Many people say, whose old age is not a bloody storm? The loneliness and desolation of aging are inevitable.
No matter how loving a couple is, one person will always leave first. When the remaining person lives alone to retire, they will find that one person’s room, one’s daily life, one’s loneliness, is long pulled away in the dark night. Thinking of drinking water, no one can help .
Some people say that loneliness is not something to ourselves, and we can use loneliness to enjoy the rest of our lives; however, most of us, when we are alone, can only use loneliness to look forward to the return of our children, waiting for someone who "come with each other" to chat with us.
People are old. If you live alone, you must plan to think more about yourself and make your old age more comfortable. How to reduce the inner loneliness? allows you to have something to do and have some spiritual sustenance in your heart.
People are old. If they do not have their favorite hobbies, no shelter from the wind and rain, no money to control themselves, and no body to enter and exit freely, then the desolation and loneliness of their old age can only bear it.
In life, some single elderly people, especially when there are only single women, are mostly fantasizing about the beautiful evening scene of "raising children to prevent old age". handed over the savings, housing, and the only pension card in his life to his son's house, just to be able to "have something to support and have something to rely on in his old age."
can often be "ideals are beautiful, but reality is too cruel." Do you still remember the Yan family’s parents in “ Anjia ”? From distant northern Shaanxi to the metropolis, working hard, selling buns from early to late, I have saved money from a house for many years just to give my son a happy future. The house is written with the name of the son and daughter-in-law, and it also pays the full amount to alleviate the pressure on the son's life.
I thought there would be an old couple in a room, but I knew it would be occupied by my mother-in-law. Seeing Yan's parents pushing a tricycle in the wind and snowy days, have you ever regretted it in his heart's sorrow? Why don’t you think about yourself more? Even if you only pay the down payment and the remaining money, go back to your hometown to buy a new house and live in peace and feel at ease. It’s not as much as paying the whole thing, and you don’t have your own tiles to hide the rain.
When people are old, we should still live a clearer life. Although the house and money are not brought by life or taken away by death, we should still keep it in our own hands. Don’t give it to your children easily until the end, otherwise the miserable old days can only be said to be your own fault.
People are old, especially an elderly person living alone. You should know that , the peace of mind in their later years all come from these three things in their hands.
"My wife". If you meet a suitable partner, don't care about the needs of your children and follow your inner wishes more.
People are old and live alone. When they encounter companionship with their own feelings and can help each other, don’t care about the needs of their children and learn to follow their inner wishes. doesn’t have to care about the nothingness in the world.
There is a wife who cares about your well-being around you. She can understand your thoughts and know your warmth and coldness. She handed you a cup of warm water, cooked you a meal you like, and be able to talk to each other. This is the blessing of in her later years.
Twilight love is actually a very beautiful thing, no matter what age, there are emotional needs. It’s just that the emotions of the elderly are more subtle, not about the passion that is thrilling, but comes from the slow enjoyment of each other’s dependence on life.
People are old. If they meet a friend who lives alone and meets a chat, they don’t have to care about other people’s eyes, nor do they have to care about getting a marriage certificate, as long as they can feel the warmth and depend on each other.
Imagine that every day someone goes to the square for exercise and walk with you, telling "the past stories", chatting about the current news, lamenting the beauty of the past, and imagining the next life again.Is that kind of companionship better than a person's loneliness!
When people are old, they should live more for themselves. as long as it is not an illegal or moral thing, I think you can live as much as you are happy. I believe that children will understand and understand. will not live for the rest of their lives. Live happily and healthy, the most important thing is.
guards the old nest where you live alone, collect the principal of your pension, and let yourself "have a place to live in old age and have peace of mind"
" Tiandao " Ding Yuanying's mother asked him why "raising a child to prevent old age" ended like this? Ding Yuanying said that if you want to raise your child to prevent old age, don’t hymnly, parents raise their children for their own elderly care, but in fact, it is an exchange of interests with their children.
Especially in today's life, raising children to prevent old age is just a beautiful word, and there are too few children who can really rely on. It’s not that children have no filial piety, but that in reality, children in are unable to do anything, and often have no choice but to do anything.
Do you remember the old man Bai Jinghui in " Beizhe Nanyuan "? When his wife was alive, his son from afar came back to discuss with them, bought an old man's house and changed a large-scale house in Shanghai, so that the old couple of Bai Jinghui would go with him to live and retire, but was driven away by Bai Jinghui. When Bai Jinghui's wife passed away, his son said that he wanted her to fund her savings to start her own business, let her follow her son to retire, and also expressed his filial piety by "raising children to prevent old age". However, he wanted to buy Bai Jinghui's house and take away the pension money.
The clever and wise old man Bai Jinghui not only has not been deceived by his son again and again, but also has his own beautiful old age life. He talked with calligraphy enthusiast Mr. Lu to have his own old nest and take good care of his pension money. Only by not letting go can he have a comfortable old age life.
people are old, and the money in their hands is their confidence and dignity. The old nest is their best destination and a place where we elderly people feel at ease.
No matter how old you are, you must have your own hobbies and like-minded old friends
People are old. When they live alone, they don’t want to find a partner anymore. They still have old friends around them. Those old friends who can get along and chat together have the same hobbies and can help each other. is not for anything else, just for company.
In "North Zhe Nanyuan", Ms. Bai Jinghui and Mr. Lu Zheng had a good relationship in the evening love between me and Mr. Lu Zheng. They made an appointment to go to the park to exercise. Afterwards, Mr. Bai Jinghui went to sing, Mr. Lu Zheng practiced calligraphy, and then went back to cook, drink tea and chat together.
Occasionally, if anyone feels uncomfortable, you can help each other through the small things that their children are not around in their later years. The two of them had a sweet evening love. In those lonely days, the two gave each other warm company.
This love between the two of them is a warm and beautiful memory of the two of them in their twilight years. Bai Jinghui took a step forward due to myocardial infarction. Her will wrote: "Myanmar me and Wangxi together. If Lu Zheng is still alive, please bring me apologies. In his seventies, he will meet and know each other. Jinghui will be grateful and I will repay you in the next life."
The friendship between them will be a warm lamp on the road to old age. Let the elderly living alone stay away from loneliness. people are old, get along well with others, date well, actively integrate into the group, find good friends, and their lives in their later years will be rich and colorful.
People are old. If you live alone, you must leave these three "retreats" for yourself: your wife who suits you and helps you to walk the rest of your life; keep your old nest and old capital, and enjoy your old life with dignity and confidence; have a hobby to follow you for the rest of your life, an environment where you can help each other with your old friends, and with the help of the power of a big family, the elderly's life will be more decent.
Finally, May all the elderly, after experiencing vicissitudes, still be safe and sound in their hearts, forget their age, adjust their mentality, live healthy, indifferent and elegantly, cheer for themselves for the rest of their lives.
Author: Huagui Zenxin
Follow my words and enter your heart. You have stories, I have tea, let’s talk about the rest of my life together.
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