There was an old lady. Her eldest daughter married a businessman who sold straw hats, and her younger daughter married a businessman who sold umbrellas.
When the weather was fine, she went to her youngest daughter's house and was very sad to see that not a single umbrella had been sold.
When it rained, she went to her eldest daughter's house and saw that no one cared about Straw Hat, blaming her eldest daughter for marrying the wrong person.
The neighbor told the old lady: "You should go to the younger daughter's house when it rains and the eldest daughter's house when it's sunny."
As expected, the old lady became happy.
In real life, many people are just like this old lady, who live their lives the wrong way, so they are unhappy. They also think that God is not doing enough and society is too bullying.
Being in the midst of blessings and not knowing the blessings is more painful than not having any blessings.
It can be seen from this that people who have a miserable life have probably lived their lives in the wrong way.
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Life goes by in reverse, consumption continues. There is such a story in
" Bo Yaqin ".
A man from Yue country met a dog halfway. The dog wagged its tail and said, "I am good at hunting. What if I share the prey with you equally? Of course, you have to take care of what I eat and drink."
The Yue people were very happy, and they got a lot of game, and their family became rich.
The dog was also treated well and lived happily.
Some people ridicule the Yue people: "You keep dogs, but the dogs eat more than you."
The Yue people believe that their IQ has been fooled by the dogs. So the dog's food began to be withheld, and when the prey was distributed, the dog could only get a small part.
The dog was very angry and ran away. From then on, the Yue people could not get game, lost their source of livelihood, and became poor again.
It is very obvious that the Yue people made several mistakes and lived the wrong life.
First, humans and dogs need to interact benignly and abide by the rules of communication. However, the Yue people regard themselves as superior people and believe that dogs can be bullied at will, ignoring the role of dogs.
Secondly, the Yue people regard outsiders as "wise men", ignore their own wisdom, and fail to see the changes in their own families.
Thirdly, the Yue people did not think for themselves, but blindly obeyed dogs and outsiders. Therefore, he is always led by "foreign objects", leading him step by step toward "confusion."
People want to go south, but they go north instead. Of course, they are going in the opposite direction, and they become more and more confused as they go. On the surface, it seems that the direction is wrong, but in fact, it is consuming one's own happiness indiscriminately - internal consumption, external consumption, both.
External consumption, means relying too much on external things and trusting outsiders casually, thus losing yourself. In the midst of embarrassment, I don’t know how to live my life. After all, outsiders "do things based on their own ideas" and will not really understand you.
A, B, C and D all talk about the same way of living. If you believe them all, you will find that the left and right are not human beings.
Internal consumption, is like Inamori Kazuo wrote in "Advice to Young People": "The most terrifying thing for a person is internal consumption. He will chew on other people's words over and over again; excessive analysis, thinking and self-denial. This kind of mental consumption is often more painful than physical consumption."
Thinking too much and thinking about nothing; doing things randomly and doing nothing are all wrong. If you don’t repent, you won’t be able to feel the blessings you have now. Working around every day is unbearable.
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smoothed the days and everything went smoothly.
Su Shi wrote a short story in "The Story of the Gongtang".
A person who has a cold goes to see a doctor. The first doctor said that he had parasite and needed to take insecticide. The doctor also defrauded him of a sum of money.
The second doctor said that he had fever and his fever should be reduced. At the same time, a sum of money was also defrauded.
took medicine from two doctors. He had vomiting and diarrhea and couldn't hold on any longer. So I searched everywhere for medical advice and never stopped.
An old man in the village said: "You keep taking medicine all day long, and your body is in chaos. You should focus on spirit and food as a supplement. Maintain a good mental state and take the right medicine, and you will be fine in no time."
He listened to the old man's advice and was cured in a month.
As a person, you must have your own thoughts, goals, lifestyle, and understanding of external objects, and you cannot blindly follow them. If you are going in the wrong direction, stop and move forward.
Judging from the person who caught a cold above, he only needs to know what is going on with him and then prescribe the right medicine. Don’t be fooled by quackery, and don’t be intimidated by difficulties.
Instead of seeking medical treatment in a hurry, it is better to stabilize yourself and find countermeasures.
Generally speaking, people who have a hard life must learn to treat themselves and prescribe the right medicine.
First of all, calm down your mood, look at everything that pleases your eyes, and recognize the beauty of the world. Your reflection to the outside world is happiness, and good things from the outside world will come to you.
Then, determine your goals and adjust your behavior. Every step you take is effective and you will see the dawn of life. You will also encounter joy.
Finally, you should take control of your own emotional world and try not to create extraneous matters. Love your own family instead of caring too much about other people's families; cherish the fate you encounter and stay with your lover until you grow old. When emotions are simple, life becomes warm.
Specifically, it means "Don't use your health to fight for wealth; don't regard passion as true love; don't regard idle work as ideal; don't regard outsiders as family; don't regard desire as hope."
It is also worth mentioning that the direction of life is not static. When we encounter an inflection point, we must be adaptable and go with the flow.
For example, many years ago, we used cattle to plow the land with the goal of grazing cattle; now we should use machinery to change the way we farm and create more income.
Philosopher Santayana said: "Our dignity does not lie in what we do, but in what we know how to do."
Stay awake at all times, live your days in your own way, and go with the times, that is, go with the flow and become happier and happier.
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Master Yancan said: "Fate is not a baggage. Now that you are on the road, don't be afraid of the burden. Learning to travel lightly is a kind of wisdom. Throw away the good and bad things of the past, and only bring a reason to be happy. The road is still there, and all you have to experience is a calm experience."
Destiny, good or bad, is relative and can be converted. If you are suffering at the moment, stop and observe and think. If you are suffering from going uphill, hold on and you will be relieved from all the suffering. If you are suffering from consuming yourself, then stop, adjust the direction, and start again. Time will come.
The suffering of life is not too bitter; the suffering in the heart is really bitter.
When you are in pain, if you reverse it once, it may be Nirvana and rebirth.
Author: Commoner.
Pay attention to my words and enter your heart.
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