Before reading this article, I would like to remind you to prepare tissues to wipe the tears you shed. I think this article should be able to tell the hardships and sorrows of different people throughout their lives. There are always memories of the past that make you feel sad, but in the end I survived.
Martin Luther King once said: "I cut off a stone of hope from the top of a mountain of despair." In reality, have you ever experienced despair? Have you left sad tears in a desolate corner? Do you tell yourself to learn to be strong when you are depressed? Have you learned to tolerate by learning to look at other people's faces?
(I)
When I wrote this, I thought of a father working on a construction site in the movie " Yangtze River No. 7 " starring Stephen Chow . He suffered cold eyes and torture in order to support his son to go to school. When he pushed a cart to do hard work on the construction site, when he was gnawing a cold steamed bun on the dangerous roof to satisfy his hunger, he did not complain or complained about his hard work, but just silently insisted on his dream in his heart - to support his son to go to school.
Just like the father in the video teaches his son: "We don't steal, don't rob, we won't take things that do not belong to us, we will not take them. You have to study hard and be a useful person in the future. I just didn't study when I was a child, so now..." His biggest dream is to hope that his son can win a bright future with excellent results, and he does not want his son to follow in his footsteps. Such a father may be a true portrayal of many people in our lives.
My father seems to be his prototype, and I am also very much like the little boy in the movie. When I was a child, under the influence of my father, my thoughts continued to mature. I remember how playful and naughty I was at that time, and I always seemed to ignore the matter of studying. The rural environment has created all kinds of playful conditions for me. I have experienced all kinds of interesting things like being a cattle herder, climbing mountains and trees, and picking herbs and picking wild fruits. However, as I grow older, sooner or later I will put this childhood life aside.
In the summer of 2008, after all the hardships, I finally came to a middle school in the county to go to junior high school. At that time, I lived with my father in a rented dark and humid room. We were often shabby and troubled by the landlord. He also had to get up early and work late every day. Many times I witnessed my father suffering in the scorching sun. I felt very touched at that time and wondered why it was not me who suffered.
So, I thought my best reward at that time was to study hard, which also became the only motivation to motivate me to make progress. I thought about going to a very good high school. I worked very hard in junior high school. I had to learn until 11 o'clock in the evening. I faced difficulties in any windy and rainy days. I quickly reached the forefront in the school exams and achieved my goal as I wished.
Later, after finishing high school and college all the way, when I reached the fork between postgraduate entrance examination and job hunting, I chose to take the postgraduate entrance examination. I started reviewing in September and took the December exam for more than three months. The written test score was 349, which was quite ideal overall. Normally, the written test ranking was very high. I remember correctly at the time, but it was the third place, but I was the third place. I was ruthlessly beaten. Even among the more than a dozen students at that time, the last few of the last passed successfully.
When I received such a notice, I felt extremely sad inside. I was numb at that time. Although I only had three months to prepare for the exam, that was all my efforts. I knew I was lost by the unspoken rules. So when I returned to the hotel where I stayed, I was in a daze all night, and all kinds of questions and confusions came to me, "Is it because I am not outstanding enough? Is the interview difficult? Is it because I am not suitable for graduate school? Forget it, I want to go home to find a way out early. I can go World War II, I can start a business, I can find a job."
In short, I imagined all kinds of ways of retreat. Just as I was in a dilemma, my classmate told me that there were special places in the school, only recruiting students. This news was a clear view of the clouds and the sun was cleared. I felt hope in the moment, so I quickly signed up, which could be regarded as seeing a glimmer of light in the darkness. We were lucky in the end and were successfully admitted.
(II)
There are two kinds of surprises in life, one false alarm and a loss and regaining. This is a story that happened around me. Two strangers met in the student union during their postgraduate studies, one from Hunan and the other from Hubei, but at this time they were both far away from their hometowns.
It is this fate that brought them together and started a wonderful journey of love. I am one of them, but I do not act as a light bulb. One is my roommate and the other is known to the student union, so I became more familiar with them in the end. For two years, they were inseparable. If you see one of them in the cafeteria, library, and playground, you will definitely see the other within 30 meters. This should not be exaggerating at all.
The biggest attraction of two people being together must be that they can appreciate each other. I understand you, you understand me. Secondly, we can also give each other happiness, maintain our consistent values, and strive for a common goal. I think this will lead to the end. There is no flaw in them at all, and even some minor frictions and emotional venting is within the normal range.
