Most modern people's lives are in a state of double speed, busy and running around, and many people even lose themselves in this fast-paced era. Slowing down the pace is not simply slowing down people's pace, but more importantly, making people's tight living conditions a little looser.
1relax, not lazy or slack. He Duoling said, "Pianists have been fighting slack all their lives." Relack is the supreme technique in piano skills. It is an invisible and intangible feeling. It can only be felt through hearing: full and bright when playing strong, clear and even when playing fast, and distant and soft when playing slow. A relaxed state is also a supreme state of life that makes people feel comfortable and at ease.
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Looking at those who have a sense of relaxation, there are basically two types: one is the darling of destiny, born with a wealthy family, grew up in a relaxed and free environment since childhood, and there is an innate relaxation and freedom in the infiltration of love and confidence; the other is After years of washing and precipitation, it is the optimism and transparency of life that still loves life after seeing through the essence of life. Although we cannot demand the former, we can become the latter.
So how do you present this state?
first, tighten first and then loose. slackness reflects a kind of ease of . If you don’t have any ability and expertise, how to deal with various problems and how to be at ease of ease? So everyone will have a "tight" stage, but in the "tight" stage, we must focus on the process and improve ourselves, instead of thinking too much, always thinking about the results.
Second, you must know yourself reasonably and not have too high expectations for yourself. Although we say that we will reach a relaxed state after going through the tight stage, we should not put too much pressure on ourselves. Only when we are satisfied with ourselves will relax, so we should accept ourselves. We must work hard, but don't be too demanding of ourselves. "Sequential Flowers Bloom" says that many worries are because there are too many things that are attached to in the heart after the improvement of material conditions. Let go of your persistence, relax, and slowly get closer to your heart. Bi Shumin said, "Only relaxation can reach a long time, and only relaxation can open up potential more deeply."
3, the focus is on one's own growth and not living in other people's evaluations. Humans are social animals, and judging others is natural. Some people think that they deceive the world and steal the reputation, and they are unfilial like Qin Hui also has two or three confidants. Sometimes, good and bad, like and dislike are not so clear. Everyone has a scale in their hearts, and different people will have different standards. Instead of wasting time to meet other people's standards and meet other people's requirements, it is better to achieve your goals according to your own standards. Your life belongs to you, so the direction of life should be controlled by yourself.
The truth of this world is that everything is not something you can control. Every thing that happens to you is sometimes completely beyond your expectations, but in essence, it happens to be a lot of accidents and randomness, and many influencing factors cannot be perceived by the brain consciousness.
If you face life nervously all the time and expect life to unfold in front of your eyes as you expect, then you are destined to be disappointed. When you continue to be unhappy because of this, worrying about gains and losses will only turn your life into a mess, and you will feel busy but still can't figure it out.
On the contrary, the relaxation of life is not about being scattered or indifferent, but reconciling with the changes in the world, reconciling with one's own obsession, not wasting your efforts to entangle with it, turning around and continuing to welcome the next stop of life with ease.Therefore, you have to change your thinking. We come to this world to travel, without setting expectations, but plan many things, but adjust ourselves with changes, experience life with our hearts, and live with our lives without rushing or impatiently.
