Do you admit it? Today's society, material life is enriched, but our sense of happiness is getting lower and lower. Many people will say, how much social pressure is now! Where else is there any happiness?
Indeed, life is full of complaints, husbands complain about their wives, wives complain about their husbands; parents complain about their children, children complain about their parents; leaders complain about employees, employees complain about their leaders. We live in complaining all the time.
Why do people live so painfully? Why do people live in the world suffer? Because we are all surrounded by accusations and complaints. There is nothing wrong in the world, but mediocre people disturb them!
The reason why you are so painful today is because the situation is small and the mind is too narrow-minded, so you feel pain. Let me tell you two stories.
Story 1:
Do you still remember Ding Yuanying in the TV series " Tiandao "? One day, he went to have breakfast and gave money as soon as he came up. As a result, the boss was too busy with business and forgot. When Ding Yuanying finished his meal and was about to leave, the boss stopped him and said, "You haven't paid yet?" Ding Yuanying said, "Ah! I'll give you two more yuan."
Someone said that the boss had given it just now. Ding Yuanying has already given it, so why does the boss ask him for it again? Are you invincible in the world? What if it was us? I will definitely say, what boss? I've given you money.
But Ding Yuanying said that these two dollars can buy my boss and I’m worth it. If I had a fight over these two dollars, it might make me feel bad all day.
The next day, Ding Yuanying went to have dinner again. When the boss saw him staying in restaurants every day, he thought he was very rich, so he said to him, "What are you doing? You are doing big business." Ding Yuanying replied, "I don't have a job. If you don't dislike me, I'll come to you to work tomorrow."
After hearing this, the boss looked disgusted and muttered, "It's not embarrassing to just eat or not work." After hearing this, Ding Yuanying smiled faintly and continued to eat. Did he care what others say about him? If he gets emotional, who is sad? It's yourself.
No matter how others anger you, people with small circumstances may be so angry that they can't sleep for three days and three nights because of a small matter, and they will never get out of it for the rest of their lives. You have been tortured by emotions for the rest of your life and are sick, while another person has passed by one thing in a second. Who do you think will be more hurt?
Everything has its two sides, it depends on whether you see its front or negative side. This is also a true story below.
Story 2:
This story of a great mother raising her son with great hardship. When she was young, her husband was in a car accident and left her and her three-year-old son. She had thought about remarrying and finding someone to share her pressure, but her son disagreed and she gave up the idea for her son.
More than 20 years ago, he worked several jobs alone, raised his son with great difficulty, and sent him to study abroad to the United States. He gave all her savings to his son and devoted himself to his son.
As a result, when she was old and retired, she thought to herself: Now her son has started a family in the United States and has children, and she wants to live with them. Because she has no money in mainland China, her son is now her only relative.
So, she wrote a letter to her son, and she said, "Son, mom is old now and retired. My only thought now is to live with your family. I am going to come to the United States and be with you every day."
After writing the letter, the mother was very happy and thought to herself: She is the only relative of her son, and she will definitely come back to pick her up immediately after receiving the letter. As a result, she received a letter and opened the envelope. She saw a check worth 30,000 yuan, which was surprised.
Because of so many years, his son has never sent her a penny. He studied abroad, got married, or bought a house, and his son asked her for money. She immediately opened the letter, and the first sentence in the letter shocked her.
The letter reads: "Mom, after discussion, we don't welcome you to the United States. If you think you have spent a lot of money on raising me over the years, I calculated that 20,000 US dollars should be the same. I will give you 30,000, which is interest. You will live yours in the future, and I will live mine."
This is a true story. When the mother saw this letter, she felt that the sky had collapsed. She spent all her life on this son, saving money to support him in the United States to study, and never marry for his son. What if this matter was put to each of us?
Maybe most people will be unable to think about it, and they can be angry to death. Because you think this matter is too big and you can't accept it.
Later, the mother slowly let go. She thought: Everything has cause and effect. Maybe it was what I owe him in my previous life. I paid him back in this life. Now I pay it back, so now I live my life and he lives his life.
I am still very young, in my 50s, and I should have my own life. Now I have money. If I want to find a wife, I will find her and take it with the 30,000 US dollars he gave me. I can travel everywhere. Isn’t that good?
A year later, she wrote another letter to her son, in which he said: "I think life is pretty good now. I took the US dollar you gave me, found a wife, and traveled around, which is more than the countries you went to. In the future, you live yours, I live mine, and we will not disturb each other."
Why will everyone get different results after the same thing happens? That's because his level has improved, and his perspective on the problem has become different.
Everything has both positive and negative sides. If the pattern is big and the mind is broad, will all bad things still be a problem? If you have a big heart, things will become smaller. In this world, we cannot change anyone, and the only thing we can change is ourselves.
Sometimes when there is no way to go, it is the road. Your life has fallen to the bottom. No matter how you go, it will be upward. Finally, I would like to give you a sentence: If you don’t tie yourself up, how can you turn into a cocoon into a butterfly!
