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Every five years of life is actually a turning point.
If you live well in the first five years, then you will not be bad in the next five years. And you will go downhill in the first five years, and you will only expect a turning point in the next five years. Of course, there are basically not many people who can grasp the "transfer" of .
An opportunity appears by our side. We either don’t notice it or we can’t catch it if we pay attention. In the end, we can only be in vain.
Generally speaking, the saddest life of is actually not in the early years, but in the middle age. Especially after 45 years old, we will find that life is like a roller coaster, with twists and turns and gradually reaching the bottom.
Some people's families have problems repeatedly, some people's bodies are always sick, some people are so unlucky that they encounter accidents, and some people have many villains and bad things happening around them...
Why do these misfortunes come unexpectedly after the age of 40 or 45? The most important reason is that our body is not very energetic, and we are also encountering the peak period of conflicts in life. , what should we do?
people, when you reach a certain age, don’t lie to yourself anymore. When you go downhill, you must learn to seize the "turnaround". This is the truth.
02
45 years ago and around the age of 345, it was the peak period of crisis.
We have all heard of "The Law of the Workplace of 35 Years Old" , but no one knows that the predecessor of this law is the "The Law of the Workplace of Middle Age". But now that is inverted is serious, the unit is not a person over 35 years old.
The life crisis of ordinary people begins at the age of 35. However, at that time, we were still strong and energetic. It was still OK to deliver takeaways and drive online car-hailing. This energetic period of time such as
has passed, and our physical fitness will become worse and worse. Not to mention that unemployment has become the norm, even supporting a family has become a problem, so there will be more follow-up problems.
This is what we often call " domino effect ".
As a man, you have not made enough money recently, then your wife will dislike you and put pressure on you. In order to make more money, you keep working, but your body can't stand it anymore and you fall down.
can't hold on, that's a trivial matter. Wait for you to get home, and you find that your family doesn’t have any good attitude . The innocent smile on your child makes you feel guilty. What can you do?
In this "pressure dead cycle" model, even if you are a hardworking old scalper, you can't stand it. What you didn’t expect was that you, the old ox, are no longer able to do it, and there are other little oxes on the top. This has been done from generation to generation.
03
By the age of 45, you will face these problems.
Question 1: Don’t be afraid of death, but don’t dare to get sick.
The greatest helplessness in life is that we are not afraid of leaving, we are just afraid of getting sick. Why? Because life and death are a matter of a moment. If you get sick, you will need to spend a lot of money.
Today's workers have a lot of diseases in their bodies, so which one can be cured? What's more, treating diseases is not a problem of taking medicine for surgery, but a problem of burning money. There are not many families who can afford to burn this money.
Question 2: Revenue decreases and spending increases.
If you are an employee with a latte rice bowl, then you are lucky, at least you can guarantee your income for a lifetime. However, not everyone has a latte rice bowl. There are too many ordinary people who are not living very peacefully.
For example, a middle-aged man has an average income, but his life costs increase and his children spend more. In this way, they can only save money and feed their families and offspring. Who knows that descendants are also walking back to the same path as them.
Problem 3: Conflicts arise unconsciously.
We do not provoke conflicts, but we cannot prevent conflicts from appearing. If a man cannot make money, his wife will have conflicts with him, which is inevitable. There is a conflict between husband and wife, and the whole family will suffer.
Modern middle-aged people should be angry with others outside and their relatives at home. It seems that I have become someone else's punching bag.
04
In the future, encountering these two points will lead to the turning point.
First of all, you have to "stay" until you are 50 years old and overcome the hurdle of 49 years old.
The art of war says: "Stop the land and survive, and stay in the land and live." people must persevere in the situation of life and death, at least wait until the day when the flowers are bright.
For example, if you are in a trough period of 45 years old, then you don’t have a better way out. What should you do? I can only "stay" and see if I can overcome the hurdle of 49 years old.
overcomes the hurdle of 49 years old, and I believe your life will be easier. If we can't overcome it, we believe that we can only "get apart from the middle way". You know, there seem to be more and more people leaving 49 before the age of html.
Next, seize the opportunity that flashes by. There is a colleague in the
circle. He collapsed when he was 48 years old. For the sake of his family, he persisted for a year to adjust his mindset. When he was 50 years old, he encountered an opportunity on the Internet and got up directly.
Nowadays, although he is in his fifties, he still lives a relatively comfortable life. In his words, if he hadn't seized this opportunity, he might have really couldn't afford to eat.
God, while bringing you suffering, it will also bring you certain opportunities. Whether this "opportunity" can bring a turning point to your life depends on your vision and ability.
text/Shushan Youlu
