When I was young, happiness was a very simple thing.
A pack of snacks, a new piece of clothing, and a box of video tapes are all sources of happiness and are particularly easy to satisfy.
When I grew up, I found that simplicity is a very happy thing.
Don’t have to think about this or that, don’t have to be involved in the matter, just get along with each other with all the mechanisms.
The implication of longing and expectation is that it is actually not owned yet.
We look forward to simplicity because we are in a complex state and cannot have simplicity. What's worse is that this status quo is difficult to improve for the time being.
can't change things, then accept it.
If the world of adults is destined to be complex, then we strive to survive in the complexity.
Below share the 20 unspoken social rules in the adult world.
Don’t easily evaluate others and point fingers at other people’s lives.
Unknown to others’ hardships, don’t persuade others to be generous.
You have never experienced other people's lives and don't know what others have experienced, then your evaluation will be inconsistent enough and you are not qualified to evaluate it.
In addition, it is easy to cause right and wrong and trouble if you evaluate and define others without verification.
The words you say often reach the other person's ears, and they are processed with oil and vinegar.
Source: Panoramic Vision
Talk well in everything, don’t treat uneducated as your true nature.
It is often difficult to distinguish between being straightforward and being unblocked.
Most of the time, your self-righteous and generous personality, may be uneducated and mean.
As the saying goes, disease enters from the mouth, and disaster comes from the mouth.
If you don’t think or think before speaking, what you say is easy to offend people.
People who can speak well will often become winners in life.
Don't be attentive to everyone.
When you trust someone without reservation, there will be only these two results in the end:
either become the person in your life or a lesson in your life.
It’s a pity that the latter situation is more likely to occur.
It is necessary to treat people sincerely, but don’t be attentive to everyone.
You tell your details, thoughts and things you get are often wrong.
Not everyone is worthy of being friends. Don’t overestimate your position in the minds of others, otherwise you will be very hurt and disappointed.
can solve it yourself, try not to bother others.
Don’t use favors when things can be solved by spending money; find a way to solve problems that can be spent on time and energy.
Good relationship is troublesome, and this sentence does make some sense.
But you must have boundaries and sense of proportion. No one likes to be disrupted by others. Every adult has his own life, and he often has difficulty in protecting himself and is overwhelmed.
Never be a confident stretcher.
Source: Panoramic Vision
Don't despise or bully others, be kind.
At any time or in any occasion, don’t look down on others or even bully others just because others seem easy to bully and have no strength.
First of all, it is easy to see things and be slapped in the face, and regret it at that time.
Second, it is better to be kinder. This is not only a character, but sometimes kindness can also save lives.
Don’t ask others to borrow money easily, and don’t lend money to others easily.
Don’t borrow money from relatives and friends easily if you are not required.
cannot borrow it, causing trouble for yourself; if you borrow it, causing trouble for others.
In fact, finding a reliable platform to borrow money is much more reliable than finding friends to borrow. It does not make friends embarrassed, nor does it owe anyone favors, and the probability of borrowing is very high.
Regarding borrowing money, when you need help, those who can lend money to you must be grateful and return the money to others on time.
Don’t feel resentful for those who don’t lend it to you, because it’s not easy for everyone, not everyone has a mine at home.
At the same time, don’t lend money to others easily.
Sometimes, it is easy to borrow money, but it is difficult to get debts.
Source: Panoramic Vision
Do not send large voice messages randomly when chatting on WeChat.
Nowadays, WeChat is used very frequently, whether in work or in life.
When chatting and communicating with people, some people like to post voice messages, and one message is a large number of voice messages for dozens of seconds.
It is convenient for you, but the other party may not be convenient for you to listen.
First, the occasion may not be allowed, and second, the expression may be unsmooth or the environment may be noisy. The other party often has to listen back and forth several times to hear clearly what you are saying.
In addition, there are some details that need to be paid attention to in WeChat social:
Similar to information such as bank account number and ID card. If you can copy and paste, don’t post screenshots;
When you receive the information, reply as soon as possible, and you may forget it as soon as possible.
The more familiar people around you, the more likely they don’t want you to be.
Beggars won't be jealous of millionaires, but they are likely to be jealous of beggars with higher incomes than him.
The more familiar people around you, the less you want you to live a better life, at least you don’t want to see you live a better life than him.
This sounds quite sad, but that's the reality.
So, don’t show off when you have money, others may not really bless you;
Don’t complain everywhere if you don’t have money, and those who listen may not really sympathize and care about you.
Just listen to it and don't echo.
Many people have the habit of self-deprecating and self-deprecating.
Whether he is self-taught or humble, he still criticizes himself sincerely.
As the listener, just listen. Don’t take it seriously, let alone agree.
No one likes to be denied.
Don’t complain, either bear it silently or leave decisively.
I was unhappy in my work and I was not happy to share my family with my friends. When encountering such things, don’t ask people to talk to you everywhere.
Especially at work, don’t complain to other colleagues no matter how unhappy you are, you only have two choices:
First, bear it silently and find a way to turn the situation around; the second is to resign and leave the right and wrong.
Source: Panoramic Vision
Promise others to do what they cannot do.
Credit is a high-level quality in the adult world, which will determine our overall impression in the minds of others.
, it is best not to agree to something that can’t be done by
.
If you agree to someone else’s things, you must work hard to do it. If you really can’t do it in the end, you must also give timely feedback and reasonable explanations.
Otherwise, it is easy to leave an unreliable impression.
money is really important.
There are very few things in the world that money cannot handle. For example, getting out of singleness does not necessarily mean getting out of poverty, but getting out of poverty has a high probability of getting out of singleness.
If you want to get a person out, or want to achieve something, please talk less about your relationship and more about your money.
Very few people can resist the temptation of interests. If the price you offer cannot impress the other party, it is often not that the money is not easy to use, but that the temptation is not big enough.
Keeping a distance from friends of the opposite sex is the self-consciousness.
In interpersonal communication, no matter how close a relationship is, you should pay attention to the degree and distance.
In other words, getting too close to anyone can be a disaster.
Especially when interacting with friends of the opposite sex, you should keep a certain distance. This is the awareness that an adult should have, otherwise problems will easily arise in the end.
When you are not capable, don’t be so irritated.
1 people are divided into three levels:
first-class people, have the ability but have no temper.
second-class people, have the ability and temper.
people, incompetent and have a temper.
The most taboo thing in life is that it is not very capable and has a good temper.
This kind of personality is easy to suffer losses in life and work, because no one will spoil you.
Please invite someone to dinner. If you can’t make an appointment for more than three times, don’t shout.
If a person has made an appointment several times in a row, it is most likely that he does not want to go to the appointment, not that he does not have time.
is not limited to having dinner, WeChat chat, etc.
If you send a message to a person, the other party will never reply. It’s not that he doesn’t see it or has no time to reply, but he just doesn’t want to reply.
No one can do without anyone, sometimes there is no need to feel too wronged.
Don’t overestimate the relationship with anyone. This sentence has two meanings:
First, don’t think about yourself so important; second, don’t think about others so important.
Source: Panoramic Vision
If a relationship makes you feel very painful and requires you to maintain it, then it can be over.
No one really cannot live without anyone. Many times, there is really no need to cater to, please others, and let yourself suffer.
When you turn around and leave, you will find how stupid you were when you were and how comfortable your life is now.
The most important rule in the adult world is actually to live a happier life.
Author: Tong Shier, source: Tong Shier.
