surrounding relationship. If the relationship is smooth, the energy will be smooth, and life happiness and satisfaction are high. The Confucian 's thoughts of the Five Relations and Eight Virtues are not the shackles that give us thoughts and life, but are actually a beacon that leads us to the true road to freedom in life.
If a person has a bad relationship in life, he may easily have conflicts when working with others, which makes many people feel it is difficult to get along with, or they have always been a relationship model of distant relatives and close relatives. In this case, you need to reflect on yourself rather than blame others. Most people are used to finding others wrong when they encounter something. This is actually a way of thinking that blames others outside but is unwilling to look at their own hearts.
has a bad relationship. First, look at what uncomfortable things you have done, reflect on "Are I extreme in doing things?" "Did I think about the problem from the other person's perspective?" If you find that it is indeed wrong, correct it; if you find the other person's strengths, learn; if you keep looking back on your heart, look at your inner self when you are unhappy, and find the root cause. That root cause is because of the "my" heart, and the root of the problem is brought to yourself. Through long-term reflection and awareness, the inner self will gradually be purified and the initiative of self-awareness will increase. It is gradually discovered that interpersonal relationships are gradually developing on the better side during the process of self-observation.
What is the real acceptance of fate? It means that people know how to temporarily bow their heads to things that cannot be defeated, turn a corner, and find another way to move forward. Because everyone is not superman, if you keep not leaving, to put it bluntly, you will only starve to death there.
people’s “recognition” is to learn to adapt and then change their current situation. Just like water, it benefits all things without fighting, and then travels around the world, with endless changes and unimpeded movement. Isn’t this a natural outcome?
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