Year after year, in the past few years of the epidemic, there have been more free days, and time has been running like an accelerator. In a blink of an eye, in a blink of an eye, without paying attention, the year will turn over again...
2022 is a year involuntarily, a year spent in the fight against the epidemic, a year in which the world is in chaos, and a year when children's schools are closed on a large scale. Passively shut down, caring for patients, food, clothing, housing, transportation, career blocked, how much helplessness and sadness I don't want to think about again;
this year, it seems that I haven't had time to be good to myself, and many wishes have been frustrated, which is a pity. Self-blame, unwillingness, and mixed emotions make me feel extremely sad on this late-year afternoon. Even after the epidemic is over, we still have to let go of the past, and the future has become invisible and intangible.
At the beginning of the new year, I want to tell you, let’s look at the problem from a different angle, okay? It's time to let go of some of the hurt in your heart.
Chinese people are very particular about luck when it comes to saying goodbye to the old and welcoming the new. The most important thing about saying goodbye to the old is to let go of people and things that have a negative impact on your life energy.
Forgive others and forgive yourself.
This is the year 2023 that each of us is about to start. To get ready before the new journey in the future, join me to relax and clean up your mind.
Conflicts are inevitable when people come and go. Being misunderstood, being taken advantage of, being hurt; things cannot be perfect. People's abilities are always high or low, whether they blame themselves or regret, it is a foregone conclusion; life always has regrets and is unsatisfactory. Whether it is caused by others or your own fault, come and give your heart a break.
They all say that the New Year is beautiful and the New Year is good. Just because it is new, it has expectations, changes, desires, rebirth, and hope. A person with a heavy burden cannot travel lightly, a sad person cannot be happy, and a person with a heavy heart is destined not to have light steps.
Do you also have these unforgettable marks engraved in your heart? Come on, let's chat like old friends so that I can see you and you can see myself.
Yes, you said it, how can you know my pain without my experience. Some people and things are not worthy of forgiveness or understanding, because they are an untouchable red line in your memory, and you have been hurt too deeply and too severely. You are trapped in a prison inside your heart.
People cannot live without suffering. There is love and intention, fate and hatred, good and bad. How can we tolerate bad people and not let ourselves go?
Confucius talked about forgiveness: "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you." By empathizing with yourself and others, your life will take a turn that you have never seen. I have also been deeply hurt by a friend. Every time I think of him, as long as I hear or see a little bit about him, I can feel nervous and anxious in my heart, and I can't help but blame myself. The little knife kept cutting my heart, and I kept ruminating on the pain he left me, making myself depressed. I really don't like myself like this.
The teacher said that if someone hurts you or misunderstands you, you should forgive him. I said: Why, I was not wrong, it was him who was wrong.
Oscar. Wilde golden words: "You must remove the grudge in your heart. For myself, I must forgive you. A person cannot keep a poisonous snake in his chest forever; he cannot get up every night and plant thorns in the yard of his soul."
Regardless of whether he is right or not, you may not need to forgive the other person, but there is something you should think about seriously. Do you want to forgive yourself?
Everyone sees things differently. These opinions cannot go beyond his heart. In his world, he may not think he is wrong yet. Everyone has different moral standards. We cannot change other people's ideas. In the world of three-year-old children, the earth belongs to Chang'e .
The hurt person is in pain, but the person who hurt you will not be in pain. Forgiveness saves yourself. For myself, I choose to forgive.
Forgiveness, the word "forgiveness": one Ru, one heart; Ru = heart, what my heart wants is what others want. What I don’t want in my heart is what others don’t want either.
Forgiveness is our best medicine and tonic.
Forgiveness is not easy to do. As long as you can see the other person and empathize with him, it will be easier for you to forgive him. Although the other person has not asked for your forgiveness, your past karma with him has long since changed. Let go of the shackles of sorrow and let go of the karma that no longer interferes with you.
Through this loosening of your inner being, you will be saved.
Buddhism has three lifetime explanations of cause and effect for our encounters. The unfair treatment you have suffered from others is also what you have caused others to suffer in your lifetime. You will repay it today and accept your fate. If you don't want to encounter it again in the next lifetime, you have to let it go and no longer dwell on such causes. Effect after effect, cause after effect, cycle over and over again, entangled in it.
Forgive yourself
In 2022, you can search for what things you have in your heart that you dare not face or look back on? Which ones are hidden and which ones are avoided? What fear, anger, worry and self-blame are you hiding in your heart? Why do these things make you unwilling to forgive yourself?
Whether it was a lack of courage at the time, a lack of experience in dealing with the things you encountered, or a hesitation that caught you off guard. Or because of petty profits, one betrays one's own conscience; one becomes destitute and hates, destroys, and abuses others. You dislike yourself less and less. You regret past decisions. It's all over. There is no going back.
Don’t freeze your life in pain and pain, unable to move forward. The past is past, please forgive yourself!
Life disappears in seconds. You have tried your best, and it is already amazing to be able to do it at that time. Take a look at the past, the knots you struggled with, and see if there are any factors that can help you and the situation develop in a good direction in the future. See if you can undo some of the early deaths. Turn these into fertile ground for growing yourself through experience. Instead of loving and pitying yourself, it’s better to regain your courage.
Forgive yourself and don’t let yesterday’s rain wet today’s clothes. Time is like this. Who doesn’t grow up by making mistakes?
Don't bend yourself down, find a way to reconcile with yourself.
You should cherish yourself, you should let go of the people who should be let go, and don’t let go if you don’t understand the feelings;
This fertile soil in your heart will always only hold the seeds that make you rich. Once the haze is removed, it will be full of sunshine!
Life is short, life is beautiful.
2022. Forgive yourself and forgive others. Through this article, you can also forgive the people and things that are difficult to let go of in your heart, let go of your resentment and hatred, and let go.
Bidding farewell to the old and welcoming the new, 2023, leaving behind the past, with light in our hearts!
