Many of the troubles we encounter in life are actually caused by unpleasant relationships with others. Everyone has different personality traits and different language and behavioral habits. If we are too obsessed with ourselves, we will inevitably be out of place with others, resulting in many conflicts. If you meet someone you don’t like and encounter many things you don’t like, please remember the following three sentences.
First of all, the best way is not to compete. When encountering unfair things, most people's first reaction is to argue with reason. In order to prove that they are right, they present a lot of truths and cases to prove themselves. It seems that no matter what, you have to beat the other person, to be considered relieved. In fact, this is not a clever approach.
The Tao Te Ching says: The way of heaven is good at winning without fighting. The way to really win over the other person and win over the other is not to argue with him. It can be said that you win without fighting, and you win without fighting. This is in line with the laws of natural development.
Especially when you are young and energetic, you should pay special attention to this point. Confucius said: "It is very strong, and you are full of energy. Be careful of it." People who like to fight will have a limited life development and will encounter unexpected disasters from time to time.
Secondly, ignoring one's wisdom is to ignore it. When you meet someone who is arrogant, unreasonable, and has a very stupid person, the best way to deal with it is to ignore it. As the saying goes, "A scholar meets a soldier, it is hard to explain it." Because the other party is not on the same channel as you at all. Such disputes and entanglements are meaningless. Even if you win, others will think you have lost.
Just like a person asked Confucius students Zigong , how many seasons are there in a year, Zigong of course answered that there are four seasons, but the man insisted that there are only three seasons, and the two clamored to see the teacher to judge. After hearing this, Confucius quickly said: There are only three seasons a year, and it was my student who was wrong. The man left proudly.
After Confucius said to the students: You are arguing with others because of such a problem. Think carefully about who the problem is? When the other party is completely different from you, it is best to ignore it. The so-called "Doing the Way" is different and not planning each other. This is a truly wise approach.
Finally, not being angry is cultivation. When the other party points out his shortcomings, we should accept it humbly and not be angry; when the other party is not clear about the reason and falls into ignorance, we can remind us in kindness and tactfulness, but we should not fight blindly; when the other party already knows his mistakes in his heart, but is unable to come to the forefront and refuses to admit his mistakes, we should also take the initiative to give people a step, leave three-point room, and do not do everything, and be reasonable and do not forgive others.
In short, no matter what the situation is, we have the best way to deal with it, instead of getting angry and out of control once we encounter unfair things, it is very unwise. Not being angry when encountering things is the best cultivation for a person.
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