Zhuangzi said: "Be alone with the spirit of heaven and earth, not be arrogant to all things, not condemn right and wrong, and be in harmony with the world."
We are accustomed to associate being alone with "nobleness", and think that being alone is the most important thing. A person's happiness is a rare and precious spirit.
But how to be alone, few people study "the method".
"Laozi" writes: "If you are cautious from beginning to end, you will never fail."
If a person can be cautious from beginning to end, then there will be no failure.
suggests that you take good care of every part of your body, grasp every aspect of your life, and eventually become a winner in life.
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First, keep your "original intention": to help others, regardless of reward.
What is the original intention is - "Don't do evil because it is small, and don't do good because it is small."
Kindness is human nature. If you lose it, you will be confused. Doing something bad once can add a scar to your life.
There is such a historical story: King Wen of Zhou sent people to dig a pond. Workers found some human bones in the pond.
The workers said: "No one is taking care of these bones, just throw them into the suburbs."
King Wen of Zhou said: "No, they need to be reburied. I am the steward of the whole world, how can I say 'no one is taking care of'?" "
King Wen of Zhou's words spread from one to ten, and to all the people in the world. Everyone praised him : " King Wen is so virtuous. How much more beautiful than human beings?"
No one supervised King Wen of Zhou, but he took the initiative to assume the responsibility of the people of the world and did not treat any kind of kindness Lost it, so he won the world.
Don't worry about whether there is any reward. If you persist in doing good deeds and accumulating virtue, all good things will happen naturally.
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Second, keep your “hands and feet”: abide by the rules and exercise self-restraint.
It is written in "The Conduct of a Gentleman": "The melon field does not accept shoes, and the plum blossoms do not hold the crown."
It seems that when we are under the melon fields and plum trees, we must take good care of our hands and feet, and do not collect or bend down. Be careful with your feet, don't kick things on the ground.
In the "Wenzhou Evening News", there is such a news: Ms. Zhang, who lives in Xincheng, Lucheng District, parked her car on Xinyuan Road and then went to do errands.
When she returned to the car, she found a note on the wiper , which said: "Sorry, I accidentally wiped your car. Because I couldn't find your contact information, and I have something urgent. , and left. If there is any cost issue, please contact me."
Later, we contacted Mr. Chen who left the note. He accepted all responsibilities with great joy.
There is a way, no rules, no rules.
But you have to think carefully about how to enforce the rules? We cannot rely 100% on institutional and legal constraints, but should rely more on conscious actions.
We all have hands and feet, but we can’t just use our hands and feet to make money, or even do pickpocketing, but we must control our hands and feet to do something and not do something.
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Third, keep your "eyes" safe: discover beauty, read and write.
The ancients said: "There is beauty like jade in books."
When we read, we are actually looking for the beautiful side in books, and at the same time, we bring ourselves temperament and a smile.
If someone scolds you a few words and glares at you hard, and you can still smile back, it shows that you have a big picture and have really used your eyes.
For example, in the forest, an eagle caught a rabbit. Some people say that eagles are too cruel, too hateful, and too unloving. Some people say that the eagle has finally grown up and learned survival skills, the law of the jungle , and it has really come into play.
The same thing, some people hate it and some people like it. It's not that the things themselves have changed too much, but that the perspective of looking at the problem is different.
Why do some people go to scenic spots and complain about too many people, while others enjoy it endlessly? That is to say, the function of the eyes is different and the mentality is different.
read an anecdote.
Literary writer Wilde When he went to a flower shop, he found that the flowers in the window were too crowded, so he asked the shopkeeper for a few flowers, and then said: "They are too crowded, I want to make them relax."
A poetic and picturesque sentence The words made the shop owner readily accept the suggestion and also reminded the power of wisdom.
You always see dirty things in your eyes because you are not smart enough. If you have a discerning eye, you can always discern the scenery with a keen eye.
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Fourth, keep your "ears and mouth": talk to others without exposing their shortcomings.
There is such a story in Lu Shi Chun Qiu : A disciple came back from afar and came to visit Confucius immediately.
Confucius asked: "Is your grandfather still alive?"
Then asked: "How are your parents? How are your brothers and sisters? How are your lover and children?"
Confucius took the initiative to ask questions and asked his disciples I feel cared for and can take this opportunity to talk about it.
"Every family has a hard-to-recite scripture", but we are afraid of being spread rumors, so we will not talk about it easily to outsiders. Only noble people deserve our trust when talking about family matters.
The mouth is used for greetings and blessings, not for scolding, blaming, sarcasm, and insinuations. At the same time, ears are used to listen to music and good conversations, and there is no need to "have ears through walls."
There is a saying that "the most important thing in self-cultivation is to have a pure heart, and the first thing to do in dealing with the world is to be careful with your words."
Watch your mouth, and if you have nothing to say, keep silent. If you don’t know how to talk, learn to listen.
Everyone has shortcomings, but we should not care about them and stick to this approach - sit quietly and think about your own mistakes, and don't talk about others' faults in small talk.
Master the standards of language, and your connections will be successful. You can successfully work with anyone.
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In this life, learn to be cautious about being alone, and you will win.
What is win? What is losing? It really cannot be measured by money and status, but should be reflected by spirit and mentality.
An ordinary person with dedication is more successful than a rich man who is only interested in profit. For example, Bai Fangli , an old man who helped poor students realize their dreams by riding a tricycle; Mr. Lu Xun, who picked up a pen and awakened the world with words.
People are doing it, God is watching. Don't deceive yourself and others about anything, do good deeds all your life, and do not deceive others.
The world is big and there are many people, but the only person who can make you successful is "you".
Author: Commoner.
Pay attention to my words and enter your heart.
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