In this world, if someone treats you well, someone treats you badly.
People who are good to you do not need you to do anything specifically, they always pass on kindness and warmth to you; those who are bad to you are your existence is their threat, so naturally I want to get rid of it quickly.
Many times, even if we just be ourselves quietly, we will become "thorns in our eyes and thorns in our flesh" for others, and will be suppressed, excluded and plotted.
For this kind of "bullying" behavior, blindly tolerating others will only make them more and more capable, and will also make themselves fall into aggrieved and unable to extricate themselves. We must take effective measures and "resist" back to the culprit in order to return the "unpleasantness" to the initiator and return the ease and freedom to yourself.
The wisest way is not to tear the face against the wheat, but to use the following methods.
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Accumulate and make yourself an unattainable person.
In life, there is a phenomenon that when you are almost as good as the people around you, you are more likely to be envied and suppressed by others. When you stand out and far beyond the people around you, all others have left is envy and no longer able to shake your status.
So, it’s better to make yourself a “crown in the flock of chickens”.
Established Yuan Dynasty Mongolian leader Temujin is a person who is keen on expanding territory. His iron cavalry spans the Eurasian continent. Wherever he goes, he is like the autumn wind sweeping the fallen leaves, making his opponent willing to bow down and surrender.
But such a talented and stubborn founding emperor had a painful experience of "being insulted and damaged" in his early years: his father was murdered, his clan members betrayed, and his wife was robbed. Temujin had almost been in a situation of escaping from "being chased" since he was a child, and his life was hanging on the line several times.
During the escape, Temujin and the young hero from another tribe, Jamuhe, formed brothers of different surnames and fought together for the unification of the grassland. However, as Temujin's personality charm gradually became accepted by many tribes, his prestige became higher and higher, and his former brother Zamuhe was full of resentment.
In the end, Zamuhe joined forces with the noble forces, gathered the army, and fought a decisive battle with Temujin. After several rounds, Temujin, who had been in a down-and-out escape, had become the leader who gathered with everyone after a shout. Zamuhe was defeated, and Temujin thus unified the Mobei and embarked on a larger road of war.
From Temujin and Zamuhe from being "friendly as brothers" to "parting ways" to "fight to death", it is not difficult to find that the cruelest revenge on a person is to become a person with a broader mind and better ability than the other party.
Only in this way can the party who "losses" be convinced to lose.
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Actively stay away, and the water in the well will not interfere with the river.
Those who dislike you are most likely because you are their "potential" competitor. If you don't exclude you, their status may not be able to be preserved.
Therefore, if he is your boss, or he relies on more power than you, he will spare no effort to "set up a trap" for you, hoping that you can fall into their trap.
During the reign of Emperor Wu of Han, Prime Minister Gongsun Hong was a narrow-minded and ruthless person. Although he showed a look of thrift, filial piety, knowledgeable and generous in front of the emperor, he was the most inconvenient.
At that time, the great Confucian scholar Dong Zhongshu was highly valued by Emperor Wu of Han, and his talent and reputation were far above Gongsun Hong. As Gongsun Hong, who entered the official career by preaching the scriptures, Dong Zhongshu has become his "number one competitor".
For this reason, Gongsun Hong repeatedly wrote letters, recommending Dong Zhongshu to become the prime minister of Jiaoxi.
Jiaoxi King Liu Fei is known for his brutality and often executes officials sent by the central government. It is obvious that Gongsun Hong wants to kill someone by borrowing a knife.
Dong Zhongshu knew this very well, but he knew very well that no one could afford to offend anyone, so he expressed obedience.
After coming to Jiaoxi Country, he was even more careful everywhere. Fortunately, Liu Fei respects his talent and can always treat him with courtesy.But a year later, Dong Zhongshu, who was trembling with fear, said goodbye to his illness, and was able to escape unscathed. From then on, I focused on writing books and became more respected.
Mr. Jin Yong once said: "Where there are people around you, there is a world of martial arts." When you realize that there are people around you all the time, and once a head-on conflict will make you embarrassed, you might as well settle for the second best and take the initiative to stay away. From now on, the well water will not interfere with the river, so as to seek peace and freedom.
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turns a blind eye and expresses his position with indifference.
Once read a question and answer: "Will you leave a platform with great development prospects because of a disgusting boss or colleague?"
A highly praised answer is, no, the more you do this, the more you should treat it as a practice and practice the body of "Vajra indestructible". This is true for
. I worked hard and finally squeezed in after passing the test. I am full of enthusiasm for work and can find enough sense of existence and value. Isn’t such a platform my dream?
As for those who are like flies, they are always looking for trouble for themselves, compared to this, it is really not worth mentioning.
At first, I would be extremely angry at the deliberate targeting of others and would also want to fight back with angrily, but as soon as I started to fight, it would hit others' thoughts, so what's the point?
A truly powerful person has long become "calm" and can keep himself indifferent no matter how the other party "does evil".
This kind of heart-warning blindness is often the most lethal. Other people's bad words and deeds are all like arrows that are turned back, stabbing themselves.
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Conclusion:
In life, you do not have the ability to make everyone happy, and there is no need to be tolerant and generous to those who make things difficult for you, be mean to you, and provoke you.
However, the most advanced rebuttal is not to be disturbed, it is to strengthen itself, and in the end, it is beyond their reach.
Author: It’s as light as the wind and as light as the clouds.
Your happiness, my blessings.
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