December 1, 2022 Hu Xinyu has been missing for nearly 50 days. As strangers, we are deeply concerned about his safety. Every time there is no news for every extra day, the worries and anxiety in our hearts will be more than one day.
The weakness of all parents is their children, and Xinyu is the concern of all parents in the world, hoping that he will come back safely one day.
We even had countless ideas, imagine that when he called his mother, he said that I wanted to cry, why did he want to cry, and told his mother all the things he had hidden in his heart, then his parents would definitely help him, and he would not see the situation today.
Imagine hearing Xinyu say that he can’t sleep or want to cry..., my mother can take it seriously, go to his place to study and spend more time with him, and communicate more, and maybe nothing will happen. Unfortunately, there is no if, it’s too late!
Some people say that we should report good news but not bad news to our parents. We should share good things with our parents. When we are ruthlessly hit, we should tell our parents that we are doing well and everything goes well. Because I was afraid that my parents would keep thinking about sleeping, but I don’t think so.
Through the disappearance of Xinyu and other children, meticulous reflection has given all parents and children a lot of inspiration. I personally think that as a child:
First, no matter where you are, no matter what you encounter in study, work, life, relationships, etc., the first person who talks should be the parents. Try to tell your parents about everything, let your parents know what you have experienced, share good things with joy, and be vigilant about bad things.
If you like to hold everything in your heart, and bear it silently alone, and accumulate too much, it will make you more and more silent and unhappy. If you continue this, you may be extremely nervous and have poor sleep, which will affect your study and work efficiency.
Parents are the most trustworthy people in the world, the only ones who have made selfless contributions to us, and the ones who always put protecting our safety first. No matter how many grievances or injustice they suffer, you must tell your family that home is always the strongest backing for everyone and a safe haven for unconditional acceptance of you.
Second, don’t eat and drink food that is out of your sight, and don’t eat what others handed to you directly into your stomach without thinking, including acquaintances and people you just met.
Third, you can have your own friends, but you must observe in secret and keep your eyes open. See if the other person is worthy of being your friend.
Use a pair of wise eyes to see and recognize people, get closer to those who can fly together, and stay away from those who will only cause harm to themselves.
You can make an appointment with friends to go out, but let your family know who you go out and where you go, and you must have a sense of time. Don’t go home in the middle of the night.
Friendship is indispensable in life. Good friends can help you sail far away; bad friends may bring disasters to you.
Russian writer Krelov wrote in "The Woods and Fire": "You must be cautious when choosing friends! Authentic selfishness will wear a mask of friendship, but set up a trap to trick you!"
Fourth, don't be willful, don't think that you are growing up, just quarrel with your family and run away from home.
Youth is inexperienced and willful. Willfulness is not personality! Being a person with personality is a unique personality charm in life and a rational behavior. Willfulness is stubbornness in character, emotional paranoia, and selfishness that ignores others' feelings.
In the melting pot of society, each of us is just a tiny speck of dust. We can never see the terrifying human nature in those dark corners clearly and clearly, only our family is trustworthy and rely on.
says that these are not excessive restrictions or constraints, but that many things that have happened have given us too many reminders and advice. As immature children, I hope they can listen to them and refer to them.
What parents should do as parents:
First, parents must first give them selfless love.
The love given to children is not to be domineering or condescending, but to respect equally, put yourself in your shoes, and think from the perspective of others.
Every child is an independent living body, not your personal belonging. They have their own thinking and cognition. Parents should provide protection and care, rather than blindly criticizing and demanding.
Second, no matter how busy a parent is, you must spend more time and energy to care about accompanying your children, whether they encounter difficulties, understand what they are thinking, as well as their expectations and plans for their future.
Third, education for children is not only about learning, but also should pay attention to children's daily mental health status, know whether they are satisfied with the current situation, whether they are happy every day, and whether they suffer any injustice and grievances. When you find that your child has something to do, you must actively guide you and never wait until the tragedy happens before regretting it.
Is the grades better? The safety and health of children is the greatest happiness for parents.
Fourth, what kind of life does a child want to have? As long as he is healthy and upright and does not violate the law, parents should try their best to help pave the way.
Don’t impose your unfinished regrets on your children, let them complete them for you.
Fifth, the child inadvertently expressed his depression and anxiety to his parents. Parents must take it to heart and understand the whole story in a timely manner. Don’t take it seriously, and don’t just skip it. Children need their parents’ help at any time. They will always be children in front of their parents.
Sixth, if the child encounters school bullying, parents must fully attach importance to unconditional support and comfort the child, so that the child can release his emotions, but never act impulsively.
Ask the reasons and specific processes, analyze them rationally and handle them properly.
If there is bullying, you must resist. Tell your children that you must tell teachers and parents as soon as possible, or report to J. Don’t endure it because of intimidation. Intimidation comes from inner fear and take measures resolutely and decisively. They will never dare, otherwise you will become the target of bullying again and again.
As parents, don’t keep staring at their children’s test scores. More importantly, they should teach their children how to resolve conflicts, frictions or problems that occur in school.
I have been moved a lot through Xinyu's incident and summarized a lot. Every flower has its own flowering period. Parents should not force or compare in the name of love, so that children will lose happiness, confidence and courage. Only by living healthy can there be more hope.
The most torment in the world is the pain of separation of relatives. We will not forget or give up on Xinyu's affairs. I hope that such pain will not spread, and I hope that the separated people will be reunited as soon as possible.
At this moment, I quote a lyrics that are most suitable for my mood: "I feel so heartbroken that I can't breathe, I can't find the traces left by you, I'm watching you, but I can't do anything, letting you disappear at the end of the world..."
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