They will help each other to do experiments. When they are about to graduate and find a job, the girl will accompany the boy from one city to another, traveling among various cities in China. There is a saying that goes, companionship is the longest confession. Love does not need to be expressed in words, but it is all in practical actions.
So in the end, in the eyes of all those who know them, there will be such a consensus, just like confidence in the rise and fall of stocks, ‘I’m optimistic about you’.
days will be worth it. They also got the offer from , an public institution in Shanghai, so that they can prepare for the exam for selected candidates in their hometown and civil servants.
But two months before graduation, I discovered a secret. Although they were secretly informed, I probably guessed that there was something wrong with my relationship. Finally, I learned from me that it was a breakup. During the chat with them alone, I also felt that this time it was a complete break, and there was no room for compensation or look back.
Finally, the boy went to his hometown in Hunan to work as a civil servant, the girl went to Shanghai, and went to different cities. The imagined love was like a cloud flying to the sky. At first glance, it was like a hazy picture, which could only be seen in myths.
Until one day, the girl chatted with me alone and said, "Ajiang, I like him fortunately, can there be hope?" Ah? At that time, I was full of surprise and doubt. When everything was settled, her thoughts were like a silent volcano suddenly erupting.
I asked, "Can you still choose?" Because the job is very good, and I was separated because of the job, so I said to her very negatively: "It's better to find another way out. Don't fantasize about hope too much."
"No, if he still likes me and is willing to be with me, I will quit my job and go to his place to find a job and be with him forever. I don't think there is any difficulty that cannot be solved. It's just a job."
Actually, I have been bored for a long time. Think about it, I was not like this before. I would step on it like a stone when I encountered any difficulties. It is indeed not a difficult situation. Compared with sincere love, my work is much smaller.
Their story continues. In the face of their respective dreams, the girl's courage does not show any discouragement. Instead, she becomes more and more courageous as she sets down. She also hopes that lovers will finally get married.
(III)
American hedge fund Bridgewater founder Ridalio left a point in the book " Principles " - only by arousing your high-quality thinking in pain will prompt yourself to make progress and live the life you want.
This view has always appeared in my mind. The moment I left home, I became very painful. After graduation, I went to work in the farthest northeast Liaoning area. Because my home is in Hebei, and my parents are already old, I expressed my own voice, that is, I may not be able to take good care of them in the future.
"The tree wants to be quiet but the wind does not stop, and the son wants to be filial but the parents are not waiting for him." This sentence has appeared repeatedly in my mind. Why do I have to make such a decision? Because of the epidemic, can I only choose a relatively safe unemployment post? Alas, there is no way, who made my hometown so much, it is really not easy to find a good job.
is very painful, very painful, very painful, this is what I felt when I first came. I told myself to change myself. Only when I become strong enough can you control your life and control your destiny. So, my first choice was to read. In order to facilitate reading more books, I bought an e-book reader , and I have been reading for three months.
During the reading process, I found that no matter how much I read, I seemed to have forgotten it in the past few days. Fortunately, I read a book called "Cognitive Awakening". The method I learned from this book is to extract the views I learned from the book, use my thoughts to guide my actions, and use my actions to change myself. Moreover, you must learn to continuously output during reading. Only in this way can you deepen your memory, integrate it, and turn the knowledge in the book into your own knowledge.
I have been writing for a while, and I have set a goal for myself to write a book within one year and publish it. And I hope to use platforms like self-media to further encourage myself not to stop. In the previous article updates, we can see that Ajiang is also learning knowledge in various aspects and sharing it with everyone to make progress together.
Now I have a sense of superiority. After more people can read my articles, I feel that my values have been conveyed because they are some positive energy things that encourage everyone to be positive. In fact, there are no difficulties in life that can defeat yourself. You are depressed because you are not strong enough inside.
(last words)
once again quotes a classic line from "Yangtze River 7", "Although we are poor, we must have backbone, not brag, not fight, and study hard. Even if we are poor, we will be respected wherever we go." In fact, dreams are very close to us. Too many people die tomorrow because of lack of persistence, but the real glory appears the day after tomorrow.
So, don’t bow to reality, walk away bravely super difficulties and setbacks, and overcome it!
