Author丨Tongyu
Everyone lives in this world, and I think they all understand one thing deeply: when necessary, there are always some favors to move around, and they are unavoidable.
As for most people, whether you want it or not, your personal wishes may always be swept away by the public's opinions.
For example, when it comes to human relationships, sometimes you may face other people’s family affairs and don’t want to give this share money, but you will still choose to compromise due to some realistic factors. And these realistic factors of include and are not limited to the opinions of people around you, others' evaluations, etc.
To be honest, in fact, there is really no need to make yourself so tired in life. Many times, it is not that difficult to follow your personal inner thoughts, and it will not make you lose any friend.
Real friends are never used to maintain them, and you will not have such a problem with real friends at all.
I want to remind you: no matter how much money you have, don’t follow the following 3 types of chunks, which is thankless.
01. A friend who has not been in contact for many years will suddenly send you good news;
remembered a statement I once saw on the Internet: If a friend who has not been in contact for many years will suddenly contact you and ask about your well-being, then you should pay attention. He may either borrow money from you or ask you for money.
When I first saw this sentence, I smiled knowingly and treated it as a small joke.
But later I gradually realized that this is the reality.
I believe that many people have encountered such a situation in their lives. A friend who has not been in contact for many years suddenly sent you a good news. In most cases, it is marriage and you are asking you to have a wedding banquet at that time.
At this time, are you going or not? If you don’t go, if someone invites you, you may feel a little confused, but if you go, you will feel a little confused.
In the words of a friend of mine, " If I get married in the future, I will definitely not invite those friends who have not been in contact for many years. I am embarrassed."
But at the same time, there must be many people with a happier relationship. After all, who will not be able to get along with the money?
Say something realistic. At this time, the other party will look for you, just to give you money, but it is not a friendship between friends or classmates. If there is really this friendship, everyone will not say that they have not been in contact for many years.
In fact, when you say this, have you just opened up a little bit: Anyway, you haven’t contacted you before, and if you don’t contact you in the future, it will not affect your life at all. So you can do whatever you want, and you don’t have to think too much.
A of my high school roommates has always had a good relationship. When she first graduated from college, she complained about such a thing to me. She had a junior high school classmate who had a good time at that time, but after graduating from junior high school, she basically never contacted her because she was not in a high school. Including when her classmate sent her an electronic wedding invitation, she still asked for the contact information she asked for.
She, a classmate, invited her to have a wedding banquet.
She was thin-skinned and couldn't help but refuse, but this classmate held a banquet in her hometown and she couldn't go back to work in another place, so she transferred 500 yuan and said a blessing.
result, guess what?
She, a classmate, took the money, but she didn't reply to a word on WeChat, as if she didn't see her blessing. She either insisted on the other party to say something, or felt that this completely ignored it made her feel very uncomfortable, even if she just replied with an expression.
Later, they still didn't say anything. After almost half a year, she found that this classmate had deleted herself.
She was angry and sad at the time, but in the end she could only comfort herself: just treats it as 500 yuan, and see someone clearly. After
, she learned her lesson. If a friend who hasn't seen her for many years sent her a marriage message, she would send a blessing message openly, just pretending to be stupid.
Since using this method, she feels that every time she encounters such a thing, she has improved a lot.
02. Colleagues whose relationship cannot be fixed;
What is colleagues whose relationship cannot be fixed?
Simply put, you don’t have a definite answer to the time you work here, that is, you are not satisfied with the status quo and may leave at any time.
At this time, your relationship with your colleagues will definitely not be fixed - you are colleagues today, but you may not be the case tomorrow or the day after tomorrow.
or this time can be extended, but in short, in the long run, you know that you will not stay here forever.
You don’t have to follow the money at this time, especially if your financial ability is not very abundant, there is really no need to slap the person with a fat face. It is better to consider the actual situation of your personal situation.
Colleague relationships, no matter how good you usually seem to have, they are actually limited to the scope of the company. Once you leave the company, you may be completely strangers. Today you are laughing and telling stories. If you leave tomorrow, you will never say a word, and the contact information will be covered with dust, which is not an exaggeration at all.
Before, I had a good relationship with another girl in our office in a company. She went out to have dinner together every day. Later, she got married and said that she was from another place and could not find a bridesmaid here, so she wanted me to be her bridesmaid.
I went there and gave me some money.
Do I still have contact with her now? I was already in a state where WeChat deleted each other. Later, everyone went to work in another company and stopped chatting after leaving.
03. Look down on your relatives and friends;
Some people live in this world and regard other people's opinions as more important than their own emotions - they will do a lot of unhappy things to make others look down on themselves.
In fact, the real principle of getting along is: The more you dare to be yourself, the more others will respect you.
So, if someone has done something that hurts you, no matter whether the person takes it seriously or not, as long as you take it seriously, then you can do things according to your own wishes.
Last year, a friend told me that one of her college roommates was getting married and she was struggling with whether to give money to the shares, because all the other roommates gave it to her. She felt that if she didn't give it to her, would she be discussed by everyone?
There is a reason why she doesn't want to give it away because she has a big opinion on that roommate.
Her family is not in good condition, and the university tuition is all student loans. In addition, she often works part-time jobs everywhere. That roommate often uses these to tease her, and even says that she is the richest one in the dormitory, etc., other roommates won’t do this. Based on her intuition, she felt that the roommate looked down on her, so she basically did not take the initiative to interact with her in college.
There is nothing to worry about. For those who look down on you, no matter friends or relatives, you don’t need to spend this in vain. Anyway, if you spend it, people won’t look down on you because of it. Why bother yourself? It wouldn't be nice to keep the money yourself.
People live for a lifetime, and being happy is the most important thing.
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