When I was a child, almost everyone had a blushing face with their friends over something, and then they were wronged and found their parents, insisting that they judge a right or wrong.
As we grow older, we seem to be less serious than we were at the beginning. In the process of getting along with friends, we know how to express our own opinions, and when there are differences, we also know how to understand other people's positions.
Don’t argue, don’t entangle, don’t compete. This should be the growth brought to us by time and the open-mindedness brought to us by maturity.
The world of adults requires confidence to not argue
Carnegie said:
"The only way to win in a debate is to avoid a debate."
Once the cognition of people and people is not on the same level, no matter how much debate is, it is a unnecessary consumption.
is like in the debate circle, a law called "double differences" is circulated: if there are differences between the two sides' opinions, then after each debate, the differences will double.
Because if you want to convince the other party, when both parties speak, they will look for evidence for their own opinions again. Therefore, the more you argue, the more you will believe in your own point of view.
without arguing is never cowardly, nor is it forcing yourself to agree with the other person's thinking. It is a pattern of respecting the existence of different concepts, and it is a cultivation of seeing through but not explaining thoroughly in dealing with people.
Then, when there is no need to dialectical question, there is no need to do dialectical. Instead of trying hard to explain and discuss right or wrong, you might as well make more concessions.
After all, in daily life, different opinions are normal, and we just stand from different perspectives of "blind people touching elephants". If you just argue, you will end up with your friends and waste your time.
The world of adults requires the courage to not be entangled
There is a saying:
"A symbol of maturity is that you no longer rush to argue with others about your own opinions, and gradually understand that not everyone lives in the same sea.
Growth is probably because when people were misunderstood or had different opinions, they wanted to grab the other person's collar and talk for three days and three nights.
cannot be done now. If you can't understand, then I will turn around and leave. "
In life, everyone will be misunderstood and misunderstood. You never know how many versions you have in other people's mouths. If you are always explaining, how much time and energy can you waste in this life?
Don’t care about other people’s gazes, don’t show off your verbal pleasure, and the person who turns around and leaves first often needs more courage and a stronger heart.
The most important thing at the moment is to take good care of your mouth and live your life well.
The ancients said: "The romantic one is not talking about the victory of the front, and the longest taste of silence."
Silence is a more lasting force than argument. Instead of changing other people's thoughts, it is better to wait and see. When your thoughts reach the same level, all misunderstandings will be solved.
At this moment, the smartest way to make aside time to improve yourself.
"Forrest Gump " says:
"Life is a process of continuous elimination. You slowly know what important things are and what unimportant things are."
Let go of those unnecessary debates and meaningless entanglements, and you can move forward lightly and rush to a better future.
