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I am crispy.
Time flies so fast, in the blink of an eye, the National Day holiday has reached its end.
Because of the epidemic, I have never done anything this year.
Lying on the bed and browsing my friends circle, I suddenly saw this -
A friend took a picture of her parents sending the car when she returned, and the caption read:
The next time I meet, it will be next year...
A very simple sentence, for some reason, touched me a lot.
After the epidemic, many people realized that it was really not easy to go home.
See you one year, and for some people, it has become a luxury.
Looking at my parents' reluctant figure, I suddenly remembered a picture I saw a long time ago:
If everyone's lifespan is expressed in 900 grids, then after the parents are 50 years old, we will meet them every day for so long:
If you see each month, there is only so much left:
But if you can only see each other once a year, the total time will not be even a month...
The bright red grid touched my heart.
never thought that there was only a little left in time.
Just as Bi Shumin said in " Filial piety is priceless ":
"I believe that every sincere and loyal child has made great wishes to his parents in his heart.
I believe that the future will be long, and I believe that the situation will come naturally.
I believe that you will have the day when you succeed and return home in glory. You can be filial to calmly."
However, in this world, compared to the longest days, there is still the cruelty of time and the shortness of life.
is vulnerable and has too many unexpected things.
So, kindness can never be repaid.
only leaves deep regrets.
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Yesterday I clicked on the background to prepare for work, looked through the private message, and suddenly a moment of hurting my heart.
She said, "Crispy, I have no mother anymore."
I flipped through the records and she sent it to me at two in the morning. If the screen is full of
, it is like venting, and more like self-blame.
She is married far away.
, she hasn't been home for more than two years.
is not that I don’t want to go back, but that I always plan to keep up with the changes.
I have to go to work, my children have to go to school, and I just gave birth to my second baby at the beginning of the year.
The key point is that every time the holiday is approaching, the epidemic always comes inexplicably.
The same is true this time. She has planned all of her and asked for a few more days off to take her children home with her.
But the epidemic is coming again.
It is very troublesome to go back across provinces, and the school also requires children to leave the city without leaving the city during holidays...
It seems that there are always ten thousand reasons to block her way home.
Looking at her parents' lost expression in the video, she was very sorry, but her parents were still smiling and comforting her.
And at noon the next day, she suddenly received a call.
Mom Crain hemorrhageHospital hospitalized.
She was as anxious as an ant on a hot pan. She wanted to take the first flight and left, but reality told her that she had to wait for the nucleic acid report.
After finally getting off the plane and boarded the bus back to her hometown, she was blocked on the road again...
She received a call from the death on the highway, and then fell into self-blame that she could not break free.
Because the last call between her and her mother said, "I won't go back."
Because of her second baby, she was born at the beginning of this year, and her parents have not even seen her.
Because she went home, she opened the refrigerator, which was filled with vegetables, melons and pulp, as well as wrapped dumplings and buns.
are all things she likes to eat, waiting to be packaged and taken home for her...
Every word she wrote made me feel sad.
The epidemic has caused many people to miss important moments in their lives?
I want to go home, but I don’t have home anymore.
I think this is the most collapsed moment for every child who is alone in a foreign land.
Everyone has many identities.
We strive to be a good employee, a good wife, a good husband, a good parents...
We strive to not owe anyone.
But the only thing that owes is probably the parents, right?
people really only owe their parents in this life.
We always seem to be very busy when facing our parents.
is busy with work, busy making money, busy taking care of children,
is busy playing mobile phones, playing games, traveling, gatherings, making friends...
Everything seems to be ahead of parents, because we default: parents will not complain or leave, and will always be waiting there for you to finish everything and go home.
may really have to wait until the parents leave before they realize: we are wrong.
We are always talking about the fact that parents cannot miss their children's childhood.
But I never thought that it was more about children, who were absent from their parents' old age.
Children will complain, but sensible parents will never say much because of love.
They regard loneliness as the norm and wait as thoughts.
doesn't want to bother, and doesn't want to bother.
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Earlier, a hot search made me sad.
A 64-year-old man living alone in Changsha, Uncle Yi, had a stroke a few years ago.
limps, but he goes downstairs for a walk every day. But that day, the neighbor suddenly discovered that he hadn't seen him for several days.
She went to knock on the door of Uncle Yi’s house, but no one answered. When the police opened the door, he saw Uncle Yi lying under the bed, his feet stuck by the raised bed board.
It turned out that he had fallen from the bed for four days.
When everyone entered the door, he was already dying.
