Things in the world are like chess game, and only those who don’t need to get it are masters; life is like a clay pot, and only when you break it will you see the vacuum.
On the road to getting old, I have experienced ups and downs, seen the coldness of the world, and learned to be an "idle", so that I can be free and calm, confident and down-to-earth.
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Only by not caring about other people’s business can you focus on being yourself.
In life, everyone is eager to be rich and fame. Only after suffering setbacks and blows, can they realize that the world is dangerous and people are cold and weak.
Some people become more and more courageous as they set off, and from then on they stand out, life is like flowers in brocade and cooking oil in a blazing fire; some people let go decisively, no longer bowing their waists for five dou of rice, and from then on they retire to the countryside, idle clouds and wild cranes.
No matter which choice they choose, they have no exception to choose "focus on being themselves". Wherever they see and where they want, they are foreseeable futures through their own efforts.
As for things that you cannot control and have nothing to do with you, they are all classified as "nothing things". No matter how the world is swaying, they will no longer be moved by them. They just want to live a good life between a world.
For example, no matter how good the relationship between brothers and sisters is, they do not interfere in their housework and do not make suggestions with strong tendencies.
For example, no matter how good the relationship between friends is, they will maintain the boundary of "closeness and separation" and prevent the intertwined lives of each other.
As for the complex and subtle interpersonal relationships at work, he practices the concept of "simple people should not be mixed with complex people". He lets him be crazy and moves forward steadily at his own pace.
Slowly, a person gets used to being alone and enjoys the beauty of calming down, and life has entered a virtuous cycle.
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Only by not causing idle people can you avoid causing trouble.
Writer Buckman said: "Don't mess with people who are idle than you."
The reason is very simple. In order to relieve the loneliness and boredom of "isolated" and idle people always want to "get out of the order", either tease others, or be happy to watch a joke and enjoy the pleasure brought by "prank".
For example, in the unit, the elder brother, sister, the leader’s driver, etc., who are about to retire, are all "idle people" that we can’t afford to offend.
The former is a diversification of various "good news". People who usually walk close to them and those with the power behind them are all praise and praise, and they are very generous. They are very generous as "brokers" who seek fame in front of their leaders.
As for those who have higher aesthetic taste than them, but are honest and despised by them, they are resentful from the bottom of their hearts and want to find fault. Therefore, you can "black" them in your heart, but you should still be more enthusiastic in your mouth.
The latter is often the leader’s confidant and a "small window" for the leader to understand his subordinates. If you want them to stop slandering you in front of the leader, you cannot leave them behind the gifts given to the leader. Even if you exchange daily greetings, you must take the initiative.
Everyone knows this. Being polite to each other and not being able to get along is the best way to get along with each other. Otherwise, it means "killing one thousand enemies will hurt yourself by 800." There is really no need.
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Only by not being idle can you stay away from disputes between right and wrong.
"Zhuangzi" writes: "Those who steal hooks are punished, and those who steal the country are princes, and benevolence and righteousness are there."
means: those who steal small property are punished, while those who steal the entire country become emperors. There is no difference in essence between the two, but the latter is too powerful. Over time, people gradually think that they are their "saviors".
The same is true for the struggle for fame and fortune in the workplace. Only those who succeed will have the right to speak. The failure will be wrong in whatever you say.
If you are a little slight person, you want to "reveal justice" and "bear injustice", you can only say that you hit the stone with an egg, which is to bring shame to yourself, or even self-destruction.
A truly smart person chooses not to be "idle", see through but not speak out, just make yourself well.
For example, in the late Tang Dynasty , a Taoist scholar named incompetent , believed that whether it was the corrupt court or the Huang Chao uprising army who was holding the slogan of "doing the way for heaven", they were just a group of robbers fighting for stolen goods, and there was no justice. So he became a person who was alone and stood by and watched.
People who truly live a clear life have long been used to "deaf ears when you hear things outside the window". Whether it is work or socializing, they only want to "be able to live". What they care most about is to please themselves, to accompany and take care of their families, and to manage their " one acre and three-point land " with vitality.
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Conclusion:
Poet Su Shi, the biggest wish is to retire, Tao Yuanming is his idol.
For this reason, he also wrote the words "The boat will pass away from now on, and the rivers and seas will be sent to the rest of their lives." "When will you go back and be an idle person. For a piano, a pot of wine, a stream of clouds."
It’s a pity that his wish has not been realized until he is old.
is placed in the present moment. If you have worked hard, struggled, succeeded, and failed, it is better to slowly learn to be an idle person, open up a new road to life, and encounter a more beautiful life scenery.
Author: It’s as light as the wind and light as the clouds.
Your happiness, my blessings.
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