It seems that few modern people are satisfied with their current situation. The more they desire, the less they cannot get it and the more anxious they are.
I felt envious when I saw others realize their financial freedom; I was hit hard when my colleagues were promoted and raised; I felt deeply anxious when I saw everyone in the circle of friends.
So, I had to try my best to create opportunities, show myself and decorate myself, just to make myself the object of envy of everyone, whether it is a mess or a vanity behind it.
But in fact, the world is one, and the only person who can share joy and sorrow with oneself is himself. Life is also your own. You know the cold and warmth. You can deceive others, but you can't deceive yourself.
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The world is our own and has nothing to do with others
When we were young, each of us was full of energy and wanted to break out into a world, as if we could gain the recognition of others, we would be successful. So, he lives in the eyes and evaluations of others all day long, and uses other people's preferences as his own standard of behavior.
Even if it is something you really want to do, as long as most people oppose it, they will choose to give up, simply because they know that they will not recognize or praise them if they succeed. As you walk, you lose your way, and when you live, you forget yourself.
It was not until after most of my life that I realized that the only person who really cares about me in this life is always the only one who cares about me. Whether it is success or failure, it is just an object of discussion in the eyes of others, and you will forget it if you pass it.
From beginning to end, other people's eyes and evaluation have nothing to do with themselves.
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Instead of caring about others, it is better to care more about yourself
The reason why people are worried is because they have too many irrelevant things in their hearts. For example, in relationships, you care too much about your position in the other person’s heart. In life, you are too concerned about other people’s feelings and thoughts and ignore your own feelings.
goes against your own wishes, but just to please others. But in fact, this kind of self-touching sacrifice is just to push yourself into the abyss of life. When the true self suddenly explodes one day, the ending may be worse than it is now.
Instead of caring about your position in others' hearts, it is better to care more about everything related to yourself, such as health, happiness, and freedom. Only in this way can one find the life that truly belongs to oneself.
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Stage of life, only oneself is the protagonist
Life is like a stage, each of us stands alone on the stage to interpret our own story, while others appear are just supporting roles in the story.
If you put the cart before the horse and blindly cater to others and cooperate with others' performances while alive, you can only hide under the light of others forever. No matter how exciting your performance is, it will be futile, because no one will see it at all.
If you want to regain your life, you must always remember that you are the protagonist. When doing things, you should consider whether you are happy, rather than whether others are happy. When getting along with others, you should consider whether you have suffered any grievances, not how others view you.
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The practice of this life is actually to meet the best self
In the final analysis, life is a self-cultivation that walks alone, and the ultimate goal of practice is nothing more than to live the life you want and become the best self.
At the beginning, everyone was full of energy, liked to be carnival, and was afraid of loneliness. As experience and knowledge increase, the heart becomes stronger and stronger, and no longer needs other people's recognition to satisfy yourself.
The most graceful scenery in life is the calmness and calmness in your heart.The most worthy effort in life is to treat every day of your own heart.