After contacting Uncle Yi's daughter, everyone learned that the daughter had also wanted to continue living with her father, but Uncle Yi was unwilling to drag her daughter down, so she lived alone in the old house.
Ms. Yi would go home regularly to visit and contact him by phone. Even just late at night before he was rescued, Ms. Yi went home.
At that time, no one responded when she knocked on the door or called. She thought her father fell asleep, so she left.
Unexpectedly, my father had collapsed under the bed at that time...
Fortunately, Mr. Yi has a careful and good neighbor, but this news made me sad.
This is no longer the first elderly man living alone to fall at home.
is not the first one, and parents who don’t want to bother their children.
He reminded me of the suicide note of the 81-year-old man living alone.
"I left last night and felt calm when I left. When you receive a notice, remember to open the window to ventilate to avoid getting infected. The body will be cremated quickly, and everything will be frugal."
Until he died, he was still thinking about not causing trouble for his children.
But maybe he didn't expect that it was two months after his body was discovered...
I don't know if these children have any self-blame.
But I feel sorry for those parents who are beginning to become cautious when facing their children.
When I was a child, my parents always said "raising children to prevent old age".
But when you grow up, you find that too many parents are afraid of themselves and become "troublesome" for their children.
Early Zhang Quanling went to the nursing home for an interview and felt that every elderly person had an old man's taste.
She asked an old lady how often does it take to take a shower? But the old lady replied, "I try not to take a shower."
Later I found out that they were afraid of falling down accidentally.
would be fine if he fell to death. If he fell to his side, his children would be delayed for the rest of their lives.
This reminds me of a friend's father.
, he has always been healthy, but suddenly suffered a stroke of and fell to the ground some time ago.
finally rescued it, and half of his body could no longer move.
The first sentence he woke up was to go home.
is "no treatment, I have to go home" because he doesn't want his children to "waste" the money he has earned with hard work on him...
He even dared not eat because he couldn't go to the toilet independently.
He is afraid of trouble for his children. Every time he goes to the toilet, he will say "sorry" to his son...
A very typical feature of Chinese-style parents is that they may live for their children all their lives.
When you were young, you will help you buy a house and get married when you grow up, and help you cook and take care of your children when you have children...
Although you have already started a family and become the head of the family, they still feel like a child who has not grown up and needs their care.
Even death doesn't cause trouble for the child, this is the last thing they can do for you.
But in fact, they are looking forward to it too.
Looking forward to the joy of the whole family and the descendants are surrounded by their knees.
I look forward to someone listening to the words, someone eating to cook, and someone nagging to reply.
They are not greedy.
just want a little companionship and care.
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3 is becoming more and more aware that parents are all "scammers".
Their words "I'm fine" are not necessarily really good.
They casually said "What are you doing?", maybe they wanted to say "I miss you"
They were careful, maybe they wanted to say "Can you come back and see?"
But as we grow up, our temper seems to be getting worse and worse when facing our parents.
think they are nagging, reasoning, stubborn, troublesome...
Speech begins to gain the upper hand: Can you have a little bit of your own life? After saying so many times, you can't do this little thing well...
Later they start to look at your face, speak carefully, with a hint of pleasing in your words and actions.
Later they began to not like to go out or try new things, hiding in their own small circles, repeating their daily lives.
Later they began to follow your arrangements, wanting to help but are afraid of messing up, wanting to learn new things, but they are afraid of trouble.
Do you feel so a little bit of self-blame and sadness when you see these?
They are nothing wrong, they are just old.
actually doesn’t have much time left for us to spend with our parents.
Gao Yalin once said: Parents are a wall between us and the god of death .
It was not until the end that all the days of the future were long, and all hidden in the future would be in no time.
My parents are here, life still has its origin.
Go to my parents, and my life is really just a way to go.
Don't leave your worst temper to your parents.
Don’t always feel that there is still a lot of time.
Don't always think that putting your parents at the end is nothing. When you still have
, don’t ignore it and ignore it.
Otherwise, when you really face parting, all that is left is regret.
If possible, go home and have a look!
even if it's just a 5-minute call.
They do not expect you to be rich and prosperous.
They just want to listen to your voice more and meet more.
There will be a difference between parents, so don’t wait for the separation when you support your parents.
Time waits for no one.
They are old, only you are.
Don't let him down!
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Hello everyone, I am a crispy dad, a new dad, an executive of a startup company. I have been to many cities and have practiced stalls on the roadside. Now I just want to say the most truthful things to you, continue to grow and improve.
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