I don’t know when it started. People always have a strong purpose in doing things, but forget the nature of doing things. Only by achieving your goals can you do things. If you fail to achieve your goals, you will push back and forth, find various reasons to avoid them, or simply not do it.
For example: reading a book, you must read more than an hour before it counts; walking must be 10,000 steps a day before it is considered complete; cooking must make dishes that are both delicious and delicious to be considered successful; social communication must help expand your connections and resources to be considered meaningful.
Forget the thing itself and see the purpose. Reading is enjoyment, expanding knowledge, not measuring it with time; walking is taking a break from your busy schedule, exercising, not necessarily reaching how much to be considered walking. Everything you do should look at the essence, not for the purpose.
Doing things with purpose, although it seems more efficient, as if every minute and every second are spent on the blade, such a life seems to be easier to succeed; but if you look closely, it happens that this kind of behavior with too purpose is too solidified people's thinking without realizing it, ignoring the essence of things, and eventually becoming inappropriate.
It is not shameful to have utilitarianism when doing things, but habitually having utilitarianism is often difficult to do things well. Farming is for harvest, but it is done with a utilitarian mind, constantly fertilizing and promoting growth, worrying about growing slowly, and pulling seedlings to help grow. As a result, it can only lead to bad growth, and even no harvest will be achieved.
People are not fools. When socializing with purpose, no one can tell, especially when entering a circle you have never been in, everyone knows your every move. If you treat others as a fool and only know how to use others, you will be able to backfire in the end, you will not be able to integrate into the circle, and you will be looked down upon.
When communicating, compared to the meaning of connections, what is more important is to talk with friends and feel free and relaxed. It is a relaxed and pleasant environment. If you insist on turning it into a scene of comparing friendship, intrigue, and mutual use, it will only make people disappointed and disgusted with communication.
Sometimes life seems to rely on those "useful" things to be meaningful, such as successful career, transcendent status, and expensive income; but what really makes life interesting and cute are often the so-called "useless" things, such as reading, traveling, exercise, etc.
As a friend said, it is better to stay at home, trim the flowers and plants in your small garden, bask in the sun, read books, and drink tea, and your life is easier and more comfortable. Not only can it make you feel better, but it also avoids noisy interference outside.
Some people say that it is so boring to stay at home and do these meaningless things. yes! Pruning these flowers and plants will not allow you to raise your salary or increase your social status. However, being able to do what you like to do in your own time is the best life.
There are not so many highlights in life, and most people still spend their lives ordinary. Being able to maintain an open-minded attitude towards life and spend a short life happily is the greatest happiness in life. In life, you need to measure whether things are effective, but more importantly, whether you can make yourself happy.
Some things may not bring material benefits or social status improvement, but they can bring great pleasure to your spiritual world. Such things are worth doing. Life is short, how can you live happily? A happy and interesting life is the most valuable harvest in life.
After all, life not only requires basic material conditions, but also requires a pleasant spiritual feeling. The value of life, in addition to allowing oneself to survive, also reflects spiritual joy. The meaning of life is not only about how much material you have, but also how to make yourself happy and not leave any regrets.
useful things can make material living conditions better, but if you lack spiritual support, it is no different from the walking zombie.Although useless things cannot make people worry about food and clothing, they can make people's minds richer and their lives more interesting.
Everyone’s life is unique to you. You don’t have to cater to other people’s lives, let alone care about other people’s evaluations. Living your own little life well, even if it is not helpful to material life, as long as it is what you like and yearn for, it is a meaningful life.
Zhuangzi said: "Things are not things in things." Life should be about using things without being controlled by things, so that you will not be burdened by things. What is useful has the benefits of seeing, but there are many things that are truly pleasant in life that are invisible. What Zhuangzi said is that only useless use can be a great use. Cultivate a free mind with useless things.
