text丨The West Chamber of affection
Time has not been long, I hope you will meet in my words!
People's hearts are separated from their stomachs. There are always some people who like to have different feelings. What they say and what they think are completely different.
People like this are often very cunning. When you interact with them, you will always be the one who is led away.
Because, you can't see through his false feelings, you can't understand the depth in his eyes, and you can't understand his hypocritical smile.
In fact, there are many such people in life. To make themselves look approachable, to stand out from the crowd, they tend to disguise themselves well.
Therefore, when you get along with others, you must be clear-headed and not have a heart to talk to anyone easily. We must learn to identify and distinguish people, and do not fall into false traps, and do not become pawns for others.
So, how can those cunning people reveal their true colors in front of you? It’s very simple, a cunning person who likes to say these things. Do you have any around you?
"This time the matter is a bit serious, but I will do my best to help you with it."
People who like to say this often know how to win people's hearts. They are good at taking advantage of the weaknesses of human nature to make you trust and depend on them.
And, a person's favorability will change with how much the other party pays for himself. Therefore, people with deep scheming often like to take advantage of this.
Maybe things are not as serious as he said, but when you talk about it, he will deliberately exaggerate the degree. Immediately afterwards, I told you in a very firm tone that he will do his best to help you handle it.
You should know that people are always grateful for the helping hand they hold in times of crisis, and always think about the day when there will be rewards for the other party.
In this way, you will be grateful for his unyielding and timely help, and will think that he is a person worth making friends with.
If he needs your help in the future, you will be on call and believe in his words.
Just a little favor can make you grateful to him. Such a good opportunity will naturally not be wasted.
But you have become a spare tire in his complex network of connections. Once you have something to use, he will come to you without hesitation.
In addition, he really doesn’t have much sincerity towards you, but he just thinks you have value.
"It doesn't matter, I'll clean up."
people are emotional, but cunning people are better at hiding their emotions, and they show the most satisfactory side.
So, when you accidentally hurt him, even if he has dissatisfaction in his heart, he will not immediately show it. Instead, it was just a sentence, "It's okay, I'll clean up" to resolve the embarrassment.
Of course, this sentence is far from being as light as the surface, but contains two possibilities.
The first type, although your behavior angered him, the relationship with you is very small. Then, he must have chosen his relationship with you, and will not turn against you for a small matter.
After all, making too many enemies is not a good thing for him. Therefore, it is better to endure the calm and peaceful moment.
The second type, the mistake you made has touched its bottom line, but due to face, he will not settle the score with you immediately, but will wait for the right opportunity to double the repayment.
Such people are particularly terrifying. They smile at you on the surface, but in fact they are like a time bomb.
But no matter what kind of mentality it was at that time, he suppressed the anger in his heart and tried to pretend to be calm, just to create a very tolerant look for you.
So, you will think he is a good person to get along with and will not be petty about small things. And once you feel this way, you fall into his trap, don't be stupid again.
"Thank you, it is my luck to have friends like you in life."
people like to be affirmed, and they long to be praised by others in work, life, and emotionally.
As the saying goes, a good word warms up in three winters.When you are affirmed, you will always feel uncontrollable happiness.
So, you begin to value this recognized friendship and even willing to constantly consume yourself for the other party.
Just for the other person’s words: “Thank you, it’s my luck to have friends like you in life.”
But in fact, people who like to keep this sentence on their lips may not really regard you as a friend. However, one thing is worthy of recognition, that is, you have the value he wants.
Therefore, he must tie you firmly to himself with his close friend's relationship, so that you will be willing to contribute to this friendship.
If you have been in a beautiful friendship relationship, it is understandable. Anyway, you are willing to enter the game from beginning to end.
But if you are not the kind of person who is used to turning a blind eye, you will be extremely disappointed the day you know the truth.
Unless, you are a very rational person. Understand that the most basic thing to come to this world is to satisfy one's own life, and then to make friends.
In other words, true friends are hard to come by. If you are pushed to the throne of friends by others, instead of taking the initiative, you will be destined to become a puppet of cunning people.
In short, people with scheming know how to use human nature the most. Therefore, if you don’t want to be kept in the dark, you must learn to distinguish the meaning of your words.
In life, you must be cautious when making friends, and do not do anything else, and you will not let yourself become a pawn for gaining benefits.
After all, there are so many people who interact with each other every day, if you are not clear-headed, you will never see clearly whether the person in front of you is a sheep or a tiger.
